okay i am 19 female. the man i am currently with is 32 but he looks and acts like a 25 yr old. i care about him alot but every1 is telling me he is useing me because i have no kids and i can leave without responcibilitys (cant spell) he tells me all the time he dosnt want to hurt me. and i no he is still in love with his ex and now there accually talking agian and im worried. i care about him alot and he says he is just "used goods" to her. i just dont no what to do i was planning on getting an apartment with him and everything but now im scared. we have sop much in common we both are startrek geeks and we listen to the same music and he makes me happy and he claims i make him happy.
2006-10-18 06:15:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If what you are saying is true then I would hit the high road out of there right now. I would have Scotty beam me up immediately :)
2006-10-18 06:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is you're a rebound chick. Why wouldn't he want to hook up with a younger chick right now. If he even thinks about his ex you need to move on. You're supposed to be teh one and only. Definitely don't get an apartment with him. that would be the worst move of them all.
When it's right you'll know it's right. You'll have no doubts. Move on, hang out with your friends, and if he comes crawling back to you and pours his heart out then you can give it another chance and see if anythign has changed, but don't make it a game.
2006-10-18 13:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Answers Nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need some space for a while. During this time call him 3 times a week and see if he is back together with his ex. If he is then you will know if he was just using you. If he isn't then you know that is isn't using you and that he really loves you. Ignore the people that are telling you that he is using you!
2006-10-18 13:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning your feelings for him, don't take any big steps like moving in together, just yet. You need to be 100% sure that you want to be with him. If you are uncertain of some things, talk to him and tell him how you feel. It could be the age difference too. Maybe you should just take some time for yourself and try to figure things out.
2006-10-18 13:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do so much better than that, you a young girl still have a long life ahead of you.and you do not need that old baggie.I feel that he did never stop talking to his women,he just want a Flin with a you girl, sorry but he using you.
2006-10-18 13:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the broom. There's more to a relationship than Star Trek and music. You have your whole life ahead of you and a laundrylist of men without baggage willing to take you out and show you a great time. LIVE LIFE !!!!
2006-10-18 13:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by gdf888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's 32 and acting 25, he's immature... MOVE ON! there are plenty of nice guys out there. you are only 19... go experience more and then make a decision on who you want to be with... or not...
2006-10-18 13:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by jeep_man129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him, he is obviously still seeing his ex. Besides you are only 19 why would you want to settle down now. I'm 25 and dating, and I'm in no hurry to settle down. Majority of my friends are married and most of our conversations are about how mad they are at their spouses, who wants to live like that.
2006-10-18 13:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think you should leave especially if he is still talking to his ex that means that there might still be something betewn them and it will only serve to hurt you in the end. Good luck and god bless.
2006-10-18 13:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a serious talk to him about your worries, maybe you don't need to ... Communication is everything in a relationship
2006-10-18 13:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by s s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋