My gf and I have been together for over 16 months and I know that I love her. However there are times she just I am not sure how to say it but for lack of gentlier words she aggrivatews me to know end. It doesn't make me love her less but during these times i just need time to myself. Is there something wrong with me I mean am I a horrible bf or what. I mean she always makes me feel great and I love being with her but she does have some bad habits lol at east that is what i call it. oh yeah and she yells alot without realizing it. The worst thing she does is if we get in a fight she will yell and scream and chew me out but if i raise my voice at her she tells me that she will not listen to anyone yelling at her because they have no right to yell at her. What is with that? Imean if i can't yell why does she. Anyway I don't suppse it is any big deal but it gets to me sometimes. i guess I am just needing to see how bad of a guy I really aam? so girls if you can help me please do.
2006-10-18 06:13:43 · 10 answers · asked by shycountryboy85 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is a great gf in fact she is the best. I could not find a better girl in a lifetime
2006-10-18 06:22:36 · update #1
Well first off no one is perfect. Everyone has their mistakes and hers maybe that she just doesn't know when she's hollering. Check her background it may be in her genes! I know she cares about you and she knows that she's not the best in the world because she aggrivates you so but either live with it or get her to understand when she is hollering and when she is not. You are not a bad guy. Give it time.
2006-10-18 09:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by cowgirl16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm... sounds like you are extremely patient. She is blessed to have you.
Sit down and talk to her about this, tell her straight up, and ask her to try and be a bit more patient with you and empathetic towards you and your feelings. Point out the double standard, but do try to be nice about it (though from what it sounds like, you will have no trouble with that).
If she doesn't listen, you may have to take a step back from your feelings and realize that she's not as great as you think. Don't let your feelings blind you. She sounds a bit irreconcilable, and that is very BAD for relationships. Don't go blaming yourself for this, it doesn't sound like it's your fault. On the contrary, it sounds like you are doing a great job, and she doesn't appreciate it.
Don't let her push you around and make you feel like you are a bad guy! Grow a spine and stand up for yourself, but do it in love, let her know you love her, but that love doesn't mean letting her walk all over you. If she loves you, in truth, she will see this if you explain it to her. But do be patient, change takes time, and it may take her a while. But if she doesn't come around and recognize the problem, it might be time to find a new girlfriend.
2006-10-18 06:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by The Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't make you bad. Take a break. That is better than making a big mistake, like getting married, while having these problems. Talk to her about the things that bug you.
2006-10-18 06:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not a bad b\f. i promise. every couple has a few differences. get used to it. there's nothing wrong with you. everyone has these moments where they need alone time without their "other half" so to speak. everyone gets a little aggrivated with someone sometimes. just ask to be alone for a little while, then things will get better.
2006-10-18 06:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by troublemaker_4_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she starts to yell tell her you do not listen to anyone yelling at you because they have no right to yell at you. If she can dish it out she can take it too.
2006-10-18 06:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a bad girlfriend! If she has "rules" for you to follow she should abide by them too. It's not your fault you get irritated with your neurotic girlfriend.
2006-10-18 06:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heh..u knw, if my bf ws sayin dat id laugh so hard! every relationship has its ups nd downs..nd nobodys perfect oh nd she seems to be a very sweet girl! anyways..good luck.. nd ders nthn wrong in u nd her..lol
2006-10-18 06:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and she loves you, then why don't you tell her how you feel.But please don't tell her this when she's off mood cause she won't understand. I think there should be some compromise in a relationship.
2006-10-18 06:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by wenda1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gf sounds immature... ... you aren't a bad bf ....she just need to grow up with that dumb attitude it;s ok for her and not you thing...**** that! Tell her to knock that crap off or you are walking ...and you'll find someone who appreciated you.
2006-10-18 06:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jill c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her, accept the way she is, nobody is perfect
2006-10-18 06:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋