My fiance is very jeaulous and over protective, what should i do?

Question

HE DOESN'T TRUST ME. HE ACCUSES ME OF THINGS ALL THE TIME. HE WATCHES OVER ME TO MUCH.

Answer 1

Those are all signs of a potential abuser. Talk to him abuot your concerns and if he doesnt change his ways, by no means should you get married. A marriage is about equality, not one over the other. And dont think he will stop doing it if you were to get married.

Love is about trust. Not jealousy, not pettiness, not anger. No, you wont always have rosy days, but there should be some element of respect and true love.

Answer 2

Just playing the devil's advocate here. You didn't say that he was accusing you of things that you didn't do, just that he was accusing you. Are you doing those things? Have you given him reason not to trust you? Are there things that you would be doing if you thought you could get away with it, like flirting a lot or even seeing other guys on the side? If this is so, then you need to break it off...you are not ready for a committed relationship.
I agree with the others, he sounds like an abuser in training and it will never get any better, just worse.
So the advice is END IT NOW, while you still can! If he makes threats or actually gets physical, get a restraining order. If that doesn't curb his behaviour, MOVE! out of town, out of state, whatever it takes and don't let anybody you don't trust not to tell him where you are know where you went.

Answer 3

RUN!! This will only get worse and it is a red flag that something else could be a problem. Maybe he feels guilty about something that he has done or maybe he is just over bearing and possessive. Either way, either he needs to get some counseling and get over this, or you need to get away. These are the kind of people who will stalk you once it is over, so be careful!

By the way, this is a form of abuse and control. Do a search on mental abuse. I am sure you will find plenty of info on exactly what he is doing.

Answer 4

You should not get married if that is the case because if he is like this right now he will be worse. You need to tell him that marriage is about trust If he doesn't got that then he is not truly committed to taking marriage seriously. I just got married August 26, 2006 and went on our honeymoon together down to Mexico coast line on a Cruise ship. I love my wife to death and trust her with everything I got. Did I mention I am disabled? You can check out mine and my wife's wedding photos on my 360 page also the honey moon here is the link?

Answer 5

GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!!!!

This relationship can only go from bad to worse. It is nearly 110% probable that he will not ever change for the better...but more likely for the worse. And, by that time, you could possibly have young children and how can you be positive that he would not be physically or emotionally or mentally and verbally abusive to them. Do you want to be responsible for ruining their little lives???
I would say, get away from him, and if he wants to change, and really wants you back, he will change the things that made you leave him.
But, while this is all going on....watch your back, as some boyfriends when rejected are known to start stalking and possibly causing physical harm to the girl who left them. Don't just take it for granted that he is not that type. Watch yourself.

Answer 6

Get out now. This is the kind of man that turns into an abusive husband or father. He is probably the bad boy type ain't he. He likes to think he is a bad as*. Leave him now before he hits you. Jeaulousy and over protective are the first signs of an abusive husband and alot of cheaters act this way too.

Answer 7

hmm.... marriage is supposed to be something u are completely Sure of...that this is the man for you! who's gonna be the best u can find, to take care of u, to be your husband, that u want to be the best wife for, etc etc... it should be something Awesome that u look forward to spending the rest of ur life cuz u TRUST him.

if for Any reason u are unsure, get some marriage counseling or Talk to him First...because, as ur husband, u need to love and trust each other, that u want the best for each other. if he doesn't trust u now, how can he trust u After the wedding? marriage is more than a ceremony and piece of paper.... good luck

Answer 8

the truth is u need to know how he truly feels about you. and if u know him well enough u will decide if he has self esteem issues. if he does, all u need to do is reassure him of ur love for him let him know that other guys can window shop but they cant buy cos he "bought" u 1st. if he tends to be abusive then i would advice u to leave him, as hard a decision as that might be.
the important thing is stay true to urslf and ur heart.
all the best. wish u luck in any decision u make.

Answer 9

Dump Him.

He's not going to change.
He is insecure and probably tries makes you feel guilty and at-fault for many other things too. You will never get any rest, while having to constanly prove your faithfulness and worthiness to him. Inwardly he is weak.

"knight35966" (above) is right. His actions are indicative of an abuser and/or cheater.

You should ask yourself, "Is this the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?"

In an earlier question on Yahoo, you ask...

"What should you do if you are in a relationship and you love the person but you are not happy?"

What does that tell you???

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Answer 10

Why on earth would you subject yourself to being attached to such a negative energy??? What makes him not have trust in you...take a look at the both of you. I don't think it is a good idea to combine 2 untrusting souls. Remember after the wedding is over the reality begins...controlling now--MUCH MORE CONTROLLING LATER. Peace to you.