my sister won't ever sit still long enough for my mom or me to brush her hair. she's all the time bouncing off the walls. she get so mean sometimes too... she hits, pinches, punches, throws things, kicks, or whatever she can do to hurt people. she also calls me a bastard all the time... any dicipline tips i can give my mom??
2006-10-18 05:53:13 · 13 answers · asked by Cheyenne W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well my mom used to knock me in the head with the hard side of the brush while pulling my hair to get me to sit still. You should try it. If she cries then do it again. I learned my lesson. I know it sounds like torture but imagine the crap she's putting you through every morning. Good luck.
2006-10-18 06:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jessi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not sure how old you are, but if you are still living under your parent's roof, I don't think it is a good idea for you to be telling your mom how to raise your little sister, or advice.
( just may make things worse) But with that being said, your mom needs to remember that she is the parent, wether single or with your dad, she needs to set rules for her children. This type of behaviour isn't acceptable and only raising a spoiled adult who will never keep a job and loose all self respect.
Setting boundaries is a good thing because enabling this kind of behaviour from anyone is unacceptable.
You, do not have to take name calling and should tell your sister how disrespectful it is and until she can learn to respect you, you will not help her anymore with things.
Such as brushing her hair.
Time outs takes care of this behaviour, but you need to stick with it and no giving in when the child trashes her room, or tries to get out. My twin daughters would actually pee thier pants in order to go to the bathroom so they would get out of time outs... so the time out was in the bathroom. ( on the potty before the time out started,) They soon learned that they didn't have the upper hand.
The "experts" say time outs should last for as long as thier age is... five minutes seems like a life time to a five year old, but a rule that I stuck to, was that the minute they were quite that's when the time out began, and restarted the minute they were acting out again...so in other words if they go in the room noisy and freaking out, let them, when they are quiet, the time can begin to count down...
My six year old cries when I brush her long curly hair, but I use my voice to sooth her... after it is done, I have always huged her and wiped her tears since she was a baby, and she has grown to expect a cuddle after, she knows I am not hurting her on purpose and soon forgets the pain after everything is said and done.
It sounds like your sister needs and is craving attention and negative attention is better than none at all, but a true assessment of the situation cannot be determined without knowing the background of your family, so these are some suggestions, hope it helps.
God Bless,
Shannon,
No child is ever to old for hugs, and no one can have enough of em.
2006-10-18 13:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1ST of how old is she? Do you have time to take her away for a week? Take her to the woods and don't let her do anything. Don't let her eat. Don't let her drink anything. Give her food and water only when she behaves the rest of the time make her work. Make her catch your supper. Make her cut wood with an ax. Make her wash all of her clothes by hand. Only let her bring 1 change of clothes. Make her do everthing there. You just suppervise her. No entertainment at all. Make her get up at sunrise and she don't go to bed till after sunset. No phone, tv, music, books, anything. Find things for her to do to keep busy. If the owner of the cabin agrees have her even do work on the cabbin. What this will do is teach her how to put her energies tto us to do work. If she starts to get violent then handcuff her to a pole. This may seem extreem but if she is doing things like this now then in a few more years she will be in jail or juvie. This is the only chance you will have to save her from destroying her life. Your mother has probably been lack on diciplaning her or you have been doing the no whoping thing. If she is realy young just start bending her over your knee and wipping her when she get violent.
2006-10-18 13:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by knight35966 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to hurt your feelings but your little sister resents you for sins you may or may not have committed. I suspect that bad feelings were generated unwittingly by parents in one of several ways. constant comparisons - for example, 'Why can't you be as neat as your sister?' or 'Look, see how sweet your sister is?'
I observed a case recently where a parent humiliated a young girl in public by saying in a very loud voice, 'See, even your little brother doesn't make a mess when he eats.' Through no fault of his own, this little boy ended up on his sister's 'hate list'.
I suspect that something similar has happened in your household and the only remedy is for your parents to try to make amends by making her feel special. I personally think it's unfair to compare siblings. In fact, if people can't resist the urge to compare, they should have only one kid.
2006-10-18 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom to take away something your little sis adores. if that doesn't work tell your mom to hit her with the belt or a shoe and surley she will learn her lesson. or just do what the girl told you just hit her with the wooded side of the brush on her head or hands and tell her to sit still!!
2006-10-18 13:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by YαYα Cαяяiℓℓo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your sister might have a disorder that when it's loud in your house, even when it's not loud for you it's loud for her. She gets hyperactive and can't control herself. If I was your mother I would have checked this out when it started, your sister probably can't help the way she is and she needs your family support.
2006-10-18 13:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your sister needs to see a Christian councelor. Obviously something is wrong and she is getting it our by being mean to everyone.
2006-10-18 15:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is this child sayin stuff like that tll her off naughty step stool ignore her if she does it walk away from her
2006-10-18 13:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if kids act that way, the parents did something wrong, so your mom should get professional help
2006-10-18 13:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Katja 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoop her butt nobody should let their children hit them like that this is when you take it into your hands
2006-10-18 15:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋