I've been friends w/ this guy for almost a year now. Back in Feb. he found out that his former ex was pregnant w/ his child. In August we began seeing each other. We've been hanging out a lot, sometimes even w/ his family. We act like boyfriend-girlfriend for the most part, but he doesn't want it to be official because according to him, his ex will flip out and not let him see his baby if he sees other women (even though they're no longer together). She's having the baby tomorrow.
My sister says that she doesn't buy it, but I tend to believe him.
What's probably really going on? Is it just a story? Should I wait it out?
2006-10-18 05:47:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello Honey,
Well... I may agree with your sister, thou she's just listening to your story, instead of he's story..
Nevertheless, since he had already voice out about he's baby, i still couldn't figure out why are you still hanging out with such a man..
I'm not saying that he's not good man, but the least is the problem will not end here.. As he may turn back to her later, when he misses he's kid..
Hope that you see the whole picture, instead of just looking at what he is right now...
2006-10-18 11:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's true. Of course, nothing is set in stone at the moment- just like the article notes, the technology is a long way off (just the fact that the artificial-sperm-created baby mice all died prematurely ain't a good sign). But I still think it's wondrously amazing. I have to laugh, too, at all the controversy this is stirring up. Now, I'd be completely fine with people who were outraged at the idea of messing with a biologically natural process, who were scared of what sort of genetic problems this could cause in the future- but that's not what they're worried about. What are they worried about? That's right- men not being necessary anymore. Are you kidding me? What sort of viewpoint must guys- and obviously some women- have of men in order to make that statement true? Apparently guys are nothing more than sperm machines and baby-makers, and if we could get pregnant without them, they'd be utterly without use. That's not the way I feel! I love the men in my live and the wonderful things they do, and I would never be able to live in a female-only world. Most of the lesbians I know feel exactly the same, and straight and bisexual women of course love men. Do we complain about them? Certainly. Wish they would change sometimes? Of course. But the idea of men becoming obsolete because of this is ridiculous. This isn't about replacing men, it's about allowing two people who love one another to finally be able to create life from their two bodies, rather than having to rely on a third. I think it's the most brilliant and beautiful thing I've ever heard of.
2016-05-21 23:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can kind of believe him, because I do know that some women use their children to manipulate the men. It sounds like he wants to be with you, but is trying to make sure he has a relationship with his child as well. His child is going to come first, regardless of who he is with. So now, you just have to decide if you want to be with someone with baby momma drama, because that is definitely where this is headed. And it can be miserable. Also, for those of you that are saying the law can help him, though this is true, it can still be very difficult. I have a friend who has visitation rights through the court for his child; however, his ex still makes it very hard for him to see the child. The fact of the matter is, when it comes to children, and the legal system, men often do get the short end of the stick. Sometimes they deserve it, and sometimes they don't. Either way, it does happen.
2006-10-18 05:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should leave him. He sounds like he still has some feelings for his ex, but he may not have feelings for her to just talk to him and ask him if he has feelings for her. The truth will come out eventually. Oh and also if you see any signs that he is cheating on you with her then I would leave him. If you don't see any signs then say with him and see what happenes. and she has to let him see his baby he has the right. Wait it out and just look for signs. Good Luck!
2006-10-18 05:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you know him better than anyone, but if he wanted to see the baby she cant stop him they are laws that respects that. Tell him that she cant stop he from seeing the baby and that you would like to move on in the relationship and if still says no then girl I would find some one else to love you back.
2006-10-18 05:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's BS he is still with his soon to be baby's mother and feeding you the crap. If he really wants to be with you then he would and just take that chic to court to make it official that he has legal custody of his kid and has full visiting rights.
But if you still want to mess around with him, then do you and make sure you keep your options open. Don't let him hold you back! Beside its only been a year, is he really worth it?? His bagage and all???
2006-10-18 05:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by PurSway 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an excuse to me. If he really wanted to be with you he would be. The ex cant by law keep the baby away from him.
2006-10-18 05:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing with you. He has something going on with the ex still. That is a way over used excuse that she wont let him see the baby. Please be smart and see through this guys lie.
2006-10-18 05:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really love this guy enough to deal with his baby mama drama? Because she will make your life hell and they will be in and out of court for the next 18 years.
2006-10-18 05:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find somebody else. this guy is still hung up on his ex
2006-10-18 05:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋