on one hand i think that if both are over 20 and willing its nobodies business, but on the other hand its wierd if the person your dating is the same age as a family member and u start to think about that. I guess im asking what is the socially acceptable difference?
2006-10-18 05:32:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
20+ is too much.
2006-10-18 05:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by b97st 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Different people care about age difference more or less than others. Some get all weird about a few years difference, others don't care about a few decades. But all that is just subjective social idiosyncrasies that have more to do with peoples comfort zones and less to do with what actually works and doesn't.
Age difference doesn't really matter much, but a persons actual age, and more than that, their mental age, is what matters more. So I agree, if they are over 20, or even over 18, and they have the maturity to handle it, and one partner isn't taking advantage of the other, and their aren't any other problems holding things up... then age difference doesn't matter too much. But both people should be aware of the age difference, and any concequences it could bring before they jump head-first into a relationship.
2006-10-18 05:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by The Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's true that 'age is just a number' when it comes to a 'significant other' the age gap presents more of a problem the older you get. I recommend dating within your own peer group. No matter what anyone else tells you--the older person has the advantage of having had more life experiences and therefore is usually a heck of alot smarter. So...if the other person turns out to be a person of bad character fooling their younger mate would not be that difficult. Just because it's legal to date someone 10 years or older than you--doesn't mean it's a good idea. Please consider what it might be like 'down the road.' Say--when you a 'spry 50 something year old' and your mate is 70 something and facing many limitations that you can't relate to. Good luck in making the right choices for you.
2006-10-18 05:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if a guy was 30 and the girl was 16, that wouldn't be right. I agree with you, if someone is over 20 then I say go for it. Even though the thought of a 20 year old and a 50 year old sounds gross, I believe everyone deserves to be happy. I would just say that if you are younger then 18 and dont date anyone older then you by about 3 or 4 years. It could cause trouble later.
hope that helps.
2006-10-18 05:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard the acceptable age gap was 15 years. Unless you're a movie star or something. I'm currently dating a girl 10 years younger than me, I'm 34 and she's 24. But I have girls 20 calling me too, I tend to stay away from them though, but it seems like 10 years is average now. It depends on how old you are, the older you get, the larger the allowable age gap can be. But then again, if you're in love does it really matter? If you can get past the honeymoon stage...
2006-10-18 06:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by KidBao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right . It is nobodies business but yours. As long as you aren't getting grief from family, go with it. It's your life and live it that way. I would stop to consider opinions of your older siblings and especially your parents. All you said was over 20. If you are close to 20, their insight is worth a lot. I am 41. To look back at all the bad decisions that I made, even when I was older, I wish that I would have listened.But again, DON"T WORRY about how it looks. It is all perception.
2006-10-18 05:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.
2006-10-19 05:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy-N-Luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 6 years older than me at first I thought ooh this is weird he's so much older people are going to think I am a gold digger or something. However, when you get right down to it does that person make you happy? If the answer is yes then age shouldn't matter.
2006-10-18 05:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really like this person?If so then dont worry about anyone
elses thoughtsIf you are happy thats what matters the most.Of
course I agree that the younger party should be at least 20.
2006-10-18 05:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by seen_it_b4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what I am dating a guy which is 20 years older then me. I have never had sex with him. Lately I think he might be thinking someone else.
2006-10-18 05:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has dated guys 30 years younger and loved them. She has a thing for young guys.
2006-10-18 10:13:18 · answer #11 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋