how do i give a bj?, are there books or a site?

Question

my bf wants one and i am scared and dont know what to do, i am old enough but have never done it, where can i find techniques?

blimey baby gurl, that was one hell of an answer, thank you...i am scared still but kinda lookin forward, what does it taste like?

Answer 1

1. Initiate. You're already "a head" of the game if you make the first move. Don't always wait for him to ask, or worse, try to push your head down there. (In fact, if he does that, slap his hand away and firmly inform him your ears are not a steering wheel.)

2. Start slowly. Don't act like you've been starving on a desert island for weeks and a big juicy sausage suddenly washes ashore. (Did you catch that scene in Cast Away?) Lick the glans (head), lick the frenulum (the strip of skin beneath the glans on the underside), lick the testes (balls), lick the inner thighs (inner thighs). Take your time, breathe and be a tease.

4. Your kisser. Some people prefer lips tight over the teeth, others like lips looser and softer against the shaft. Either way, no need to become a high-powered vacuum cleaner. Your sucking function should be on "off," "low" or "medium." And don't forget to make the most of your tongue!

3. Saliva. And lots of it. Don't be afraid to get wet and messy — it's more fun for everyone that way, not to mention easier. [Bear says: eiiiwwww. Slippery is good, sloppy is not. Unless you make it part of the fun ]

4. Hands. It's not cheating to give yourself a helping hand or two. There's no need to deep throat all the time — if at all — if you use your hand as an extension of your mouth. If you want to get tricky, follow the motion of your mouth with your hand upwards and when you get to the top, slide your index finger over one side and then go back down (so his ding-dong is between your index and middle fingers) with your mouth immediately following. Repeat as necessary. For even more advanced play, try twisting both your hand and head as you go up and down — we're not talking Indian burns here, just a gentle shifting from left to right on the way down, and then back again on the way up.

5. Bonuses. During the BJ, try tickling his balls, gently pushing on the perineum (the area between the balls and the anus, a.k.a. the "taint"), inserting a finger — sans long fingernail — up his bum a bit, or even rubbing his tummy. We think you'll get real bonus points if you can occasionally make eye contact (although, according to one editor here, "that's creepy!"). So just go with the flow.

6. Step on the gas. Gradually speed up until you've reached a comfortable rhythm that both you and he like. At this point, it's okay to treat him like that desert island sausage. When all verbal and physical signs from him suggest that the cliff's edge is fast approaching, don't slow down and don't make any drastic changes in motion. Keep going, you're doing great, and soon you'll get to . . .

7. The Big O. The grand finale is completely up to you. Whether you spit, swallow or finish him off with your hand, it's still a ********. If you opt for a re-enactment of Old Faithful, just be sure to have him warn you just before he's gonna blow. In fact, even if you plan on getting a protein blast, it's still nice to know when it's about to be served.

8. Stop. Once he comes, slow it down and/or stop — in our experience, it hurts if you don't (though some readers have said that post-O play is the best part).

Above all else, do it with love. Giving him pleasure will give you pleasure. And knowing you're getting pleasure will give him even more pleasure. And then everyone will be pleased. Now, go blow him away!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I agree totally with Baby Gurl, she has the best definition and description I`ve seen to date. I`ve had the opportunity to experience a number of truly talented young women who must have studied the same tech`s Baby Gurl.
Good luck and enjoy, just try to relax and let it all happen slowly. A 9 position will help him focus on you and allow you to return the favor.
Hugs
Jim



1. Initiate. You're already "a head" of the game if you make the first move. Don't always wait for him to ask, or worse, try to push your head down there. (In fact, if he does that, slap his hand away and firmly inform him your ears are not a steering wheel.)

2. Start slowly. Don't act like you've been starving on a desert island for weeks and a big juicy sausage suddenly washes ashore. (Did you catch that scene in Cast Away?) Lick the glans (head), lick the frenulum (the strip of skin beneath the glans on the underside), lick the testes (balls), lick the inner thighs (inner thighs). Take your time, breathe and be a tease.

4. Your kisser. Some people prefer lips tight over the teeth, others like lips looser and softer against the shaft. Either way, no need to become a high-powered vacuum cleaner. Your sucking function should be on "off," "low" or "medium." And don't forget to make the most of your tongue!

3. Saliva. And lots of it. Don't be afraid to get wet and messy — it's more fun for everyone that way, not to mention easier. [Bear says: eiiiwwww. Slippery is good, sloppy is not. Unless you make it part of the fun ]

4. Hands. It's not cheating to give yourself a helping hand or two. There's no need to deep throat all the time — if at all — if you use your hand as an extension of your mouth. If you want to get tricky, follow the motion of your mouth with your hand upwards and when you get to the top, slide your index finger over one side and then go back down (so his ding-dong is between your index and middle fingers) with your mouth immediately following. Repeat as necessary. For even more advanced play, try twisting both your hand and head as you go up and down — we're not talking Indian burns here, just a gentle shifting from left to right on the way down, and then back again on the way up.

5. Bonuses. During the BJ, try tickling his balls, gently pushing on the perineum (the area between the balls and the anus, a.k.a. the "taint"), inserting a finger — sans long fingernail — up his bum a bit, or even rubbing his tummy. We think you'll get real bonus points if you can occasionally make eye contact (although, according to one editor here, "that's creepy!"). So just go with the flow.

6. Step on the gas. Gradually speed up until you've reached a comfortable rhythm that both you and he like. At this point, it's okay to treat him like that desert island sausage. When all verbal and physical signs from him suggest that the cliff's edge is fast approaching, don't slow down and don't make any drastic changes in motion. Keep going, you're doing great, and soon you'll get to . . .

7. The Big O. The grand finale is completely up to you. Whether you spit, swallow or finish him off with your hand, it's still a ********. If you opt for a re-enactment of Old Faithful, just be sure to have him warn you just before he's gonna blow. In fact, even if you plan on getting a protein blast, it's still nice to know when it's about to be served.

8. Stop. Once he comes, slow it down and/or stop — in our experience, it hurts if you don't (though some readers have said that post-O play is the best part).

Above all else, do it with love. Giving him pleasure will give you pleasure. And knowing you're getting pleasure will give him even more pleasure. And then everyone will be pleased. Now, go blow him away!

Source(s):

http://www.lair.org/library/sexuality/go...

Answer 4

Wow......persiphone must have worn out her fingers typing that one. About your question. I've heard some complaints about how Amazon has recently change their fees. Read the fine print. Ebay takes a percentage, and there is shipping cost which is usually paid by the buyer, and affects the final cost to the buyer, which may make your books less attractive to them.

Answer 5

I recommend books by Lou Paget (they are better than what the Karma Sutra can give you). She's a fmaous writer who writes about techniques people use which the people find effective. Enjoy.

Answer 6

techniques are different for everyone. first you have to be close enough to someone to tell them you have never done this before and ask them what they like, try licking the little bit of skin on the underneath of the penis, and also try wetting your finger and running it around the top of the shaft. also try wetting your lips and sucking. and move your mouth and head up and down the penis, make sure he can see what your doing try laying in between his legs with your head at his penis and tie your hair back, men are very visual. hope that helps xx

Answer 7

WAtch some porn movies. That is honestly the only way I can think of. It's not the sort of thing you find in your local reference library.

Answer 8

Why don't u ask him what or how he likes it?

My first time was a bit scary but after doing it he said I did him like a pro!! ha ha ha

I know is none of my biz. but is he willing to munch your carpet?

lol

Answer 9

honey..start by licking it all over like a lollypop...experiment with putting the head in your mouth and gently (no teeth) slide your mouth up and down while gently grabbing his balls...keep doing that and you will feel his c*ckhead get bigger and tighter before he rewards you with a mouthful of delicious semen

Answer 10

if you're not ready don't do it. but if you really want to now just google some techniques.