I´m been going out with this guy for a month or so, he´s really nice and he seems interesting, but somehow mostly because of prior bad experiences, I can´t stop the thought in mi mind that he only wants to play with me and that he´s eventually gonna break my heart, he´s not a player and he´s not a bad guy but I can´t stop thinking this, so what can I do to stop this because I´m afraid that because of what I think I may start acting in a way that scares him away or that I may reject him or dump him because of this thoughts. What can I do?
2006-10-18 05:27:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over your thoughts my soul was destroyed at a young age by those that should have been my friends and my heart has been broken by many girls since then. don't fear the trials in your life for it is the contrast between sorrow and joy that brings true happiness. if you always have joy you become desensitized to it in much the same way I have become desensitized to pain. my soul is no longer able to be destroyed and my heart has scars but it still works. because the things I have experienced have made me a better person. and I can understand the hearts and feelings of others. and don't judge some one before getting to fully know them, you never know the pain that is in their heart.
2006-10-18 18:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kuraimizu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spoil this relationship with a self full filling prophesy. Some guys are genuine and it sounds like you've been lucky enough to find one so be grateful for this gift. The past is gone and hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson from that bad experience. Everyone has a story to tell and most have a bad relationship behind them also. But to dwell in the past will indeed poison your current relationship eventually then you'll lose out again. So try and let sleeping dogs lay and move on with a happy life.
2006-10-18 05:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been burned before by someone you cared for and even loved its hard not to think that it will happen again.. The feelings you have are natural. The thing you need to remember is this new guy is NOT the one who hurt you. If you start getting irritable or jealous about things you should talk to him about it. If he cares enough he will understand why you are reacting the way you are. Be open and honest with him about your past. Remember there are still good guys out there.
2006-10-18 05:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get these thoughts out of your head. Of course anyone we are in a relationship with could possibly break our heart. But if you never take the chance to be happy with someone you'll be alone, which is worse? You are also in the position to sabotage the relationship you are currently in when this guy did nothing to deserve it. Everyone is different. You are only hurting yourself.
2006-10-18 05:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by AGNY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing that will keep you relationship strong and going COMMUNICATION!! everything you just wrote you need to say to him and let him know same as you did here why you feel that way and what you are afraid of. believe it or not once you get that out in the open you will feel a LOT better! Good Luck!
2006-10-18 05:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by A Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that this is a different person, one who hasn't hurt you. If you keep a wall up you will never be able to truly connect with someone else and that would be very sad. Remember anything worth having is worth taking the risk. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 05:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him, if he's not a bad guy you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. Let a couple walls down if he starts to hurt you then let him go he isn't worth your time. You have to trust in order to be trusted back, my advice you better figure it out and fast before you lose something you can't get back.
2006-10-18 05:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he is nice and interesting all guys are different what happened in the past let it go of course all guys want to play but it is up to you.... I say get to know him more and don't give it up just to keep him you already know what happens .....think positive sureilll
2006-10-18 05:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say what didn't make me die makes me stronger , i mean you had some bad experience before , we all had ups and downs we all had affairs we thought it would end to live happily ever after but it fails down so all you need to do is let it go , be cool , love him the way he loves you , forget about your past and start new and never think of dump him he might be the one
2006-10-18 05:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by mohamed f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think me and yu are in the same situation but my boyfriend now was the one who hurt me so im sacared he will hurt me again but I really love him..... I guess wat I have been doing is trying to look past all the hurt i mean its all gonna turn out how it has to just have fun with it.... but dont do like I did and worrie too much because that will push him away and get on his nerves I know we are hurt but somehow we gotta look past it all and hope that our heart chose wat was right for us
2006-10-18 05:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋