I am going to lose my job. My car broke down and I cannot afford to buy the part it needs to fix it. I don't know anyone who can drive me to work every day I need to go. Me and my husband cannot get along no matter how hard we try. I have prayed my heart out and nothing happens. My furnace in my house quit working and I cannot afford to fix that either and I live in Ohio where in the winter it gets so cold that you freeze to death. My grandma is dying of colon cancer. And now my mom probably has uterine cancer. So I just wanna know what I did to deserve this life. There are people living high who have no worries. So why is all the worry on me?? Please somebody enlighten me. Give me some inspiration please.
2006-10-18 05:20:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Maybe, while you are waiting for God, you need to do some active planning on your own. You need professional help to work these things out. Look around from some free counseling service. You have to find someone that a) you can vent to and b) can help you make a plan and kick your butt until you do it.
Good luck,
A
2006-10-18 05:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes life just sucks! I am sorry that you have to experiance so much 'bad' at one time in your life. Don't give up though, keep fighting.
Call your boss and explain your transportation problem. Try to find an alternate form of transportation to get you to and from work. A bus maybe...or a coworker that lives nearby.
As for you and your husband...sit him down and talk to him. Explain how you feel. Tell him you want to get along better. If it doesn't work out with him, then maybe he is not the one for you. Marital issues are common in every relationship, not just yours. Try to work through them with him. If he is willing to work with you then that is a great start...but you have to communicate.
The furnace deal...if you can't afford to fix the furnace then make friends with a nice, soft, comfy blanket. You should be okay through the winter. I live in Michigan so I know just how cold it can get. But you will live.
I am sorry to hear about your mom and grandma. Cancer is a terrible thing. But also this is not just you. Millions of people have been diagnosed with cancer. They do have treatments. But if it is their time to go, then there is nothing that can be done. I know how hard it is to lose people that are close to you...in '97 alone I went to 8 funerals, one of which being my Grandmother.
God doesn't hate you. Pray to him for strength to get through this difficult time in your life and continue to fight to make things better.
God Bless.
2006-10-18 12:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with GOD or prayer. People die every day from various afflictions or accidents, etc. People have car problems and home upkeep everywhere. Surely, someone you work with will give a ride to work temporarily. It appears that you are very religious. Have you asked your church for help? Prayer is nice from a psychological standpoint but sooner or later you must stop praying and start taking action. Everyone has worries. Even those who live"high". You want inspiration? GOD helps those who help themselves. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your computer and go out and make some money to pay for the car repairs and the furnace. For most of us a 9 to 5 doesn't get it done.
2006-10-18 12:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by drctrutops 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow..so you think your life is at the end of the rope? Well I've got news for you..the people that you love dearly are sick right...but they are still here with you..the things that are broken in your home, car ect. can be fixed..he blessed you with them..some people have not even owned their first car. Your husband is fustrated b/c you are fustrated..the relationship is being tested. Stand by each other during these difficult times and you'll come out together on TOP. When you lose a job it's just to make room for a better one..remember you can't see what's ahead so don't pit all your focus on the "right now" situations in your life..be blessed
2006-10-18 12:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all my prayers are with you, a car a job and heat can all be fixed with the help of the place that gives food stamps try there to get all that fixed,i live in Kentucky and we also use carsen heaters might want to look in the paper for them or go to the office, and for sickness say Alhamdullah( THANKS GOD) when ever anything happens good and bad always say that always i never did and now i do and you will notice a big diffrence in the way you feel,God has our life plained even befor we come, also you know the saying:God is not going to give us nothing we can't handle.Another thing is pray and don't over flowed your mind when it comes it comes like worrie about it over and over omg i did that and it made me crazy and in the long run it all worked out,And there is even worries with people living high maybe not our worries but others were human and we all worrie but we have to controle them, plez don't say why me no nope never cause we never get any where with why why why me just as i said say Alhamdullah(THANKS GOD) and pray and pray as i will have you in my prayers and thought keep your head up walk strong,take care be STRONG
2006-10-18 12:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by sun m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did God do what he did to Job? If you ask me, that's pretty messed up. I don't turn to God when I have problems because prayer is only intention, and intention only goes so far. Action is what will get you somewhere. Look for a job closer to home. Be close to your mom and grandmother and cherish the relationship. Whatever comes is going to come. Life is about surviving one day a time. Sometimes it just seems like one big test to see how much one person can take. I just take one step forward even if I have 20 things pushing me back. Look at what you can control and take control. If you're not getting a magical fix or guidance from God, maybe he's telling you to look to yourself and take some action. There are always things you can control. What makes you move forward in life is knowing what they are.
2006-10-18 12:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jesus didn't promise us a trouble-free life. In fact, He told us we would have trouble in John 16:33. In that same verse, though, He said to take courage, or be of good cheer; for He has overcome the world.
Trouble comes, and trouble goes. Eventually it does touch everyone. The good news is that trouble goes too. I can't tell you why trouble comes and why this trouble has come to you, but I can tell you that Jesus is a wonderful Savior to have when the storms come, He is compassionate, and He will see you through. This trouble will not be forever. It has a time limitation. The question is, what will you be looking like at the end of it? Will you be looking at how Jesus brought you through rejoicing, or will you let the trouble destroy you? You're the only one who can decide that.
I can tell you that Jesus is there. Sometimes the storm is so boisterous it's all we can see and hear. That's where faith comes in. He's given you the measure of faith that you need to grab onto Him, grab onto His Word so that you can get through this storm, and He has given you His promise that He will never leave you; He will never forsake you - Hebrews 13:5. Will you be willing to believe this no matter how the storm rages? I speak from personal experience and can promise you that there is a reward waiting for you at the end of it all if you will only believe.
Keep in mind, too, that when satan came before God, God asked him, "Have you considered my servant Job? There is none like him in the earth: a perfect and an upright man - one who fears (reveres) God and shuns evil." (Job 1:8). God was bragging on him! God had confidence that Job would stay faithful to Him no matter what crazy thing the devil would throw at him. And, in the end, He got a personal visitation from God, was given a long, prosperous life, and was restored to twice as much as he'd had before.
In Job's case, trouble was a good thing. Maybe God's seeking in you someone in this earth today whom He can brag on too?
2006-10-18 12:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Carol L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about if it's more like things just happen?
Look to God to find the strength to cope with your mom and grandma's illnesses, but find other ways to deal with the rest. Have you asked at your church for help from the minister's discretionary fund? Is there a credit union in your area, they may be able to loan you enough for the part. Ohio's not too good for state aid (from what I understand), but maybe there are charities? Would your work give you an advance so you can continue to get there on time?
The way you worded it above sounds like you're waiting to be rescued. That's not going to happen. If there is a God, she/he/it certainly doesn't seem to work that way. Make some priorities, take it one step at a time. Like budgeting, if you haven't already, write down everything that you spend money on and balance that against your income. That will help you understand where your money is going and make better decisions about it. Try to budget in a small weekly savings for emergencies like your car. (There are probably local agencies that can help, ask at your library -- they're good sources of all sorts of information.)
You have a lot to deal with, but you can handle it. Hang in there.
2006-10-18 12:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, God is not punishing you. He is not making these things happen to you. They are just a part of life. However, He is there for you, to give you the strength to deal with each of these things. No one, not even you, deserves to have all of these things happen to them, especially all at once. And to have them happen all at once is certainly overwhelming. My heart breaks for you as you struggle with your difficulties. It sounds like you are a Christian. Do you attend a church? I would suggest you have a talk with your pastor. If you don't have a church right now, maybe you have a friend who does and they could introduce you to their pastor. A church is a great resource for counseling and maybe even a bit of financial help for the car or the furnace. Sitting down and talking face-to-face with the pastor will help you sort through options that you cannot begin to imagine right now. And, believe me, it will help to have other people praying for your needs. Keep on pouring your heart out to God. He is listening, I promise you that. And He does have answers to your prayers, which He will provide you in His time. I don't know what and I don't know when. Perhaps this was your "next step" in getting to those answers. I am lifting you up to our Heavenly Father, that He may comfort and guide you. Find someone to talk to so that you are not carrying these burdens by yourself. God bless you, dear one.
2006-10-18 12:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that God is punishing you. We all have trials in our lives, and we can either use them to bring us closer to God or further away. Have you started looking for another job? Prayer is essential but God also expects us to do some work. He's probably not going to drop a job right in your lap, He does expect you to go out and look. When it comes to you and your husband, start by changing yourself. Be more attentive to him, refuse to fight. You can't change him but you can change yourself. Have you looked into getting a loan to fix your car and your furnace?? If you can't get a loan, there must be some agencies in your area that will help you out. And I'm sorry about the illness in your family. That is hard to deal with.
Just keep praying. God is always there and all of this shall pass too. I will keep you in my prayers too.
2006-10-18 12:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by flashypsw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time right now. Nobody is punishing you, that's just life. Sometimes it's really hard. You don't deserve it, no one deserves it. It's not a question of deserving. Sometimes it's just like that.
Try to find a few minutes to sit down and be calm. Cry if that helps, sleep if that helps, but find some calm and listen to your heart. You will find the strength to get through this. You will surprise yourself with what you can do.
Not knowing your situation I don't have any more specific advice to give than that. Talk to people, you might be surprised what help others can offer. Do what you have to, to get through it. I have absolute faith that you can. Believe in yourself. You will find a way to get through this.
Sending hugz and good wishes your way. Now go call upon the strength in your heart.
2006-10-18 12:31:32 · answer #11 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋