Im 24 and my b/f is 20. I have 2 kids and he doesnt have any. He wants to have atleast one but my tubes are tied. Am i wrong for being with him?
2006-10-18 05:07:16 · 19 answers · asked by Mona:) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go have them untied. Its a very simple procedure...
2006-10-18 05:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you were wrong about being with him, but I do hope that you had the conversation with him about your tubes being tied. You can't keep that a secret from him. He deserves the right to know this so he can decide what is important to him in the end. If he wants kids and loves you enough to stick around, maybe you could consider adoption.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 05:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not wrong for being with him. Your tubes are tied - if you're interested you should be able to get them untied however if he isn't willing to take the children you already have as a blessing and be happy maybe you should consider a breakup...
Good Luck !
2006-10-18 05:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by A Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why break up? are you planning on gettting married? Relax, if you care about his feelings that much, try birthcontrol. If the relationship fails you can always get your tubes tied. If it works out you might consider having a baby for him. Take your time and see what happens.
2006-10-18 05:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about being wrong to be with him..this is about communicating what each of you needs in your lives and deciding if your inability to give him a child of his own is a road block to a future with you. As a guy who dated women with children, I always felt like if things worked out then to a large degree those children would also be mine. I don't think biology should be a factor in a man realizing he has a family with kids even if those kids aren't his.
2006-10-18 05:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What some girls dont know is that you can still get pregnant eventhough you have your tubes tied. But it takes a while for some.
2006-10-18 05:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But he needs to know your situation, and decide how he wants to deal with it. It is sometimes possible to have tubes un-tied, if you should decide that you really want more children, but success is not assured.
2006-10-18 05:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have your tubal ligation reversed... I know lots of people who have and have been successful in getting pregnant.
If you want to be together and have more children, go to your doc and talk to him about the procedure.
If this man loves you and wants to spend your lives together, it shouldn't matter about having more children if it is not possible, he can love the ones you already have.....and also love you.
You are not wrong my any means in being with this man, if you love him.....
2006-10-18 05:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Err... your not married to him, his has not ties to you. If he makes you happy stay with him, he will adjust. You can always adopt latter after marriage, and if he has a problem with it then yes he is wrong then. Put your self and your kids first.
2006-10-18 05:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that if you could you would but if he love you he would stick by and take care of your kids with you and treat them as his own.
2006-10-18 05:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Shalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋