we stopped having sex?

Question

my bf and i were going a bit too fast, so we stopped having sex for awhile. it was his idea...i asked him if it was because the sex wasn't good or if he had any other reason and he said 'no, the sex was great...the relationship is just moving too fast.' so we are taking a break.

i asked him on the phone if he thought that i was a sl*t because i slept with him so fast (we have known each other for yeeears, but just got back in contact and we had sex the first time we saw each other in about 7 years). he said sarcastically "oh yes, you dirty wh*re." i said "no seriously.." he said 'no, i don't think you are a sl*t."

then i asked him if he missed sex. he said 'not really.' i said 'seriously?' he said 'no..'

i said 'when you say you don't miss it, and could careless you make me feel like a sl*t.' he said 'you're not, stop thinking that. i already told you its not that..'

anyone have an thoughts as to what could be up?

we are both in our late 20's. we were friends who lost contact.

Answer 1

Your not a slut. It's not like you slept with him the first day you met him. He's probobly just not ready for a relationship or huge commitment yet. Dont worry. Its good that he doesnt miss sex because it proves he not a filthy pig. You have a good guy there just let it be and see where it goes.

Answer 2

I would have to wonder if your man is getting sex somewhere else!! either that or he is gay!!! As a man I have to tell you that for a guy to not want to have sex and says the relationship is going to fast is pretty much unheard of unless one of the two above is true!!! As far as the question of you being a sl*t or not goes even if you were still having sex with him you would only be a sl*t if you had sex with others while going out with him!!! Sounless you are f****** around then I wouldn't concider you a slut if you were my girl!!! I also wouldn't stop having sex with you because the relationship was going to fast (that's a cop out)!!! If I were going out with you and the sex was good, and I wanted to slow the relationship down I would do it some other way than to stop having sex!!!

Answer 3

What got here approximately, did he get faith or something? something has got here approximately which you're no longer telling us, adult men do no longer in basic terms stop chilly turkey till something got here approximately. Did you omit a era and scare him ?? whilst it is not a nasty ingredient to attend till marriage in any respect, the actuality that hes unexpectedly stopped makes it problematical so which you would be able to comprehend this and that i'm able to comprehend that. All you may wish is that there isn't any longer another reason that's happening, like he's having 2d strategies a pair of life after college with you or something. i might ask him. greater constructive to comprehend now than later. Hate to deliver this up yet additionally which you ought to to envision together with his pals etc if every person has any theory if he's enamored of somebody else additionally.

Answer 4

Sounds like maybe he got burned by a relationship that moved to fast and now he is a bit guy shy. Just back off a little bit and give things a bit of time to work themselves out and don't make this into such a big deal.

Answer 5

Could be that he is one of the fabulous men who respects you and cares for you BEYOND the sex. The sex is a definite bonus, but not necessary for the relationship. I say grab this guy and hold on for dear life..if you love him or think you could come to love him.

My interpretation of him saying that he could take or leave the sex was that he was trying to compliment you.

Sex was great, but being with you altogether is more important than the sex. Sounds like a keeper to me!

Don't look for trouble, you just might find it...good luck!

Answer 6

I've actually been in a situation similar, all we did was have sex.. sure it felt great, but it' began to feel like sex was all we had in common.
So i suggested we hold off on sex for a while and try to get to know each other on more than just a physical level. Maybe he feels the same way i did..

Answer 7

He doesnt have someone else.
Bad sex is worst than no sex.
You are bad in bed, and need to improve your techniques.
You probibly do not do much to perform in bed.
Laying there like a dead fish while gets on top is not sexy.

Go to the bookstore and find books with pictures like the joy of sex, or tantric sex, and sex in the hot tub.

Learn some new positions. Learn foreplay for both of you.
If you dont do this and get comfortable with sex he will go and get it from someone else.

Answer 8

Hard to say, no pun intended, lol. Maybe he got what he was after and doesn't want it anymore. It's rare when a guy wants to cut off the sex, so yeah he might be getting it somewhere else. Do you still hang out? Or is he spending less and less time with you? Is the interest in you as strong as it was when you were having sex?

Answer 9

Shakespear once wrote...

"Something is rotten in Denmark".

Your conversations and your approach to sex seem strange.

(Both of you!)

Your relationship seems casual, as many are these days, and could just as easily break off or become serious should something develop.

At this point, it appears you were used and he is playing the field.

But, I could be wrong. He may have found a better toy to replace sex for awhile, and may be back in the saddle again...maybe.

You are both so young (it seems), and in time you will look back at this and have a big laugh for yourselves.

Answer 10

It seems to me that it may have happened way too fast and he realized that when he had sex with you....wasn't a good idea. Maybe it's his way of saying or acting upon that he isn't interested in you like that. I would distant yourself for a week or two and see how he reacts to it. That will be one way you will know how he feels about you. OR....he maybe getting somewhere or he's gay!!!