wearing shorts, a tshirt and athletic shoes? I think it means the man doesn't care what he looks like and doesn't place enough importance on making a good first impression. I doubt anyone would show up for a job interview, even at mcdonalds, dressed like that. I make an effort to look decent when I meet someone and am always disappointed by the person I meet when I see them dressed like they don't care. Any man, even one that is short or unattractive is going to look better if he dresses up a little.
2006-10-18 04:45:08 · 34 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think a date is more important than a job interview as it has the potential of being the person you are going to spend your life with. As far as being superficial, well guys are that way too. If a woman showed up without makeup and her hair a mess and her nails unkempt, the guy wouldn't think she is just being comfortable, he wouldn't want to go out with her again. It is only normal to me to want to make a good impression on the other person.
2006-10-18 05:04:47 · update #1
I think that "dressing up" is something that fewer and fewer people know how to do, or even think is important to do just out of courtesy. A sign of the times, which value self-indulgence above all things. At funerals and weddings, I still see slobs who can't put on ties or a jacket.
2006-10-18 08:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have an important message here. I also believe we should take pride in ourselves and look our best for the occasion. I just don't think some people have a clue any more about every day hygiene and dress. I guess it's just too much effort for some people, but so far as I'm concerned, it is reflective of the person's basic character. You don't have to dress in label clothes, but you can look good/cute with very little effort.
2006-10-18 04:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not want the Guy and you are inventing excuses. I think you just missed an honest to Goodness Guy who did nothing to hide his interest in Sports and perhaps had not enough time to go through a formal DO ,just to make an impression. My Grand mother had told me that Girls who look for external impressions about a man are better left alone. They Don't belong in our Den. Today or tomorrow they will be busy chasing even more smarter men, only to be ditched by a dozen of them before they realize the folly and end up marrying just about anybody, far worse than the good men they spurned for fun.
2006-10-18 04:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take into consideration of where are you going on your first date to. What's that scene or event dress code? How did you meet them? how do they dress regularly? How interested are you into them? How interested are they into you?
And for one you have to consider, using your job interview metaphor, what job are they applying for. It's not that the guys are not interested, it's probably that they think that how they dress is how they can impress you or maybe they feel like they don't need to dress "up" for you. Especially if your saying that this happens a lot for you. What kinda vibe are you giving off that these men feel so comfortable and relaxed around you. That's not always a bad or good thing. It is what it is.
I don't know... either your standards are high or... their standards are low.
2006-10-18 05:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Game lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I depends on alot of factors. Are you meeting in the daytime, planning on an outdoorsy type of thing or for dinner at a nice restaurant? Some men are clueless about proper attire, and some men prefer to dress how they dress, and don't care about all that. And, a date is no job interview--if that is your view, I'd hate to go on a date with you. Personally, I prefer a man dress for the occasion, but can't stand the overly dolled up man-the metrosexual look is repulsive to me.
2006-10-18 04:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANY MAN? You just gave me hope! LOL
I think it's only proper to dress up a little- polo shirt and dress pants would suffice. But gym shorts-- even if he was just playing racquetball minutes before the date- he should take a shower and put something else on. Pretty rude of him.
Have a great day!!!
2006-10-18 04:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live and how old are you? I mean if you're in Arizona of course it's going to be hot! Were they jean shorts? Jean shorts suck...but if they were a nice pair of cargos or khakis...so what? As for a t-shirt...I think you have to dress for the occassion...were you going to a nice restaurant or an amusement park...We need more info on this "meeting" before we can side with you on this.
2006-10-18 04:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Phil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a date does not dress well to meet you he does not care about making a good impression to you. Its a lack of respect for both you and himself and anyone who cannot respect themselves or you should not be a good potential partner......it will only get worse.
2006-10-18 04:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances, doesn't it? If your first meeting is in the gym, then shorts and a t-shirt are entirely appropriate. :)
Seriously? He might be expressing confidence that who he is is more important that what he's wearing. (It is, you know.) He might not actually own anything better; you didn't say how old you are, or how old he is. Maybe he's a slob. Or he just might not be that into you.
2006-10-18 04:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kent Brewster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is wearing depends on what was going to be done. Was the first date to go to the park, or beach? Not enough information on what was planned.
I know that if it was decided that we were going to a show, jeans are better suited, but if it was to a park or bike riding? Shorts.
2006-10-18 04:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋