want to meet after we have only exchanged one mail. It usually begins with them leaving me a message and then I answer them and ask a few questions and they answer back and suggest meeting. I always tell them that I like to talk to a person a little before meeting. This seems to scare them away and I usually don't hear from them again. Is it unreasonable to want to talk to someone for about a week before meeting so I can ask the questions I need to ask to week out the ones I'm not looking for? I have found that the ones that I met after a couple days were a waste of my time as I found out a few minutes into the date things that I hadn't had a chance to find out about such as the fact that they had multiple divorces, were just separated instead of divorced, were overweight, or were not looking for the same things I was. If I had have had time to get to know them before meeting, it would have saved me some time. What is wrong with getting to know someone a little before meeting?
2006-10-18 04:41:54 · 10 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I am meeting the same guys. Separated could mean anything from waiting for the divorce papers to the wife going to the mall!
And all they want, and all they want to talk about, is sex, even before you meet!
2006-10-19 06:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with getting to know someone before meeting with them, especially if they are out of your social circle. In fact I think its a must, in these discussions you can set ground rules and expectations before meeting and really find out if you do have enough in common.
Guys who want to meet you after a very brief time are only after sex. Yep I said it and its true, they want to meet and see you as soon as possible because all men are very visual. And they want to just have sex with you and probably leave you right after.
So I say email, IM or even phone (get there number and hide yours when you call). Find out more about them first, ask whatever you like and re-ask at a later date to see if they were lying in their first answer.
You are an important person and should always be aware that there are alot of wierdo's out there, look after yourself and make sure you meet someone when YOU want to meet them, when you feel that there is a connection and when you feel secure.
Hope that helps.
2006-10-18 04:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't like writing. You can get vastly more information in a much shorter time if you meet in person. Besides, even if the date doesn't lead to anything longer term, that doesn't mean you didn't get any enjoyment out of it as a one time thing.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet right away. There's also nothing wrong with wanting to wait a while and trade some e-mails first. Different styles suit different people, that's all.
2006-10-18 04:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I used to use Match.com (I met the man of my dreams through eHarmony), most of the guys there were what I considered unsuitable. They either wanted to rush things, or wanted to talk about sex right off the bat. I gave up on Match and tried eHarmony. The way they match you is much better, and I feel very comfortable recommending their service to anyone who is serious about meeting someone for a long term relationship.
2006-10-18 04:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not inevitably. in lots of cases anybody is busy in the course of the week to get their love existence plenty concept. sometimes the weekend is the only time they are able to take a seat down and look at the personals. in the event that they look exciting adequate - then plan your first date (espresso save or some public place) the place you are able to communicate and get to nicely known one yet another. in the event that they are severe approximately finding for a relationship, take it from there.
2016-11-23 17:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i cant speak for them, but i can say i don't truly feel you can get to know someone online, because most people will say things online they would never say in person .So i feel meeting in person is the best way to get to know someone.
2006-10-18 04:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong, look lets have a meeting to-day and we can talk all about it, or just jump right to the ,,,,
tea bag me?
2006-10-18 04:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting to know someone on line is hard so I can see their perspective. but you are just be careful I'm sure and there is nothing wrong with that. But faith is a hugh factor.KNow when to take that leap of faith.
cheers darlin
2006-10-18 04:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very simple. You are the girl so you get to decide. You don't have to apologize or explain to anyone.
2006-10-18 05:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mark S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your probally talking dirty to them , in your emails
2006-10-18 05:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋