Worried about my Alcoholic father?

Question

Hey Everyone!
I'm really worried about my father lately. I'm 21 (moving out next month, so still living at home) so I'm old enough to understand that he's been drinking aot more this past year. Every night he'll finish off 2 bottles of wine then move onto a mickey of either rum or sambuca.
He does this everynight and falls asleep infront of the tv.
I'm really worried ahout him! Anything I can/should do? My mother thinks its "not a problems and none of my business" but I just hate seeing someone crashing and burning so fast!!!

Help!

--- Melissa

Answer 1

i understand ur worring mellisa,
and it is justifyable that u r worried.

too much of alchole will damage livers, will make the family and home life sick,, cultural and mental disorder,

i dotn say stop drinking, but limit oneself to 1 peg..

what do u think could be the caused of this,, is he lonely? is he tensed? y dont u try and talk to him abou this loneliness, and tensions rather than talking about drinking and u leaving house.

leaving next month is no gonna solve the problem sweetie,, so be in there and understand him,, and the causes,, and try to comfort him,, then try and reduce his drinking,, may be initially u can make a peg fo rhim,, and then say now not more ,,

the relation between ur dad and mom could also be tensed, dotn probe in much,,

just try and understand himm,,and his drkinging will reduce gradually,, dont pressure. dotn run away,

take care.

Answer 2

i agree with most of the answers. try to find a time he seems more sobber, tell him that u love him and u hate it when u see him like this, tell him that u need him. If he understands this try to explain that it is too difficult to get over this on his own, he needs prodeffional help. Try talking to your mother too, try to understand why she pretends there is nothing wrong, perhaps it suits her in some way. this is all u can do, try to make him realise the problem and seek professional help, but u cant make him stop it, it is not your responsibility and u just can't because u are his child, not his doctor, it hurts too much for u while a doctor can be more "sobber" to help him, and u dont have the knowledge to do this. Take care, and if this worries u too much try get some counselling yourself, it will definitely make u feel better :)

Answer 3

Melissa...you are right. You know what is going on and it sounds like your mother is in denail about your dad's problem. Two bottles of wine and a couple of nightcaps is not normal--especially every night. And he doesn't fall asleep in front of the TV....he becmoes UNCONSCIENCE in front of the TV. He's passed out, hon.

You can't do anything, unfortunately. Just pray for him (and your mom). You can get yourself into Al-Anon. It is an alcohol support group for families who live with an alcoholic. You should go. Learn from others who have been where you are and what they did:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do, unfortunately. It's his choice. You can't worry about him because it won't change anything. You can only worry about yourself. Loving him and caring about him is not necessarily the same as taking care of him. You can still love him, but really will just get yourself sick by worrying or trying to change him. It may take a really long time to accept this. It is a problem, but again, there's nothing you can do about his drinking.

Answer 5

your father is an alcoholic obiously.......... you can approach him if u wish and tell him your concern............. He will either be in denial or agree he has a problem........ its his daily routine and its hard to break........... its cause i do the same but with only two beers instead at night......... its his form of relaxation................. you should just ask him to cut back and drink less .......... like go down two maybe 1 bottle instead ........... also point this out to your mother as well show her your concerned and look on the net for affects of alcohol on the liver>>>>>>>>>>>. hope i was some help

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is tell your dad how you feel. He can either listen to you, or blow you off. But at least you won't feel this burden of responsibility anymore. As horrible as this sounds, he is a grown man and if he wants to drink his life away that's what he will do.

Answer 7

You know, my mom did the same with my dad, and he succumbed to liver disease due to cirrhosis.... I regret at least not trying to help him, so make a stand and if they don't change, at least you know you took a stab at it. You need to take care of yourself now that you are a young adult and don't start any patterns that may lead you to addictions.... Take care.

Answer 8

Why don't you try talking to your dad? Maybe he doesn't realise he has a problem if even your mother refuses to acknowledge it. Sometimes people drink to forget their problems, so they just need someone to talk to.

Answer 9

You better get some help for your father ASAP. Get some conselling, before he gets violent.

Answer 10

Sounds like my kind of party