report childminders?

Question

i picked my daughter from her childminder at our local mother and toddler group. I feel lucky cause my childminder is a close friend of mine so I know the way she has brought up her own kids and how she treats them. Anyway, when I picked her up, there was another childminder there with 2 children in her care, both of them under 2. I felt sick leaving there because the way she spoke to them was attrocious. She was calling this poor lad 'stupid boy' and pushing him out the way and all because he cried when she went out of his view. I found out after that the poor boy suffers from anxiety which to me means that she should be reassuring him rather than punishing him for being scared that he couldn't see her. when he went to her for some comfort, she pushed him out the way and turned her back on him. i was really upset about it and thought about reporting her.i would be gutted if i ever found ut that my child was being spoken to no better than you'd speak to a stray dog.what do u think? x

its not her son,to the lady who said that. its someone elses son. i am going to find out her name and report her. i have been tempted to tell the parents but wanna get all my facts straight first.that could be a relative of theirs for all i know. i gotta get facts straight. when i find out her name, i will ring about her. its not on that she should do that. she'd rather gossip with her friends and drink coffee tan take care of the kids she has. thanks everyone x

Answer 1

if it upset you that much, follow your gut instinct and do what you think is right.

Answer 2

i agree that she should not have spoke to the child that way but please find out as much background details before hand before reporting her as once you take this step there is no going back and a full investigation will be launched
i know of an instance when a new mum at a playgroup later made a complaint about a childminder who shouted at a child to move away from a door. what she did not know was that the previous week the child had lost the tip of her finger when she caught it in a door (not whilst with the childminder may i add), hence the childminders response.
i'm very glad that you are concerned for this child welfare but please proceed with caution and make sure you have the full picture.

Answer 3

Definitely report it.You will not only feel better in yourself, but more importantly, you will be protecting the innocent young lives that she is in control of.
I child minded for a long time, and loved every minute of it.It was an honour to look after someone elses child.
As children, we can be deeply affected and then in adulthood, these feelings of rejection can return and can take a grown person years to figure out why they have had such problems.
Without getting too deep, you must report her.Or give me her name and I will!!!!! She gives hard working caring child minders a bad name!!

Answer 4

For goodness sake, yes, report the bad childminder. It's probably mush worse what goes on in private. This breaks my heart. So many children are just not loved enough today.

In Germany they found a two year old dead in a refrigerator, and it's such a grave sad story.

Please report this as soon as possible.

Thanks.

Answer 5

God that's disgusting.
I'm an "unproffesional" Childminder who has fallen on her feet, because i have a child of 4, and friends of friends of friends have spoken about how good my child is, and because i was out of work- i've landed a couple of jobs.
Report her, PLEASE. I would be devastated to hear my child was treated in that way by a proffesional, or anyone for that matter.
But ESPECIALLY if my child had difficulties on top of just being a child!
I don't know if that made any sense... I'm too angry!

Answer 6

All childminders should be registered with the local council and social services. I would ring them and put in a report. No child should be treated in that way

Answer 7

This is wrong wrong wrong, the minder should have been doing exactly what you said re-assuring the little lad not pushing him away, she is paid to look after the children & has a moral responsibility to treat children in her care with respect & dignity. I would have reported her there and then & in front of her toooo, people like that should not under any circumstances be allowed to take charge of children...report her

Answer 8

Its good you feel so strongly and I would so want to know if it was my child. You did well to keep quiet at the time because I would have had to say something, but like you said you need to get your facts right. No wonder kids grow up to be abusive, for some kids its all they know. Good on you I am sure the mother will be pleased, unless she is worse!

Answer 9

Report her now - dont WAIT.

She will have to be registered with your local council, so first stop would be there, then on to social services.

I cant understand the mentallity of these folk that physically and mentaly abuse children. Do they have part of their brain missing? If I found out my children had been treated like that by anyone, I would have them charged.

Answer 10

You definitely need to find out her name, the name of the family she works for and report her. If she can't keep her anger in check she doesn't need to be watching children, especially a child that has anxiety issues or special needs.

Answer 11

you just have to watch you can't say anything without getting backlash. I sometimes judge other people's character, like I saw a teen mother with her 7 month old baby in March wearing a baby short sleeved onesie and that's it. IT WAS FREAKING COLD OUTSIDE! I believe the mother is so stressed out about his anxiety and she believes her child is a failure since he didn't come out perfect. Just tell her that you should take the day off and have relaxtion, she needs it, she is stressed out that she has to deal with her son's anxiety.