I think some people misunderstood my question???? i feel if you?

Question

basically do not agree with someone. why would you be friends with them??? You wouldn't ....because it could cause fights and a lot of discord....no wonder why there are so many divorces...people i guess, do not see eye to eye....and if it is too much disagreeing then it is better to live separately...what is your take??? thanks!!!

Answer 1

if you fight and disagree all the time then why live togeather

Answer 2

Friends, true friends disagree lots of times, but it should not get in the way of being friends with someone. Not at all. It is okay to agree to disagree once in a while. People don't always have to agree with each other. If they always did, that would, in a sense, be like cloning. What a boring world it would be if everyone always agreed. Nor, should you agree with some who think could be wrong about something. Debates can be fun. But, you have to remain open minded about everything, or it won't work either. If you think you know everything, it won't work either. Practice makes perfect. Try it! If two people get divorced because of this, there is lots more to it than just disagreeing a lot. They probably have lots of other issues, ones not in the open, and ones not talked about openly. Good luck, in whatever it is you are trying to figure out. Think about this line, from Akon's "Lonely"--What'd I do to make it go bad"!

Answer 3

I do not feel that differences make a relationship less likely to succeed. I feel that they just make the relationship be it friendship or romantic, more exciting and challenging. For example My boyfriend is a sweet heart but he and i are very different, our tastes are different, our views on life are sometimes different but we make it work. And often it is more fun because we get to learn new things from each other all the time, and we encourage each other to be more open minded by looking at things from the other person's perspective. My best friend and i are also quite different and we get along better because of this. I mean how fun is a conversation where u agree all the time. Example: person 1 "i like the color blue" person 2 "me too".
Differences are what draw us to each other, and honestly i think that what holds a marriage together is based on 2 things. How willing the couple is to make the marriage work and secondly how much they are similar in their views on life and the life they want to have. Differences are no big deal if they are a difference in political opinion, taste in food, favorite music, but when it is a core difference based on your values that is where it is tricky. Differences like how should u raise your children, what religion will your children be, these are differences that could be much harder to deal with and things you should know about your partner long before u marry.

Answer 4

Sometimes what we are drawn to is our opposite. It depends on how you handle not agreeing that will make or break a friendship or relationship. Some ppl love to debate and it can be healthy if not done in an attacking way. We all tend to disagree every now and then even with a friend or spouse. If you live life based on shoullda, coulda, woulda, possibilities life is going to pass you by!

If there are no agreements, no seeing eye to eye, no similar interests, then yes its not a healthy relationship on any level.

Answer 5

I think it all depends. You are not going to agree with everyone all the time. Everyone has their own opinion on different things. That's what makes us all unique. You can't just not be friends or partners with someone because you disagree on certain things. You compromise. Now if you are fighting all the time that's a different story.

Answer 6

While being friends with them may or may not occur (I have plenty of Republican friends who I work with, but if I did not work there I seriously doubt I would have become friends with those guys on my own), a discussion is necessary (even if arguing results from it). How can you ever understand them if you don't find out their reasons for believing as they do.

You may find out you missed out on some info that would change your mind about various issues. Or you may impart info to them that changes their mind. Or you may find some kind of compromise in the middle. But you should never give up on the idea of either discussion or even friendship simply because you don't agree on an issue, or no one would be friends (all of us disagree somewhere with everyone we know).

Answer 7

I'm friends with people who don't see eye to eye with me on things.

For example, I'm a Christian, but a lot of my friends are not...they are of a different religion, or atheist.
If we were to bring up religion, it tends to turn into a debate, and never a "fight", it's not about winning, but learning what the other person thinks about the situation.

I guess that's the difference between an adult relationship and a childish one.

Answer 8

Fighting with friends and fighting with a spouse have nothing to do with each other. So, decide which question you are asking, why hang out with people you are always butting heads with or what can a couple do to mend their relationship and get past the disagreements?

Answer 9

I couldn't imagine being around someone who I never disagreed with. It would be so boring. It stimulates the mind to have a good debate with someone you know or even love.

agreeing with someone all the time out of convenience would be boring as heck!! Agree to disagree!!

Answer 10

There is something called compromise which my husband and I practice. Sometimes we don't see eye to eye but we work out a compromise that both of us will agree with.

Answer 11

i think what it comes down too is understanding a persons right to be different..
if you are not a open minded person.. you let those differences get to you..
i think if people tried to see the world a little bit more openly.. and accepted that other people have different ideas and opinions it makes it a lot easier..