Is this what you'd do in this situation??

Question

So I go on dates with guys and everything goes well, but I just haven't 'felt it', you know? Theres absolutely nothing wrong with these guys, they're great to tell you the truth, but there just isn't that spark there or a connection, or whatever you want to call it. So then I don't go back out on dates with them. So heres the question...I know that this is fairly normal, but when I meet my match, it'll be there, right? I mean the connection, the spark...I'll recognize it, won't I? In the last five years, I've only felt that with one person and I'm just kind of afraid that its a once-in-a-lifetime thing and that it won't happen as easily or as instantly as before.

Am I passing on these guys when I should really just give them another chance? I'm still going out and having fun and all...so don't worry about that...but is this really a one-time thing or am I worrying for no reason?

Thanks!!! ;)

Answer 1

If you don't feel the spark with these guys, you never will, so why carry on dating them to eventually break their hearts? I think you are doing the right thing by breaking it off if you don't like them that much. The spark is out there , i promise!!! If you've felt it before you'll feel it again, when you least expect it!!! Just make sure you have a busy life that leaves you open to meeting mr right!! Good luck x

Answer 2

Sometimes you will find the connection with the person you least expect. It isn't there at the very beginning all the time. Good relationships take time to develop. So don't rule all these guys out if you don't feel it the very first time. Sometimes you have to really get to know the person. Put it to you this way. The beginning of a realationship is like a job interview. It's when people put thier best foot forward, to get you to go to that next level. After that's done is when you really get to know a person. So don't give up if you dont feel the spark right away.

Answer 3

I say if you ain't feeling it then it isn't meant to be. You will know without a doubt when it is the right person for you. I don't think you can be too picky these days. You certaintly don't want to marry just because you are lonely so picking the right guy to date to possibly get amrried in the future is great. Hang in there. If you only feel a little something then go ahead and give them that second chance. Most importantly have fun!!

Answer 4

you should just enjoy life and have fun there isn't a thing wrong with having friends keep your dates on the friend level and when you are not expecting it your match would come and you will feel that spark and see that connection but it;s going to take more then one date.

Answer 5

you don't want to lead them on but you also want to give it a shot, I'd say go out twice if you get a good vibe the first time.. and if nothing sparks then don't go out with them again.

It'll happen don't worry..

Answer 6

I think you are worrying too much. Give the guys another chance, say 3 dates max and if you don't feel 'it' then go try another. One date isn't enough to know for certain.

Answer 7

It won't drop into your lap. If you go out and have fun what's wrong with going out again? Nothing, just loosen up and quit actively looking for Mr. Right and have fun with the Mr. Right Nows.

Answer 8

Don't worry it will happen. When I met my man the first time there was no click what so ever. then we talked about alot of thing and all of a sudden there was a click that threw me for a loop...lol. Don't give up hope.

Answer 9

When the time is right things will fall into place. Let it take its course but do not rush into things just coz you feel pressured in any way.

Answer 10

don't forget to thank them for all free stuff you got from them like dinners movies, flowers, companionship,good conversationand no sex