2006-10-18 04:02:33 · 16 answers · asked by Nikhil F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
THERE IS BIG HISTORY OF PRE-MARITAL SEX. GIRLS BECOME MOTHER BEFORE MARRIAGE. BUT YOU DO IT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE.
2006-10-20 16:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is having sex before marriage rape? Rape is forced sex, not having sex before marriage.
Should pre-maritial sex be discouraged?
Yes, to a certain point. There are far too many STDs to be focusing on finding your best sexual match. Especially for the younger folk who think that sex is the most important part of marriage, it should be discouraged to the point that diseases and pregnancy could come of it.
However, I am also under the impression that if you are old enough to dive into a marriage you are also old enough to hold a conversation with your future spouse to decide whether or not remaining a "virgin" is important.
If you are old enough to get married, you are to the point where you need to be honest.
As a whole, it can't JUST be discouraged. Teens are still going to experiment, adults in love are still going to have sex, regardless of whether they are or are not married.
All you can do is care for yourself--don't worry about others.
2006-10-18 11:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean most of the time it turns out to be rape because it's post marriage??? I don't understand your question.
If a woman wants to have sex after a divorce (if that's what you mean by post marriage) it's her choice. Why not?
Rape has nothing to do with pre-marriage, marriage, or post marriage. In fact rape isn't really about the sex.
And no pre-marital sex should not be discouraged. I don't approve of promiscuity..but if two people are in a committed relationship and consent to it but aren't married that's their business (I say go for it, kick those tires).
I for one would not want to marry someone and THEN find out we are not compatible in the bedroom.
2006-10-18 11:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by D F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either totally confused or totally ignorant. you can do whatever you want before marriage- the only way it is rape is if someone were to force you to do it. Some people opt to stay celibate until marriage, others choose to have sex prior. What is right ans what is wrong is up to the persons involved.
Post Marriage? I am sure there isnt a person alive who was/is married who hasnt had sex at least once with their spouse. You cant be serious to think that it can even be an issue....
If you are thinking about it, and you think so negatively about it, dont do it. Sex, when consensual, is a wonderful thing shared by two people who are supposed to care about each other.
2006-10-18 13:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
post marriage sex is not usually rape. The woman knows what is expected of her on the wedding night in this case does she not? Even if she is uncomfortable or not ready her new husband doesn't force her does he? Not that I have ever heard.
Pre-marital sex is the choice of the individuals involved only and I believe it is discouraged normally but it's best to prepare those who will anyway and applaud those who won't.
2006-10-18 14:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The differences in sexual desire are a major problem with many marriages. If you don't have sex prior to marriage you must depend upon totally honest and open discussions in that area to ascertain compatibility. (of course if you don't have sex you also probably can't discuss sex.) If you don't plan to have sex after marriage why would you be considering marriage? Indiscriminate pre-marital sex should be discouraged.
2006-10-18 11:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean that the marriage vows are often used as an excuse for a man to have sex with his wife even if she is uncertain or unwilling to engage in that activity.
technically it would be rape.
As a man, however, my only solution is for the woman to avoid marriage if she doesn't want to do sex. My reason for that is because all too often women turn off the sex as a way to win an argument or to pressure their husband.
I can't understand your point about pre-marital sex.
2006-10-18 11:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Responsible sex should be encouraged, not discouraged. By making sex out to be a big huge deal, people are setting themselves up to a disappointment. Sex is just a vital part of a healthy romantic relationship - nothing more, nothing less. It's not a "treasure", a "gift" or a manipulation tool. It's a normal activity of consenting adults.
2006-10-18 12:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age it does not matter if you have pre-marital sex it is no ones business. and post marriage of course you should have sex with your partner after you are married it is called consummating your vows.and i have not had my husband rape me i do not understand that part of the question.
2006-10-18 12:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by farmerwoman4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nikhil sex is a discreet acticity of two individuals. to have sex two people should be comfortable enough among themselves to get in to the act. so whether its post marriage sex or premartial sex. it should be the will and wish to the two people doing it. u will enjoy sex only when both of u want it.
2006-10-18 15:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋