into canada. my nephew will be born and living in alabama. with my job in the military i can make it home once a year and i get worried that he may not knwo me that well, and may not want a relationship with his uncle. this worries me because his only father figure right now will be his grandpa because the daddy ran off. i want to be sure thet he know me and will remember me when i come home the first few years of his life. what can i do to ensure this? this bothers me more than you would think, and maybe mroe than it should. but i want him to have a great life and i want to help with that all that i can but it seems hard being so far away.
2006-10-18 03:57:24 · 5 answers · asked by lpxerounderground 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First I want to say what a wonderful role model you already are for your nephew. Your concern for his well-being is so admirable.
With today's technology there are many things you can do to get to know your nephew long distance. I would suggest getting web cams and mics for your computer (and your sister's as well). This way you can talk to him as often as possible. Even as an infant, he will become accustomed to your voice and face. Additionally, send a shirt periodically for him to sleep with. He will become accustomed to your smell as well. This is very important as a newborn and infant.
As he gets older, things will be easier. He will be able to talk to you, send cards, etc... You will become his role model even though you are not physically there.
Your sister will also need emotional support through this time. The weekly computer chats will help her as well. Good luck to all of you.
2006-10-18 04:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand this more than you know. I recently moved to Canada and my family is in the states. My neices and nephews are between the ages of 2 and 14. We are all very close. I don't have children of my own so I made it a point to spoil them with love and effection. I know they are having a hard time dealing with me being gone also. I make it a point to send them letters and cards a lot, lots of pictures and I call them once a week.
With a newborn it is hard. I missed out on the baby years of some of them because I lived in a different state. They don't seem to mind at all. When I go to visit I make sure I spend quality time with them. I will shooo off the adults and spend the day with the kids. Doing activites, watching movies, making them the center of all my attention. You don't have to buy them gifts to get them to love you. You have to love them and treat them like people. I also made it a point to get each of them a phone card so they can call me anytime they just want to talk. I always call them right back so it works out really well ..
2006-10-18 11:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you put in for a transfer to be stationed in or near Alabama instead of moving to Canada? The air force, army, navy, and marines all have bases in that area. I know that it's not easy to change your orders, but it is possible. If you talk to your CO about it, I'm sure he will understand, and maybe even point you in the right direction on how to get your request started.
This is a noble thing that you want to do, and it will probably be encouraged when you bring it up.
2006-10-18 11:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send videos of yourself talking to him, send pictures, call him whenever you get a chance. That way he knows what you look and sound like. Congratulations on becoming an uncle. I wish I had an uncle like you.
2006-10-18 11:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people get along just fine in life without knowing their uncles,
2006-10-18 10:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋