Ok I have been with my bf for about a year. We work together different area but the same building, anyway yesterday I cooked for us and I brought lunch for him and my self, so he eat, and it was time for him to go home it was around 2pm and I was kind of hungry so I said I will take my lunch know and he said ok I am leaving and I ASK HIM to stay with me while I eat my lunch he didn’t was to stay he said I am going I don’t feel like staying, and I said I just want to u to stay for like 30min that is all, but he didn’t want to stay and I got so mad and I said what is the big dell it is not like he have to rush to get somewhere he was just going home and sleep, and he said if it not a big dell why are u having acting like that and I got mad I didn’t even say bye or whatever I just left and I didn’t call him last night he didn’t even bather to call me back even this morning he didn’t call. He always does that whatever I ask him he doesn’t do it right away he thinks I am making him do it, and whatever happen when we get mad at each other I end up apologizing for **** that I really didn’t do. But this time I am just going to ignore him. What d u guys think???
2006-10-18 03:52:44 · 24 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you. If he didn't explain why he didn't want to spend a few min with you then... he has to work on his communication skills. sounds like he sure was in a rush to get home and go to sleep? Is that what he really did?
2006-10-18 03:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by jesse'sluckymommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have mentioned what you wanted to do in advance. One day maybe.....that it would be nice if he stayed so you two could have lunch together. This would have been more appropriate, and considerate.
I know you shouldn't have to *ask*, for things like this and be that formal, but under *these* circumstances where it's at work, and he's put in his full day, maybe he wanted to go home to rest, or maybe he had things he wanted to so. He may have felt like your asking and getting mad was a female manipulation trick, which we men hate, even tho this may not be how you inteneded it.
Since you two work together, and obviously his shift ends before yours does, why don't you ask him to stay one day......not make a habit out of it, and not make it an obligation, which is how he took it I think.
I understand why you were upset. You felt like he wanted to leave as opposed to have lunch with you. He took it as an obligation and manipulation.
Let it go. You're as much to blame as he is......sorry, but that is how I feel about it.
2006-10-18 04:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully you learned three things. 1, he and you are not married and there is no obligation from either side to act like you are, 2,you seem too young and inmature to be in a relationship if you are going to be upset for such an unreasonable thing, and 3, take your lunch by yourself, and give him his space. He may have been really tires, and did not want to stick around. why the fuss? just because you took the time to go to hm at his lunch time did not obligate him to do the same, and I know it is rough but thats the truth. Next time either arrange it to eat WITH him, or just leave work at WORK and talk and eat together at home....
2006-10-18 03:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, grow up. You've been dating for a year and it's too far along for you to be acting that way. If he wanted to leave let him, it's not a big thing and you shouldn't have blown up about it. I would call him and explain that you don't like to eat alone but you understand that he was tired and wanted to get home. Ask him if occasionally he wouldn't mind staying with you while you eat so you can have a little together time and make dessert and ask him to enjoy the dessert with you. Hope that helps.
2006-10-18 03:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by megha717 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, he already ate his lunch. He was done and ready to go. Did he at least thank you for bringing him food? If he didn't then that makes him an insensitive prick. If he did than it just may be that he was tired and didnt want to wait around watching you eat your lunch. It sounds to me though that you may be unreasonable with your demands on him. If you really care about him listen to him. If he doesnt want to do something then leave it at that. He isn't your dog. Except that he is who he is and that was why you liked him in the first place. If he has changed and you dont like it then ditch him!
2006-10-18 04:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by missdmeaner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to realize that he might want some alone time. He might be looking forward all day to sleeping and nothing is going to stop he plan. You have to have good communication skills when you have a realtionship. Communication is everything in a marriage! So think about some mature thoughts and when he says he doesn't want to do something....be a little more acceptive of it. You don't rule him just because you are his girlfriend.
2006-10-18 04:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to grow up - it was the end of his working day - if he was going to go home and go to bed Im guessing he was tired - there is nothing wrong with that - you over reacted by trying to MAKE him stay this shows you have controlling tendencies and its something your going to have to work on or your going to lose this guy.
I work with my husband (in our business) Im in the office and my husband is the mechanic - we need our time apart you just cant live happily when you live in each others pockets all day every day - get over it and apoligise to him because this time from what you have described I see it as being YOUR fault.
2006-10-18 03:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm optimistic that Paris Hilton has been at here. The yahoo call is Paris Hilton. there's a image of Paris and tinkerbell that i've got not seen everywhere else and the questions that she asks and solutions are quite stuff which you're able to anticipate her to ask. If its not her its a darn stable impersonator.
2016-11-23 17:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by cellar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after a long day at work he was justified by wanting to go home. Don't stress over the small things. Call , text or e-mail him, tell him you love him and get together after work. Blow off this fight and look forward to the make up sex.
2006-10-18 03:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you wasn't wrong you just wanted yo man to stay with you what was the big deal with that he wouldn't want no other man staying with you. i feel you on the apologizing on things you haven't done but sometimes when you love somebody you gotta step up and be the bigger person but that don't mean let him run all over you just because he knows your going to apologize but if he really loves you then he would get over it and call you so just hang in there and trust me he'll call.
2006-10-18 04:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋