I've been officially dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. About 2 weeks ago he "slipped" and said "I love you", I said nothing and let it slide. I know that I love him and I want to tell him, but I don't want to scare him. I've been engaged before and thought I knew what love was, it was nothing compared to this time around. He's my perfect match. Help!!!
2006-10-18 03:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by megha717 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off... CONGRATULATONS!!
Second... if you love this guy you need to make it known. And if he loves you... all the better.
2006-10-18 03:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when the time is right! Don't put yourself under so much pressure. Let him be the one to say it first. If you feel like the first time was a slip, then wait for him to say it again. However, he may be feeling that because you didn't respond, you don't feel the same way. Talk to him about it. If you love him, you should be comfortable enough to bring it up in conversation. Just ask him if he was serious when he told you he loved you, or if he just slipped. It will probably clear the air and make him feel alot better to talk about it.
Good Luck!
2006-10-18 10:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he said it first and you didn't say it back, that probably scared him. He's thinking damn she didn't say it back, whats up with that.
You should have said it right then. Now you will probably have a hard time getting him to express himself like that again. That is almost like being rejected.
He put himself out there and nothing.
I would talk to him and tell him that you love him too and at the moment he said it you were a bit shocked and that you were afraid that if you said it that you would scare him off. Tell him exactly what you were thinking and feeling at that moment because I am sure he is wondering about it.
2006-10-18 10:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, you have been engaged before, so I assume you would know when is the best time to tell him you love him when the best time comes.
No need to rush, you have your whole life to say those words if you have found the right guy this time.
Those words could be said over breakfast, after intimacy, before you go to work, after a date...
You will find the right time ;)
2006-10-18 10:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said it first it probably won't scare him if you say it back. He may be scared because he said it and you didn't respond to it. If he's your perfect match then go for it. You have to risk the hurt to find true love.
2006-10-18 10:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is a long time. I think the time is right to say i love you. If you love him then say "I love you" if not then wait a little bit longer. Dont wait to long because he might think you dont care about him. It happened to me and I lost the girl that gave me the best relationship and now she hates me. Dont let that happen to you.
2006-10-18 10:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by varsityboy_87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it....tell him you love him too....come on..you said like you do....why wait...move it on to the next level and let him know. Why would you scare him...he has said it first.
2006-10-18 10:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not compare one relationship to another.
If you feel this way, and are comfortable enough to say it, do so... If you are not ready then don't.
You must make your decisions based on this new relationship.....
By the way he didn't slip, he said it because he loves you......guys don't slip the "L" word......
2006-10-18 10:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come-on....he said it first!!!! generally if a man tell you first "I LOVE YOU"....that means 90% of the time hes really in to you and he is commited...and is willing to give up a wild dream of being in a jacuzzy with a play boy model....coz any man has this wild dream....thats why they will not tell these magic words often....now that your boy friend has told it...i personally thinks that he s commited....
he loves you ma-am....if you honestly love his and your heart feels it...just tell it....
ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!
2006-10-18 11:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then say it but never forget that love isn't just a feeling it is a commitment.
2006-10-18 10:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not stupid to tell someone you love them. The stupid thing is feeling the love and not telling. You do it for yourself when the time is right - You will know when the time is right......
2006-10-18 10:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋