Do you know anyone that has gone from gay to str8?

Question

I'm 21, year old male and because of my faith in god I want a change but I never met or knew anyone that has done this so I'm asking if it's has ever crossed your path, and also i'm serious so please, put the kiddys to bed and let the grown-ups answer!

God says: "for whoever keeps the whole law, and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it." (james 2:10)

Answer 1

I've seen claims of it, but they weren't very well founded.

It can't be proven. Considering that scientists have only recently discovered a possible physiological difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals, you can't look at one of those cases and know for certain that it's a legitimate conversion from gay to straight. When medical research has advanced enough that we know for certain that there is a physiological difference, then perhaps we can measure people who make the "switch."

In the meantime, we can only assume what we can about people who claim to have gone straight. My assumption is this: Either they were unsure of their own identity and weren't gay to begin with, or they are still gay but are willing to sacrifice their true personality in order to live a "normal" life. I've heard assumptions that they are bisexual and simply suppress their attraction for the same sex. It's an assumption I can respect.

Common sense tells us that you can't just change from gay to straight. Homosexuality is very much an inborn trait. I know some people claim that it's a choice, but, honestly, why would anyone choose to live a life of persecution and hatred? Why would someone choose to be gay in a small, bigoted town where yahoos get off on tying queers to the bumpers of their trucks?

If it were a choice, then anyone could choose to be gay or straight. As a straight man, I should have no trouble stopping my attraction to women and beginning my attraction to men. Alas, it doesn't work that way. And it doesn't work that way for gays either.

If you want to change your life, you should consider the religion. Would you want a religion that is hateful toward gays? Can you believe in a god who made us all the way we are and then instantly hate us for the way he created us? Many Christians use the Bible to justify their hatred of gays. That's fine for them, but remember that the Bible is a collection of tales passed on from generation to generation. Ever play post office? Do you recall how garbled the message can be when it's passed from person to person? Now imagine the Bible being mangled in the same way. Let's not forget translations and personal agendas.

Do you worship a loving God, or do you worship the Bible which teaches us to hate and murder those who live their own lives?

Edit: I see you added the Bible verse, "for whoever keeps the whole law, and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it." (james 2:10)
This should demonstrate just how dangerous it is to base your life on the Bible and not God. According to that verse, everyone is breaking all of the laws. Have you worn two different types of fabrics? Have you indulged in shellfish? Those laws from Leviticus are featured as prominently as the ban on homosexuality (yet conveniently, they are overlooked). And what does that verse say? It says there is no degree of severity. If you break one of the commandments and talk back to your father (what child hasn't?) then you are just as guilty as if you packed up an assault rifle and mowed down an orphanage. If you are that concerned about what the Bible says, then you may well have a bigger problem on your hands than homosexuality.

I used to try to live my life by the Bible. Notice I said "try." It's impossible to do such a task without committing your whole life to it. You might as well enter a monastery, because the average person can't do it. When I realized that the Bible was simply written by men to keep the masses in line and to preserve tradition, it all made sense to me. It dawned on me that God could not be foolish as to actually write the Bible. So, I stopped worshiping the Bible. I can't suggest that you try the same thing cold turkey, but think about who wrote that Bible verse. Why was it written? Is it a decree from God, or was it someone who wanted to keep the tribe going by promoting the conception of children?

Answer 2

Honestly, bud, they say that homosexuality is supposed to be something you're born with, but honestly. Have you ever heard such bullshit??? Truthfully, if you feel that being gay is who you are then, by all means, be gay. I'm not just saying that because I've had the same thoughts myself or anything like that. Truth is that I have several credentials that I'm gonna drop on ya just so you realise this is not just some blubbering nonsense answer but an educated and studied, as well as lived response. I've told you in paraphrase about my own thoughts and I'm also a Licenced Pastoral Councillor From the Indiana Christian Academy, even though I'm no longer christian myself. That's my angle on the subject, but in the long run it is your life, so I guess the decision to or not to take my advise is inevitably your to make in the end.

Answer 3

sturdy luck with that. heavily. you're born the style you're born. in case you have been in a position to alter it you are able to desire to alter it on your very own, and you wouldnt want "Jesus" or a pastor to do it for you. Secondly, do no longer and that i repeat, don't get married to a girl and characteristic little ones. very almost each and every gay guy who has tried that has ended up the two committing suicide because of the fact he purely won't be able to proceed to stay a lie after see you later, or he finally ends up breaking apart the better half and little ones - and its the spouse who suffers in marvel which you would be able to have lied to her approximately being gay interior the 1st place and now she is left without husband, its easily devastating to the girls this has got here approximately to, and there are lots. And the youngsters go through horribly besides. To unexpectedly discover out daddy is gay and their house is breaking apart?? Yeah, thats yet another devastating situation. And it happens each and every of the damn time because of this friggin lack of information that faith teaches that a gay person can "become" right this moment. No, they can't. they might stay as though they're right this moment for a definite volume of time, yet they can't do it continuously - and a good style of of the time no longer even for terribly long. think of a heterosexual attempting to stay as a gay! How plenty they could hate it, or perhaps with the incontrovertible fact that they could attempt so tricky to become gay, they only couldnt. and then think of that they get married, come out a pair of youngsters or undertake a pair of youngsters or notwithstanding, and then everybody suffers horribly whilst all of it falls aside. in case you prefer Godly advice, then comprehend that God created you techniques you're. For a reason. So pass stay your existence as you're, make a intense high quality occupation, discover somebody to fall in actual love with rather of faking it, and dont waste any of a few time attempting to be some thing you arent. existence is purely too short to waste any of it on such stupidity. I desire you the terrific.

Answer 4

As a gay guy who studied psychology and earned a degree in psychology, I can tell you that all the research studies done into gay 'transitional' programs have proven to be strongly correlated to major clinical depression, thoughts of suicide, attempted sucide, and successful suicide. There are a whole other host of conditions strongly correlated with it, mostly adjustment and mal-adjustment issues.

In short, the experimental evidence shows pretty conclusively that gay-to-straight transitioning is not a viable option.

However, if your faith is this important to you, then why not simply live a life of chastity? The sin is in lust, whether you're straight or not, and in action. A chaste life is pleasing to God, according to the writings of St. Paul. One can be a homosexual without arranging one's life around sex.

Answer 5

I know people who have tried. It's ended one of two ways: Normally, they've just gone with it and accepted it, some keeping their religion in a belief that God loves them no matter what and some rejecting it. I know one who attempted to lead a "normal" life, got married, had a couple of kids, and then the whole thing ended in a messy divorce and he now sits around talking about how he's going to hell. Ugh.

Answer 6

I've known people who are bi and have chosen to live straight. I've known people who were questioning their sexuality and thought they might be gay who went straight. I've NEVER known anyone who KNEW they were exclusively gay who was able to become straight... anymore than I knew anyone exclusively straight who was able to become gay.

The sad part is that there are churches who will tell you that it's wrong, unnatural and an abomination to be gay. You need to decide whether tha'ts the sort of condemnation you want to live with. There are Christian churches with some enlightenment that realize that being gay is part of life on earth. Some Congregational churches have an Open and Affirming policy, and are quite welcoming. Maybe you could check them out.

--Dee

Answer 7

There are people who have claimed it and ministries that try to make that happen, but there are so many problems with the ministries. Basically, you're made to feel terribly guilty and horrible, and are to try and make your parents feel horrible, too. Also, many people have left after not "changing", and some who have claimed to change were caught in gay bars or having same-sex relationships. Do you really want to give up on the possibility of real love, or make some "lucky" straight woman shut the door to real love as well?

I strongly suggest you read the following site and its links (including many gay Christian links) first before entering one of these ministries or therapies.

Answer 8

Yes, I do. I have a friend that was in a lesbian relationship for 16 years or so, and now she is happily married and they have a daughter. They have been married for 5 years. They met on the Internet, and that may have had something to do with it. They got to know each other REALLY well before they met in person. So I think maybe there was a 'fear of men' factor that was alleviated by all the online talking.

Answer 9

Yes, there are so many of them. personally, i have friends that turned out to be good husbands and fathers after all.

at first, they said they were struggling cuz their inmost flesh and spirit is longing for another being, but thru prayers and support of their families, they eventually overcome being a gay and turned out to be good man. there is a plus on them since they know which one is beautiful and they are pretty much more caring and aware of their relationship with their beloveds.

you have just to be determined and really be strong...God can help if u trust Him.

Answer 10

If you are truly gay you cannot change and whu would you have to?
. The only ones who claim to do it must be bi-sexual and just stop sleeping with people of the same sex.