Women - Please answer this - Can I be forgiven?

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Women - Please answer this - Can I be forgiven?

I have been very patient with my gf of 4 months. Never said ONE bad word to her or about her. Just pure unconditional love.

Last week, she was sick and could not answer her phone fore other reasons for 4 days. I got so confused and upset, I called her a ***** and said I regret I ever met you....just out of love for her to triger her to call me back...I am also shorttempered like my dad and she knows it.

Can I be forgiven because like I said, I have not said ONE BAD thing and moreover done and said MILLIONS OF GOOD THINGS to her...so I can be forgiven?

Also, I see couples fight and its ok once in a while if someone says something they really meant to say out of love.

I just want to know if this happens generally in relationships once in a while and I can be forgiven, given alll my past good deeds?

Answer 1

it happens in a lot of relationships! yes the girl shoiuld forgive you only if you sit with her and explain what and why you did what you did! she will understand if not you really dont need her!

Answer 2

I believe that anyone can be forgiven for anything...

Having said that, I'd like to share some other thoughts. I respect that you say you have "said MILLIONS OF GOOD THINGS to her". That's all well and good...provided that you meant them, which I have no reason to believe you didn't.

Understand that each and every time someone is hurt by someone they love, a scar is left on the heart. Forgiven, maybe, but the damage has been done. Yes, many people fight and make up. Some even delight in the mad/sad/glad process. I'm happy for them, but it doesn't work for me.

As for "I am also shorttempered like my dad and she knows it" comment. What's the worth there??? Apples and oranges in my book. You are YOU...she is dating YOU...not your Dad. So my question is...why do you feel the need to blame your behavior on him? Take ownership for what you did wrong, be honest and truthful with her, that's all you can do.

I wish you the very best, sounds like you care very deeply for her...good luck!

Answer 3

There should never really be any reason to fight in a relationship if everyone has even a small amount of understanding, maturity, and both partners do their part. The fact that you premeditated what you were going to say so as to guage a specific reaction is controling, and manipulative. She deserves someone who will be understanding and first ask why (not yell some asshole comment) "why haven't you been answering he phone?" You sir to me are nothing more then the average piece of **** that mistreats women in this world and views then as nothing more then objects... It's also disturbing that you are looking for comfort on an online group. Are you to big a dick to all of your friends and family to be able to ask them for help?

Answer 4

That TOTALLY depends on the person you hurt, whether you are forgiven or not. Some ppl put up with alot and let it bounce right off, and some are not made that way...like I said, just depends on her. I personally could not live with someone cussing and talking down to me because they have a temper problem.....that's why I divorced my first husband. If you really want to show her you're genuinely sorry, then maybe you should consider some anger mgmt. or just see a doc about your problem. Things like that can be treated with medication sometimes. Good luck

Answer 5

Anything can be forgiven, if both of you want to continue the relationship. If she's willing to accept what you said to her and move on with her life, with you in it, then you're lucky.

It doesn't matter if you do supposedly a million good things. Whats important is respect and trust. Start working on that first before you try to measure your good deeds and your bad.

You deserve a second chance if you truly love her, and know in your heart you won't treat her like that again.

Answer 6

What you said had nothing to do with love. You don't say that to someone you love. You said those things because you thought you had lost control over her. If she is wise and sees this she will not forgive you. You have a totally warped sense of what love evokes. What you said was mean, hurtful, and out of spite. If it was me I would never be able to forgive you. Those words would ring in my ears every time I looked at you.

Answer 7

Um....I think your love with her is one sided. If she couldn't answer the phone for you for four days....was she in a coma? if not...then there really wasn't a reason besides loss of voice. BUT...that aside.....you should be forgiven for a mistake. You didn't know she was sick right? I would just let it go and give her space. She may seek you out...she may not. There are billions of people in the world...I wouldn't sweat one that can't love you back the way you love them.

Answer 8

well first i dont like the idea that everything you said is just pure and unconditional love even how many millions of good things you have said to her....sounds not for real... sounds like its not the real you... you were only in your four months...so it means to say your hiding the real you.... see what happens when you got angry...the real you comes out...you should be forgiven... but that doesnt mean she needs to take you back again ..

Answer 9

Wow if you called her a B word I think that that is kinda the unforgivable name that you can call a female esp if you are a male
Apologize, but check your anger/short temper b/c it can get you into trouble not only with her, but other females, or males
She might forgive you but the forgetting part is a NO NO
Hope this helps!!!
And
Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 10

well my question is how many days did u to cool off of fighting i am think at least a week would proabley do it and also go over to her house when u have forgive her or she has forgiving u i think if she had a heart she will for give u and u will fogive her if u have a heart

Answer 11

If you knew she was unable to answere her phone and you left that message anyway... hmm... well she may forgive you but it will take time... let her know you are sorry and won't do it again... If you do it again or if your temper slips she may def leave you... Watch your temper and remember the only person you can control in a relationship is yourself...