I keep hearing read the Bible, go to church, follow the commandments.
I've tried to live this way all my life. Nothing is working.
Depression, lost my job, I'm 33 and I thought I would be a family man by now. Everything is falling apart.
I've been trying to keep my faith.
I see unwed mothers as young as 14 and 15 walking around with babies and hearing guys talking about their sons and how many kids they have. It really bothers me, deeply.
Temptation is really overwhelming at times.
Any advice. Nothing is working. I grew up in church and know all the rules, well most of them, in how to live faithfully.
Any advice would be appreciated.
2006-10-18 03:19:33 · 14 answers · asked by coronji 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
See, is not the things you do, is what you look for. For me, what works the best is yes, read the bible, but expecting God to speak to you through it. Talk to him back in prayer, ask Him to show what He made you for. Ask Him things, dare to ask, it does not matter if your questions sounds like "no propper". Talk to others about your experience with God. You need a relationship instead a formula. Try to see God as a friend. It works, believe me, I can say it. Don't feel guilty about your weakness, is natural if you are distant from God to fall. Once you get closer is going to be harder.
2006-10-18 03:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by phoerminx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with phoerminx.
Christianity is a relationship, not a religion.
Pray and expect God to answer. He isn't going to answer in some big booming voice (though He might), it'll be a silent conviction, a whispered thought. Sometimes, silence is louder and you hear better.
Prayer can just be like a normal conversation between you and God. It doesn't have to be some formalised, memorized chant. It's just a chat on God's eternally open phone-line.
Sometimes God won't answer. But it doesn't mean you should stop praying. Tarry. How long are you willing to wait for Him? He will come and save.
You don't have to pray alone. Pray with some friends. Prayers move the hand of God. Cry out till you soak Heaven with your prayers. Then be still in the wonder of His glory.
Reading the bible is great. But expecting something out of it is even better as phoerminx pointed out. God really speaks through His word.
Funny, talking about this makes me want to be closer to God too. I know how it feels like to be distant from God... even now and even more so. But I think in God is where I belong. Who am I without Him..
It feels distant, but suddenly I will find Him carrying me, walking over the shards of glass so I wouldn't be hurt. So He carries me.
2006-10-18 10:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever stop and think about what God is ??? If your faith is so strong then you should be talking to your minister or your priest about this. For people like you GOD is EVERYWHERE!!. As far as he unwed mother and the babies daddies well that is just a result of bad parenting and horny teenagers who don't have anything better to do.
I think the whole "GOD THING" is a crock of sh*t honestly but that is my opinion. I don't believe in a heaven or a hell. I however to believe that people are good and life is good. I believe that you can see the good in people if you look and you can find peace in this world if you start at home and work on being a good person and help others in need.
I hope you find god but if you don't might want to look for the good in people instead of pointing out the flaws and mistakes.
2006-10-18 10:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. Although I was not brought up religiously I am now. I learned to trust God. I ask for his guidance and have learned to open myself to Him. Trust your feelings. Its God speaking to you when you ask. I know lots of bad things do happen to good people. Its hard to have faith. My 27 yr old daughter cant find a good, respectful man. But God will send him to her soon I know. Now It breaks my heart for her. She works so hard and is so sweet but she is very shy and doesnt have the chances to meet many guys.. But God does work miracles. Ihave seen them. Its always when and where we least expect them. Take your time, look at the beautiful sky when you take a long deep breath and keep praying. Take a moment each day and just quietly think about what to do. God will send you answers. Be aware of them. I am quietly religious and have faith. You will find happiness. It is worth the wait. God puts out difficult tasks for us as tests. I do not know why it seems we get more of them than our share. Maybe He knows we are the ones who can make it. When He feels its time for us to be parents & spouses they will be sent to us. I too feel awful to see the young have the children someone else could be raising. Life is a trial of faith.Its tiring and defeating but keep looking up. You know, it IS working but right now its covered up with your sadness. Please dont give up...I once felt like you. I made it a game with myself to prove to the world I could make it. No one knows God's plan. Our job is to stay on the road. Try to see how you too will move on to the next step. The reasons wont be clear until after they happen. Have faith. Please dont give up. Spend your time continuing the plan and things will work out. Your next job will be soon, keep your ears and eyes open for all possibilities and recognize the chances coming your way. Honesty and integrity never fail in the long run. Keep yourself open to Gods work and word. You will have an epiphany.
2006-10-18 10:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by larnsue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother if you are do everything right, then you can't go wrong.What you need to do is tell the LORD what you want. Then just claim it. Sounds like the devil has stolen your joy.Go to a REVIVAL and get it back!!When you have your family, you will see that it was all worth the wait.So just wait on the LORD and he will provide.33 in not old on any count.Remember you do not want to be unevenly-yoked.Be BLESSED..........
2006-10-18 12:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy dont you just chill out.......you are so young. Most guys dont even think about stuff like this at your age. Infact alot of women are still having kids at 45 so as a man you got loads more time!
Women are attracted to men (or at least I am) who are relaxed and happy with themselves. Imagine dating a woman who was neurotica bout her age and having kids......what would you think of her?
see what i mean? RELAX
2006-10-18 10:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God is real i know he answer my pray he answer your by waking up this morning god hear you he is test your faith see if you can be patiention and wait on him talk to your pastor
2006-10-18 11:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Summer G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to live YOUR life by other peoples rules/beliefs. Go out, meet friends and enjoy yourself. Start to live your life properly. As long as you know deep down what you believe in what does it matter how you go about things. And as for other peoples choices-its up to them. concentrate on you more rather than worrying about other peoples lives.
it will get better.
2006-10-18 10:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get closer to God??? You will have better luck getting closer to the "Toothe Fairy" or "Santa Claus"
Face it dude - God does not exist - just because it is written in some book doesn't make it so... Do you believe everything that you read???
2006-10-18 10:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
just keep your faith in God,just see all that's happening on you and around is just a test,and God will not give us this kind of test if we can't overcome it.Good luck.
2006-10-18 10:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by kimy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋