I'm in a relationship which seems to be coming to an end. Am I on the shelf? All my friends are married with babies
2006-10-18 03:17:43 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all comes down to how you look...seriously!
2006-10-18 03:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just turned 33 last week.
You are not on any kind of shelf. It might be a little bit harder to find the right man. Most have been married or have kids by now. But if you don't mind they are out there. All of my friends are married with kids too. I'm divorced with a kid. That makes it hard too. I found me a good guy back in May. I wasn't even looking for him. I was convinced it would just be me and my son forever. The when he is gone I'll have to be a crazy old lady with a ton of cats! Don't worry about it. I have an aunt that didn't get married untill she was 43!
2006-10-18 03:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hardly think that at 33 you'd be on the shelf. I'm certain that after you've had time to grieve the loss of this relationship that one of your married friends will suggest someone that they either work with or know who is single also and they think would be perfect for you. Don't go giving up on yourself at your age as you still have a lot of living and loving left to do.
2006-10-18 03:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 34 and have had 2 good relationships in the last year. 1st with a 29 year old and 2nd with a 32 year old. I have realised that you are only on the shelf if that is what you want. It does get difficult to find appropiate partners but they are out there.
Here is a thought. My bestfriend is 38 and she has a 33 year old boyfriend.
2006-10-18 04:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not on the shelf. Mr Right will come your way before you know it. You just have not found him yet. He is there just be patient and don't worry about your other friends being married and having kids already. Enjoy life while you are still single. Once you get married and have children your life will change quickly. All the things you used to do, well you won't have much time to yourself once you have tied that knot and have a husband and kids. I am 34 and still single myself. Mrs Right just has not come along for me yet either. Don't rush yourself dear. Enjoy the single life while you can. Take care. anthonydubinski@yahoo.com
2006-10-18 03:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the shelf at 33 ,, lol
Life doesn't begin until 40 babes, so get yourself out there and show your old partner exactly what he has been missing.
You sound like your relationship has suppressed you as a women. Get rid of the luggage and enjoy being a women again.
Oh yes ,,, Good luck.
2006-10-18 04:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by DARES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steph - One of the biggest mistakes Women make is getting trapped by that "all my friends are married with kids", so you might jump into a relationship that's not right for you and get married to keep up. You can take comfort in the fact that most of them are probably going to get divorced anyway (60% is the national average) because they didn't take the time and chose carefully.
As far as the age thing goes, 33 is relative. It all really matters if you look good. If you look good and hit the gym and take care of yourself, that's all that matters to me and I just turned 25.
2006-10-18 03:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by hellfirsthand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
33 is TOTALLY not too old to be datable. I'm 27... and male... and what some might call extremely good looking and well endowed...
And I have no problem whatsoever with 33 year old women. You gal's are more mentally stable, more independant and secure... and these days, just as hot... if not HOTTER than your younger counterparts. Not to mention more experienced in the sack.
Better sex + less drama = definitely NOT on the shelf.
2006-10-18 03:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
33?!?! You have at least another decade for easily having babsters, at least another 15 years of looking hot and being fit and healthy and your still 7 years off your prime. Plus you'll be single at a time when toy boys are all the rage!
Shelf schmelf. Get single, Go out and enjoy yourself!
2006-10-18 10:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Oracle Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not on the shelf, I'm 36 and my mates are all the same apart from 3, we are more concerned about our careers and when the time is right it will happen. I get attention alot but I'm more choosy now as I don't want to settle with just anyone! Get out, enjoy life and don't worry about the future let it take care of itself!!
2006-10-18 07:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by kildarababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and approaching 31 and I don't think I'm on the shelf. The best thing to do is get out there with your friends and enjoy. I'm sure someone will come along when you least expect. That's what happened to me.
2006-10-18 03:26:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋