A question about life- need some inspiration.....?

Question

I’m really unhappy with what I’m doing at the moment and am in a constant state of confusion. I know that I have a lot of potential and opportunity and this is what scares me most of all. I have so far worked in the financial industry, which has not suited me and have ended up drifting, promising myself that this is only a temporary situation. I would like to have an exciting and challenging career and life but am so overwhelmed with everything and so get stuck in a state of indifference. I’m also really worried about losing time and fear that I could perhaps stay this way for years without getting better, especially since I can shut my worries out and just ‘get on’ day to day.

Please could you let me know of anything I can do in a quest for a better life and career, and maybe share any experiences that may help me.

Thank you

Answer 1

ok, been there. It's simple but it's not simple. First, the important thing is that you've recognized a gap between your current state and the state you want to end up in. That's a good thing. Second, try to recognize what is impeding you from filling that gap with the solution. For me, it was fear, it was that I was scared as ******* to let go of what I did so well...to jump into something new... This led to me being anxious/having anxiety which eventually led to a slight to moderate depression... This is a bad place to be. So... you might want to go talk to your doctor about this "overwhelming" feeling you have. That is a sign of anxiety/depression. Once you've removed the anxiety, you'll see that taking the decision and steps toward filling that gap is easier and less daunting. Before you know it, you are happier and things start coming together for you. Not going to happen over night, but it happens pretty quickly.

You know what you have to do. Sounds like you need a little help from your doctor. I know you may think this is a sign of weakness, but it is worth it. Trust me. Give yourself a break from and an added lift away from the anxiety that otherwise without proper medication will keep you right where you are.

Good luck! You'll make it.

Answer 2

Firstly I feel its important to stress that going on any form of meds really isn't the answer - they do not solve any problems and often tend to actually make things worse because then you have to have the strength to come off of them.
Worries are the key sign that you are unhappy with your life - and the best thing you can do is seek some guidance. Whether that be through counselling (which I feel is an excellent choice) or some kind of spiritual guidance - then go for it.
You will find direction in your life, you just need to never give up hope that things will work out...
I am currently going through a similar time and I found the best thing to do is write a diary entry daily, confide in others, take extra good care of myself and have even taken up an evening class in philosophy...
Now is the time to take time to reflect on what it is you truly want from life, embrace it and remember that meds really should only ever be the last resort.

Answer 3

I certainly have been there. I call it growing pains. What you need is a good jolt of creativity. At least that is what has helped me. Quit concentrating on the career path for awhile and start enjoying other things. For me it's a walk on the beach, my book club, my monthly dinner out with friends, making note cards. If you spend the next month concentrating on things tat you enjoy and surround yourself with good and positive friends and family the answer will come becuase you won't be so obsessed. If you need the cash right now get a job working at a dept store or restaurant, etc. Treat it as growing pains. This is what has helped me get through the anxiety. I hope it helps.

Answer 4

Well my dear... i have certainly tread this road quite recently. It helps if you get to know God....he says...ask and i will answer. Ask God what he wants for your life. There are also practical things you can do as well. Get a pen and paper. Write down all the things you are good at and all the things you are not so good at. List all the things you love to do, and things you really dislike doing. Weigh up the pros and cons...then do some research into the areas of work/industry that best fit your skills.

See what you already have and what needs getting to do that perfect job you desire. Then tackle making your chances better of achieving that job/lifestyle by practicing what your already good at and learning what you need that you dont already have.

All in all...still direct your thoughts to doing what God would have you do....this way your life will never be meaningless...and i promise you he will answer...He answered me and im currently pursuing that path he showed me.

Blessings x

Answer 5

hey im a drifter too.

i decided i would apply for one new job a day on the internet till something comes along - in the mean time stick to part time work and the net.

i have been really drifting for a year now, but am confident my job stratergy will work out soon, and it also helps if you have a goal, so i have booked a holiday in august 2007. That way even if I cant do what i want to, i have an exciting cruise to look forward to and atleast that is something. right?

Answer 6

I believe a positive outlook on life would be a first step... Strip the negative influences away and don't allow them to come into your life... Surround yourself with positive people, a healthy diet and exercise... Stay focused on what matters most, be it your relationship with the Lord and/or your family, be inspired to live a life of purpose and integrity... Read Joel Osteen's book "Your Best Life Now" 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential... The #1 New York Times Bestseller...

Answer 7

I drifted for a while in crap jobs I wanted a career change so I wrote down all the things I'm good at, I enjoy or find interesting. Then I looked at how I could make a career out of each of them. Then I got rid of the ones I couldn't afford. Now I'm a nurse and I love it.

Answer 8

HI 'Roha',

I know exactly how you are feeling--I went through the same thing in my first 55 years of life. Finally, I realize we must accept that our life is the way it is and adjust our thinking around the life we've been given us. I had a dream when I was younger, and I have been devastated most of my life, due to things not working out as well as I had envisioned in my life. But the only thing you can do is accept things as they are and become grateful for a roof over your head, food, loved ones etc. I know how hard this is on you but you will be OK. Just try not to think negatively and accept gracefull your situation. My thought go out to you.

Rob

Answer 9

I was in exactly the same situation - i worked for a world wide company in a decent job, but a job that i just didnt like. surviving day to day putting all my hopes and ambitions to the back of my head just to drift along in this hoplesness. Then one day someone did something at work which really really annoyed me and i just thought screw this, so i uped and walked out. Best thing i ever did. I slept that night like a little baby, makes a change considering i hadnt had a decent night sleep for about 2 years prior to that. I decided that i no longer wanted to feel sorry for myself and just survive, i wanted to excel, to live beyond my dreams and to achieve anything that i wanted to achieve.

And you know what? --- it feels beautiful!!!! To walk without fear, to live without expectation, to face everyday with a brand new sense of optimism is such a wonderful, liberating feeling. Whenever you feel like this and go through a transitional period things will be difficult, their will be tought changes and decisions to make but ask yourself one question - When you're an old person and sitting in your chair watching countdown do you want to say you lived beyond fear, lived beyond shackles or restrictions and it felt amazing? or do you want to say you lived a life of humdrum, a life where you sat unhappy with your lot simply because the alternative was difficult and took a little bit of determination and grit to achieve?

I know which one id prefer. I prefer to be free, i prefer to be liberated and live my life with a smile. As the world known saying from a movie goes - I Choose Life - and so should you. Do what the little kid inside you would do, take a chance, take a risk and be happy!!!! Hope this helps

oh and by the way, that poem a few answer up from marianne williamson changed my life literally. It was used by Nelson Mandela in his inaugration speech and also in the hollywood film Coach Carter, it is truly a wonderful piece of writing. It rings true, we were all meant to shine like children do.

Answer 10

With so much bothering you and so much confusion it's no wonder you feel overwhelmed and unable to deal with the future. A major change in life, no matter how beneficial, always brings with it the existential anxieties associated with the loss of ones past life, and uncertainty for the future bring. Entropy and inertia are natural human conditions which will encourage us to remain where we are; to try to make the best of things, but this needn't be so. A short course of CBT counselling can help you sort out and prioritise your problems into managable pieces allowing you to clarify what you really want in life, to work out goals, and how to achieve them. The answers to your problems are within yourself; all you need to do is clear your head long enough to identify them.