Recently my fiance and I had to move in with his sister until we can close on our house and move into it. There's another girl that lives with his sister that has two kids. I told my fiance before we moved there that I didn't want him home alone with that other girl because his brother said he was going to "hook my fiance up with her". Well, I've seen my fiance checking her out and he's getting close to her kids even though he doesn't want to have kids with me right now. Should I feel wierd about all of this?
2006-10-18 02:53:05 · 19 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1st off that is rude of his brother to say he was gonna hook him up with that girl. Are you friends with his brother? You have every right to feel wierd if you are starting to see your fiance checking her out. And on top of it all he doesn't want to have kids with you right now but yet he is getting close to her kids....I would question him and I would nip it in the butt NOW before it gets to the level you don't want it to be. Shoot I would even speak with the other female....Hope all goes well.
2006-10-18 02:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rican Princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong that he connects with the kids. Of course I can't speak for your specific situation; however, I can speak about my own. For a long time I wanted kids but timing for my ex and I wasn't right. I kept testing the waters with other people's kids to see what it was about.
I think if a bunch of people are in a closed area then you've got to make the most of it. It sounds like that's what he's doing.
Just keep an eye on everyone and you'll be OK. Good luck.
2006-10-18 09:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jeromy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you when you told your fiance the truth that you don't want him left at home with that woman. In my opinion, you should first know yourself. Don't be insecure or jealous. You should talk to your fiance. Seriously, this might jeopardize your relationship. Remember that small things, when piled up, becomes a big problem. My advice is stay calm. Keep your trust. Be honest to yourself. Don't think of what will happen rather if you"ll be happy or simply the present situation. Speak up and keep your head up. Good luck!
2006-10-18 10:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i say you should trust your fiance...although that girl could seduce him..they are known for that..most girls...
so just sit back and relax....if it was meant to be with u and your fiance..then it is...what can you do? if your fiance does not respect you and love you then it means he is not into you...it's better u find out now right? but yes do everything in your power not to let them be alone...
2006-10-18 10:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. You really need to question why you are marrying this guy if you don't feel you can trust him. Whether or not he is just being friendly is irrelevant. The fact is there is a lack of trust. Marriage is built on trust and communication, unless you have both I would reconsider the whole thing.
2006-10-18 09:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance is the type that is not trustworthy, and you are worried that he might have feelings for the other girl, you should break up the engagement, and run. This is foreshadowing for your married life. Maybe your breaking up with him will wake him up. Maybe not. Either way, you'll be better off.
2006-10-18 09:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Don't Know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably, bad situation. He'll be around them all the time now you live there. Keep close watch and if you see him sdoing something that bothers you, talk to him about it. Don't accuse too quickly, but sit him down and talk with him.
Good Luck
2006-10-18 09:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would!! There's nothing wrong with feeling like that at all! Seriously,if you plan on spending the rest of your life with this guy you need to be able to trust him! Talk to him,right now it's all you can do!
2006-10-18 09:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amber R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with amber, If you can't trust your man then there will be lots of problem to follow. Tell him how you feel and if he loves you he will respect your feelings.
Good Luck hope everything turns out the way you want them to.
2006-10-18 09:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah! guys get close with other womens kids because they arent his kids. he can get rid of them at any time. dont feel weird, just punch his brother in the face for suggesting that lame idea. you might let the other girl know that if she messes with your dude she will get the wrath!
2006-10-18 09:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by pitbulldawgz82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋