One of them less than 1 year old, the other one 6.
2006-10-18 02:39:26 · 13 answers · asked by charmed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Like others said you have to have a routine. some time it doesn't work. You have to teach your older kid to do dress and clean on his/her own. when my children were at the age of 7 and 4 I thought them how to clean and wash themselves. Both used to vacuum the house.( not very tidy but it's help) When I cook both used to help me. I made sure that they lay the table or just the folks and knifes.
It is difficult in the morning when you are rushing to work. I always kept all my working cloths and theirs ready by night for following morning. At night they get a good wash to save time in the morning. End of the day after diner I made sure the kids get to bed by 8. That's leaves some adult time. Watching TV or to do few house work. I tend to go to bed by 11. I spend quality time with the kids during the weekends. I let them do what ever they want only week ends. They soon learn that.
2006-10-18 05:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by shiningstar2808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God bless you. I have raised my two son's on my own as well. My husband passed away when my kid's were 3 and 12. I was so freaked out at first, I got remarried right away. That was the worst mistake I ever made. I divorced him right away when I realized he was pyscho. It's taken a lot of sacrifice, some times working two jobs. Then I changed professions so there would be more earning potential. I have stuck with a job I don't really like for 9 years because it pays better. It's paying off though, the oldest is 23 and out on his own. The youngest is 12 and we are doing well. It's hard, but it can be done. Good luck
2006-10-18 02:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definately not an easy road. I have been raising my two kids on my own for almost 6 years now. I work a full time job, and go to school at least part time if not full time. My kids are a bit older 6 and almost 10. I will say it gets easier over time. My number one suggestion is to surround yourself with a support group whether it be family, friends, or church. And set your kids up on a routine.
2006-10-18 02:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I brought up 4 children from my first marriage alone, youngest 6, and one child from my second marriage alone also from the age of 6 years. Thay are stable and caring adults now and have never been any bother. My son living with me is now 21 years of age and you could not meet a nicer person (good looking like his dad also).
2006-10-18 02:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by tucksie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep a routine for them and yourself
Keep aside a couple of hours a week just for you
Treasure the time you have with them
Do the housework on your days off and after the kids are in bed
2006-10-18 02:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I really don't know because I have never been a parent, but I try to look at things objectively. I think for one thing you still need to do is raise them with values. Don't smother them with material things and don't let bad behavior stop you from desipling them. Love means teaching them while there just starting to grow. I don't know if you can afford a baby sitter, but someone you can trust would be a great virtue for them and you.
2006-10-18 02:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by John W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult but its something that you have to do to make a better life for yourselves,you can get help towards childcare if you call at your local job centre they will give you details on going to work and getting help with the children,Ive been a single mum on and off for 20 years and have always-ed worked it gives you a sense of achieving something and shows the kids that everything in life doesn't come for free and if you want it you have to work for it.
2006-10-18 22:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have your hands full. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Try to form a group of moms(they don't need to be single) and work out a schedule, pick up/drop off school, sports events etc...Check if your area offers daycare discounts (income based). It can be done. Good luck!
2006-10-18 02:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will do it, and you will do your best. Good luck. I'm sorry I have no advice but wish you and your children all the happiness in the world. I'm sure they have the best mum in the world too.
2006-10-18 02:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Routine routine routine. Get into a good routine stick to it and things will run (not always) smoothly you know where you are your kids know where they are things go happily!
2006-10-18 02:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋