How do i prove i'm sorry and i love him?

Question

I recently made the biggest mistake ever, i've been with my boyfriend 9 months and can easily say this has been the best relationship i've experienced. the last month has been slightly rocky and when i received a text from a friend suggesting he had feelings 4 me i was suprised and slightly taken back by the attention. i had intention of meeting up behind my boyfriends back or taking it any further. however, my boyfriend saw he texts and now says i need 2 prove 2 him i can be trusted-but how do i do this when i never strayed? i've tried being more considerate but need some advice on how 2 really show him i love him and would never cheat. plz only offer advice not judgement. thank you

Answer 1

try talking to him

then if that does not work do some sexual affections

Answer 2

I would just be honest and explain to him that the guy had texted you, you were feeling sort of down and unappreciated at the time, due to problems between the two of you guys. You had only talked to the guy, nothing further, adn you realised by talking to another man that it is better with him. You care about him, even love him, and would not want to go elsewhere. You are sorry that you felt you couldn't tell him you needed a little more attention and you have learned by the mistake of even talking to another man. but, on the other hand, it was a good thing for your relationship, because talking to someone else only made you realise how much you really do have, and you promise in the future if you need more attention that you will tell him and agree to compromise same with him, if he is feeling neglected than he needs to say something about it. I have had this happen to me before right now I am in a perfect relationship, where I can be honest and tell him that I need more attention and he is ready to compromise and give it to me.

Answer 3

Well, there is no way to prove yourself cause no matter how much you do he's the only one that can develop trust. I suggest you sit him down, apologize, admit you were wrong - that despite what he may think -you had no intention of meeting this person and had no feelings for this person that sent you the message. Tell him that the only way you can prove you are trustworthy is by sticking around and putting effort into the relationship. Tell him that you love him and would never hurt him. He has to give you a chance to rebuild his trust. It will take time, and he might not trust you at first - but if you work hard, see things his way, invest time and effort into the relationship he should be able to trust you once more. By the way - if you do have feelings for another man, I suggest you leave your boyfriend. Good luck!

Answer 4

mmm, it just depends what the texts said,, and how you responded. Do you still have the ones you replied with? how did you respond? Maybe showing him what u sent will give him peace of mind if you told the other lad you weren't interested, or did u tell him you were? You havn't done anything physical, but words can hurt your boyfriend too. Why was he looking through your phone anway? Is he insecure? Trust is a massive thing, and i suppose he'll just have to hold on and let you prove you can be trusted. Youy cant really 'prove ' that you will never cheat, so just be very aware of his feelings and try some romance!

Answer 5

Are you proving to him or you that you love him ? You left a few letters out of your question. Were you saying that you had NO intention of meeting up with this guy ? Assuming that is what you meant , then let you actions and words prove it. Show him that you care and keep no secrets . Had you told him in the beginning, he probably would have taken it better.

Answer 6

Get out of the relationship! No matter how much you love him right now the relationship will just go downhill from here. It doesnt sound like he trusted you in the first place. Sit down with him and tell him how you feel and tell him that you never strayed in the first place! If he doesnt believe youtell him that you need some time apart from him.
Good Luck! :)

Answer 7

For a start you have not made a mistake, you haven't done anything wrong. How can your boyfriend say he can't trust you when you didn't stray. you don't need to prove anything to him if he won't accept your applogy then i think you should forget it. he aint worth your time. On the other hand if you want to show him you love him, give him all the attentio he wants, cuddles and kisses etc, keep telling him you love him. he will soon get the message.

Answer 8

You can't earn a person's trust, they have to trust you from the beggining until they have a reason not too. You can't really prove you've never cheated, he just has to believe you. If he can't believe you then maybe you should move on and find someone else. My boyfriend don't trust me, he don't trust anyone, but there's no possible way for me to earn his trust, he has to do that on his own. The only thing that really matters is that you know you never cheated or never will.

Answer 9

Time is the key thing. and i know this is a pain but it will take time. sorry. But if he knows you didnt do anything, and he carries on the high and mighty for over a week or two, tell him "i have had enough trying to prove to you i love you and i am not doing anything wrong and you should no you love you, and if not, why are you with me. Stop playing games with me." as some boys are serioiusly game players and love to manipulate women.

I know you said no judgment, but if this was me, I would prove to him that nothing has happend, and tell him to get over it. You are fussing over him too much if you aint done nothing wrong. He is insecure right, so he is making you pay for that, so you gotta feed his insecurities. trust me. !!

anyway, goodluck with it all and takecare. x

Answer 10

The truth boils down to the "intent". If you were going to see the other man then you have to work on yourself and your value's & belief's. This is what I think you were going to do!

If you are staying with your BF then let "time tell" as your proof. This relationship is over because there is irreprable damage done and he will never give up wondering and give you the space you need.


Learn lessons and grow wiser.....

Answer 11

I think you should tell him to get a grip it was only a text message you received you didn't send it did you. He shouldn't be so jealous it's only human that other people will find you attractive boyfriend or not. I think you should tell him that he needs to prove that he trusts you as you've done nothing wrong. He sounds a little insecure to me.