I love dateing and I love relationships, the problem i have is that the men I run into are obsessive and stalker like. we'll be together for alittle while and then he'll get weird. have to know where im at, at all times and it goes on and on. these are even guys that i have not met face to face. It bothers me, i've been stalked accouple of times allready in my life and dont want to go through it anymore. I dont get it... I need alittle help.
2006-10-18 02:21:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it probably rests on that guys insecurity. He feels like you will dump him so he becomes overprotective and try to prevent that. Hopefully, you have a good set of friends to watch your back. Good luck.
2006-10-18 02:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by joe19 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably very attractive. A lot of times guys start the stalker stuff because they get jealous and possessive over pretty girls. Try dating an older guy, not 20 years older but someone who is not intimidated by your looks and won't be as apt to go weird on you. Give your relationships a chance to develop before jumping in with both feet. This way you won't be sending the wrong message.
2006-10-18 09:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Donald P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem. Really, it begins with YOU and the type of men you choose. Are you the type of girl who sees a guys faults and believes that you can " FIX" them? Usually the red flags are there at the beginning of a relationship and we convince ourselves to overlook them because the sex is great or tell ourselves the"clingyness" is endearing. Once you step back and look at your own part in this, you will begin to see a pattern that only you can fix. Maybe write down a list of deal-breakers. "I absolutely will not date a man who".........does drugs,...insists I report in to him when I return home from a date,.....has an unusual or bad relationship with his own family......... . Stuff like that. Make up the list that's important to you, then stick to it! Give the list to your best friend and ask him or her to make you stick to it. Good Luck
2006-10-18 09:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lynda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry to hear that. There are a lot of weirdos in this world. I had a guy do that to me when I was younger. Hope you meet a nicer one. Just look for the signs. look at all the guys you have dated and see if you see something that is a common trait that you can look out for in other guys.
2006-10-18 09:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
l suggest you buy yourself some pepper spray and a German Shephard. It sounds like things haven't been to rosy for you in the relationship area. Don't worry.....I bet you will met a really nice guy (who isn't crazy!) and will live happily ever after. I hope so anyway. Good luck
2006-10-18 09:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from dating for a while. Maybe you are just allowing yourself to become involved with other men without really knowing what you are looking for. And yes there are alot of good men out there that are available and not crazy.
2006-10-18 09:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe stop meeting guys off the internet. If you havent met them face to face then you should not let them get any of your information. Maybe try having a friend set you up with someone they know. Good luck
2006-10-18 09:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by gstolard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're stalked by guys you haven't even met face to face? You sure you're not just a teeny bit paranoid?
2006-10-18 09:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tne one common factor in all of you past bad relationships is ... you.
You must be doing something to attract these people, or perhaps you are a poor judge of character. You might want to ask for your friend's advice on this one.
2006-10-18 09:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No we are all crazy obsessive stalkers who only want one thing!!
Yea Baby!!!
2006-10-18 09:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋