whats a polite way to ask people to dress in certain colors for my wedding?

Question

im getting married on vets day at the local vfw and of course the colors are red, white, and blue. (dad is a vet) i would like to see how many i can get at my wedding to show their patriotic style.

Answer 1

I'd phrase it as a suggestion. "Guests may choose to wear red, white, and/or blue to show their patriotic style."

Answer 2

This does seem to be the latest thing. I have been watching the new wedding shows on TV and people not only request guests to wear certain colors but some brides even have all their gifts wrapped in their theme color.

How they get their guests to do this I have no idea. But one wedding I watched the color scheme was gold and white and all the gifts were wrapped in fancy white paper with gold metallic ribbons. The table was covered in these gifts all wrapped the same. It was gorgeous.

If you can pull it off.. more power to you. But don't be shocked when Uncle Joe shows up in plaid, and Aunt Bessy comes in chartreuse despite your polite requests.

I had a formal evening wedding (black tie, white gloves and tails) and some people came in shorts, flip flops and Hawaiian print shirts any way. Yes, these people are clods. And no matter how hard you try there's always a handful of them.

Answer 3

Add an insert card with the invitation. It's the easiest way to let people know everything that's tacky to put on the actual invitation.
Just have a short phrase will do.

"Patriotic attire encouraged."
or
"Patriotic colors preferred."

Or whatever you chose to say. It lets people know that you would like it, but they can still wear whatever they want in the end. If you make it a requirement, some people might be offended since not everybody feels as strongly about patriotism as you do.

Answer 4

It is not appropriate or polite to make this request of your guests. You can only specify that it is formal (by saying black tie or white tie) or specify something they need to knwo for safety reasons (garden party attire means no heels, at water's edge means on beach sand, etc)-- beyond that, you can't specify what they wear.

If you want to have this patriotic theme, consider handing out red-white-blue boutonnieres and corsages to all the guests (that can also be your wedding favor). That would be a polite and generous gesture, rather than a control-freak request.

Answer 5

I would suggest that you add a simple note included with, but not ON the invitation, stating something like
"(In honour of / In light of) our wedding taking place on Veterans' Day, we invite our guests (or simply 'you') to wear patriotic colours when attending our wedding."
I wouldn't phrase it as anything stronger than an invitation to do so (or you risk offending some), and let go of the idea of trying to get large numbers of people to do so. If they do, they do. If they don't, don't let it spoil your day. You have enough details to worry about that ARE under your control.
Congrats, by the way.

Answer 6

I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but I just don't think that is proper ettiquette, and I don't think it's very thoughtful. It is a neat idea, but a lot of people will feel put upon, and some will have nothing appropriate in those colors. Perhaps your bridesmaids can wear those colors.

Answer 7

When my cuz got married, on the bottom left hand side, she requested guests to wear a baby blue color. It was great.
Most everyone wore a certain shade of baby blue and it looked great.

Here's how she worded it.
The sky's the limit....and since the sky is baby blue....
we are requesting all guests to dress in this color...

Answer 8

You just need to put it on your wedding invitations that the colors for your wedding are red white and blue, for my sisters wedding she put on the invitation what colors were supposed to be worn at hers.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

with the invitations put in a cover letter explaining and asking why u would like everyone to wear those colors.