Why should women pursue men why can't they work for it anymore I mean I know we are not living in the stoneages but why do men give up so easily they hardly try anymore is it because they just have it to easy now and have become lacks?Call me old fashioned but there is nothing sexier then a man who is confident enough to make the fisrt move in a street anywhere not a sleazy bar or club!
2006-10-18 01:41:46 · 19 answers · asked by Fuck off 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean so they do pursue just not in England unless you where a 1 inch skirt.Are some women just intimidating and why?Whats is intimidating?Yeah I mean Lax
2006-10-18 01:50:05 · update #1
That is my picture and all the wrong ones seem to in a very sleazy way but I am never rude always friendly but the object of my intrest is making it hard he stares and smiles but I am still waiting to meet him. Is taht men want you to wear a shirt skirt and be always pleasing...?
2006-10-18 01:55:30 · update #2
That is my picture and all the wrong ones seem to in a very sleazy way but I am never rude always friendly but the object of my intrest is making it hard he stares and smiles but I am still waiting to meet him. Is that what men want you to wear a shirt skirt and be always very accessible
2006-10-18 01:56:26 · update #3
Bad experiences has taught me that its not worth the effort, what seems nice at first usually doesn't turn out that way.
2006-10-18 01:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it has partly to do with the type of message a woman sends the man in different situations. For instance; the eye contact, the small gestures, the come-hither approach a woman uses to maintain not just the man's attention, but also his curiousity as to what lies behind the mysterious eyes and smile. If you really look back on history, women had their techniques mastered as to how to capture and maintain a man's attention, and it made men stick around a look for a way to solve the mystery. The eyes say it all......and believe me, it doesn't have to be a look of lust (keep away from the "I'll eat you alive look")......just use a look of mild amusement, make short and almost timid eye contact, it will play to his ego. If he wasn't certain about or 100% confident at first, he'll feel a little more certain of himself. Give it a try.....it just might make a big difference.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-18 02:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ralph 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with "Kitten". If a woman doesn't like the man for some trivial reason (maybe his shoes were ugly, or his fingernails were imperfect), then she will accuse him of sexual harassment and make trouble for the man (if at work) if he is too persistent. Just because she is not a co-worker doesn't mean that she is safe to pursue. Most men believe that if he pursues a woman, then she will accuse him of stalking her and try to get him into trouble with the police.
Radical feminists & womans' studies classes have given men the impression that women are offended by men who come on too strong (or "work for it" as you would put it). Why should a man put a lot of time and effort into prusing a woman if she is just going to make trouble for him if he does? No man wants to be branded a sex criminal simply because his romantic advances were misconstrued.
Besides, why shouldn't women face the same fear of rejection that men do? Equal rights also implies equal responsibility. Why should women be allowed to be lazy? Why shouldn't women pruse men?
2006-10-18 01:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Relations between men and women have changed a lot.
Until about the 60's, women would be risking much more in their relation with mens, society condemned "loose" women and sex was way more dangerous in term of pregnancy. So women were more prudent, and would want to make sure the guy could be THE ONE, and could be a worthy husband.
Marriage was way more constraining to women, they would have to give up their name, virginity, independance "forever", divorce was not an option. Girls had to be real sure about it and about the guy. Men had to convince them and the way to show they were sincerely interested was to be persistent and pursue the girl to prove that you were really into her and would stay that way for a very long time.
That isn't the case anymore. Girls have no reason to hold out anymore. Relation are now about equals partners. It's the job of both genders to make the relation work and be fruitful.
Nowaday if a man approach a girl and she doesn't respond to him, he would accept the fact that she isn't interested and look out for someone who is. Girls have to do their part and manifest their interest, and doing so, share the risk of getting rejected.
Both partners have to be into it and know that the other is also for a relation to develop, so the old model of the men going for it and the women holding out isn't appropriate anymore. Both must be into the relation for it to grow.
2006-10-18 05:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda Miyagi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it just has to do with our society. Not just in England, but also here in the USA. Our lives are so busy and hectic, so full of appointments and deadlines, its hard to concentrate on giving a lot of energy into pursuing a relationship.
So, when a guy is interested, he'll let you know. If you shoot him down, he might try again, but probably not. He'll just go off somewhere else. Its just no longer worth the time and effort. I know that sounds harsh, but that's just the way our society is.
2006-10-18 01:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men are just as swamped as women with work and keeping up their homes. Men are not as lazy about housekeeping as they used to be.
Men are also not as comfortable with the pursuit. There have been so many lawsuits for abuse. Most men are afraid of coming on too strong and back off if they think a woman might get angry.
Not to mention that it is quite nice to be pursued as well as pursuing. I knew that my future wife cared when she offered to take me out a number of times during our courtship. It also defined our relationship as equal.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-18 01:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Because NO means NO and if the avatar you use is your picture you should have guys hitting on you all the time unless you live in a convent or on a desert island. Anyways how about dinner sometime?
2006-10-18 01:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feminist changed the rules.
And you may be on to something , both of my sons were asked out by their current girlfriends that never happened in my day.
Maybe a ring on the right hand could mean single and interested, think Yahoo people could start a trend?
2006-10-18 01:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because there's this thing called sexual harrassment and if the woman in question is not kindly inclined to the man making the advance, he could get in a lot of trouble. There are advantages to both approaches I think.
2006-10-18 01:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
men still pursue ladies just walk through the mall in a short skirt and watch what happens
2006-10-18 01:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by jim & doreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dummy. If you don't want men to hit on you in bars and clubs. Don't go to bars and clubs.
Calm your attitude down, and someone will hit on you. But if you are into someone why can't you do what you expec the man to do and say something.
2006-10-18 03:08:05 · answer #11 · answered by dj nkro 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋