I recently snooped on my girlfriends I.M. and found messages from this one guy she goes to school where they are joking around about sex and making sexual comments to each other. I also found a message where this guy told her that he would have sex with her and she responded by saying that if she was single, she would do it to but then responded "haha". The messages also talked about dirty texts they sent back and forth over their phones, in some of the messages they say how they know it would never happen but its just fun to think about. I approached my girl about what I found and she was totally sorry and said that the whole class talks about sex all the time and that she was only joking around with him and that there is nothing there. I dont know what to think.
2006-10-18 01:41:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is a follower. Sex is nothing to joke about. Consider that if you two have children, they will be airheads too.
But you are a snoop. You have problems too. Why don't you two work on your respective problems. Don't snoop on her anymore, and tell her to act her age (anything over 7 or 8 will do) and be more responsible in order to earn the title of girlfriend to you.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 01:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is she doing, huh? I think you should casually talk about this to her or bring it up somehow.. she might steer the conversation to the fact that you snooped and went through her stuff and your conversation will go nowhere. You should at least try to convey the message that you should be the only one whom she talks like that too.... that is if you guys aren't in an open relationship or aren't as serious about each other. If this gets out of hand then you shouldn't be around her because even if " This doesn't mean anything to her" it's still disrespectful and IF she says you should trust her then she should still understand that others cannot be trusted as these guys might take it that she's sending sexual messages to them and that she's making herself available for that. I can only say that, mate cause I don't know how open you guys are with each other in conversations and how much she lets you see her IM or her other private stuff. In any case good luck and hope this turns out the best for you.
2006-10-18 01:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by C h e e z C ஐ k e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is not being very loyal to you. If she cared about you, she would not be talking that way to other guys.
A flirt is a seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to exploit men. Does that person sound appealing to you for a girlfriend? If you tell her the truth about what you found out, and let her know it bothers you, maybe she will change. If not, I'd reconsider her as a girlfriend.
2006-10-18 01:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you're going to get a lot of answers along the line of, "she's a ho, dump her." Avoid that.
If you snoop in your girlfriend's text message history, you might not like what you find. It doesn't matter who she is or what she's doing. It's like asking a question when you don't want to know the answer.
My boyfriend will find things like "he's such a stubborn asshole, sometimes." Not to mention thousands of hours where I'm teasing and flirting, online. Why am I doing it? Because I can do it without being overheard. I think I can get away with it. If my boyfriend were to corner me on it, asking me why I'm doing it, I would try to phrase my answer so as to avoid hurting him, rather than saying the truth, which is, "I like the freedom to be a slüt without all the danger of being a slüt."
Why would a nice girl want to be a slüt? I like the power I have over males.
Back to you. What are you afraid of? Are you jealous and insecure? This is normal. I am, too. I don't think I'd like it if I found out my boyfriend talked all naughty to some girl.
How does she act with you? Is she hot for you? Is she loving to you? Is she good, giving, and game for anything with you?
I'd bet that you first became attracted to you because she flirted with you and that made you feel special. Now you're hurt because you find out she flirts with more than just you, and you are afraid you're not that special to her.
I'm not saying it's ok for her to sleep around. I'm saying she might have need to feel super sexy to everyone she knows. Be special to her in a new way - love her for her flirty, slightly wild self. It's who she is. Do you love her for who she is? Or for who you want her to be?
2006-10-18 02:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Trish B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let it slide. Sometimes what we write in email or notes on paper isn't at all like crossing the line in having a face to face conversation about it. She may have been totally embarrassed to have you see that. With some people, it only takes once for something they emailed or wrote to be found to make them realize that it's almost like actually having the conversation. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then ask her to please not do that or talk like that again, no matter how harmless it seems. If she continues, then I'd think something was up. Just go with your gut.
2006-10-18 01:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust, there is no reason to be in a relationship because it will eventually crumble. I know this first hand!
Just try to relax by showing her that you trust in her to do the right thing. It should make things between you and her better. We are all taking a chance when we enter a relationship...and this is a touchy situation because once it's in my mind that he will or is thinking about cheating, then I might as well walk away because jealousy will take over and the relationship and connection will eventually rot.
2006-10-18 01:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you 2 should worry about school not sex. She has been honest with the person she flirts with about being taken. The big problem is you not trusting her and snooping around her private stuff. It is a good thing she evens talks to you after invading her private space. No Trust No Relationship!!
2006-10-18 01:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by matteo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes in high school and shes just having fun its harmless.If she was getting with another guy yea i could see a problem,but she always tells them if she was single so calm down and flirt with your girl friends,its high school.I flirt with my friends that are girls in front of their boy friends and they dont care as long as i dont touch them,and im alot older then high school,so have fun and enjoy life.If it really bothers you that bad that she does it,talk to her about and explain to her in a calm way how you feel about her doing it.If she dont want to stop tell her you will find someone that dont do that to you,and see if that makes her stop.
2006-10-18 02:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by littleshygui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is talking to other guys and joking about having sex with them, then you have two options:
1) if you really care about her and love her, you should confront her and try to talk it out.
2) if she's just an average gf and no one that special, you might want to break up with her. And if she gives them her address or shows them pics, then you should defiantly break up with her, if she feels like to be complete she needs sex with other guys, then she probably doesn't like you very much.
2015-03-01 04:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Collin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea dude shes bein immature and trying to get you to think you have to be careful about losing her. Just tell her you don't want to hear it anymore, people get hit on all the time so its nothing special when guys hit on her.
2016-03-18 21:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋