My brother told my mom not to say anything to the police. I want nothing to do with him again, am I right?

Question

There was a previous question: Do you think that a new girlfriend who beat up an exwife in his mother's home has problems? It was my mother's birthday (75th) and my brother's exwife came with a gift. My brother and his new gf showed up and the gf jumped on her and assulted her. I (sister) is very upset because my mother is not well and this excitement made her feel faint and I think its disgraceful.

He is saying that the exwife hit first, not the gf. The only one present was my mom since I don't live with her. Mom said she won't say anything to the police and doesn't want neither (gf or exwife) at her door again. I think she is wrong but there's nothing I can do.

The gf lives with my brother and he doesn't like him paying child support as she has 2 kids of her own from an exhusband and wants the money for them instead. Unreal, huh??? I told mom they weren't fighting over him mom but fighting over his money.

Answer 1

The new gf is psychotic. However it is up to the ex wife to call the police. I wouldn't be around the new gf if you paid me. What's she going to do to me if I upset her, beat me up too? Forget that crap. Who need that kind of drama?

Answer 2

To begin with....the ex-wife sounds like a hillbilly. Your brother sounds like one too because he actually drags the new play toy with him probably knowing full well the fist play-toy he discarded will be there. I can't answer for the new toy. Other than I hope she re-evaluates her taste in men...re: your brother.
Finally....to have this entire comedy take place in front of your mother on this her 75th birthday is despicable and of such low class that you have every right to feel the way you do. Not to mention your dimwit brother telling mom not to tell the police what happened. there's a real man. Protecting the old girlfriend after she assaults his new one. What a fiasco.

My dear....if you were to distance yourself from this moronic sibling of yours and never admit to his existence ever again you'd be doing the proper thing and with good reason.

Answer 3

she would never be able to step into my house again, and I would let her know how upset it made you because it made you upset because it made your mother upset, she has to realize that your brother had someone else before her and you guys are going to continue to be friends whether she likes it or not. I would have said something to the police myself, don't let her get away with this, that was uncalled for. What is she unsure about herself. does she have low self esteem? I would tell my brother not to bring her any where around theree because your mother doesn't need that happening every time ther is going to be some sort of party where the ex might be invited, if she will even come by any more.

Answer 4

I think that is a little drastic to completely stop talking to your brother, family is family, but sometimes their love life can interfere. I think you need to definitely chew him out, and feed him with a long pole, if you get my drift. You guys relationship will definitely change due to this matter, but I don't think it is a reason to completely cut ties with your brother. Yes i will agree, he is being an Jack **** completely taking his girlfriend side over his family, but sometimes people are blinded by love. Also yes, that chick needs help, and she definitely wouldn't be invited to anymore gatherings. I also think you all should still called the police to get a restraining order on that psycho.

Answer 5

Totally disgraceful and stupid and she should have been hauled off by the police. Why do people think it is okay to resort to physical violence? Since when does bringing a gift to someone you cared for rank assault? It used to be that men were the only stupid jealous Neanderthals out there....but female violence has increased in alarming numbers....and it needs to stop.

Anyone who lowers themselves to physical violence deserves to answer for their actions. I wouldn't cut off my brother, but I would state clearly that you have no wish to be around a violent person. You have that right. And your brother should open his eyes before he becomes a victim of violence.

Answer 6

Yes your right this behavior is not except-able at your mothers b-day party and your brother had no business standing up for the new g/f because the next one she will be assaulting could very well be him or you keep your distance until this relationship ends and trust me it will if she continues to act like a idiot

Answer 7

Oh my god,He,s new girlfriend sounds like a real Sweetheart!I feel so sorry for your mom,you need to pull your brother aside and have a talk with him!and remind him,blood is thicker than water!And if he,s new friend can not control herself at your mom,s,she is not welcome!Your mom doesn,t need the stress!can you inmagine what she,ll do if she gets made at your brother,MAMAMER!Good Luck dear,and your a good person caring about your mom like that!God bless you!Hollywood

Answer 8

Why isn't the ex-wife calling the police? If she doesn't care then you shouldn't either. I do think it's very rude of the GF though.

Answer 9

I AM VERY SORRY. BUT try to let it go and keep the two separated from each other. OR i am afraid the two will do it again.AND take good care of your mother.

Answer 10

You should have called the police . I would have . This whole mess could have been avoided had you told your brother that his g/f was not welcome because his wife was going to be there. a little common sense please . Good luck and god bless.