but yet i cannt bear the thought of leaving him because i know deep down he loves me loads. i can see that he is trying his best to be a really nice boyfriend, but there are loads of things about him that i am trying to accept, but i'm really really tired of trying.. i love him too, but if i cannt accept him as who he is, is it better that we end this relationship? i feel so frustrated deep within me now..
2006-10-18 01:26:45 · 17 answers · asked by Samantha T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It might be and it might not. Just try to evaluate the issues creating your reaction here and weigh them for their importance to you.
2006-10-18 01:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on?you say he trys but really is he trying or pacifying?There's a difference If he's pacifying no good. And how old are you?The reason I ask is looking at personality traits already learned this may be a player you dont want.He knows how to jerk your chains or should I say pull your strings lil miss puppet.When he's on thin ice (your ready to say bye) he figures it's time to fly right. Once your past the frustration with him he's back to what ever he feels like doing.So it's up to you is he worth his crap and are you worth better treatment which you know perfectly well is out there some where.
2006-10-18 08:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by hardworking_ct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if there are many things you cannot accept about your boyfriend, then maybe you are not most suited together because not matter how hard he tries, he CANNOT change overight.
It depends on what you value in a life partner or a boyfriend. Is loving you lots the most important thing? is that so important that other things are no longer important?
It may sound very bad to say this but this is just my personal opinion n I may not be right... if your answer is that it is not THAT important and that other things are important as well. You are better off not wasting his time and yours.
2006-10-18 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your happiness matters a lot more than anything. You can love someone and still not be happy. Have you tried discussing those issues with him? If you've tried everything and i mean, everything and its still not working, its best to leave. Yes, he will be hurt and may never speak to you again but he will heal. As i always say, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
And when you end it, don't date when you're on the rebound and take time to know and study a guy before dating him so that way, you won't have the same problem again.
2006-10-18 08:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll thought you have brought up this question recently ? Let me remind you, you sound like this is the only man on earth worth your love and you feel frustrated. As I have said that should you commit sexual relationship with him then die,die you have to hold on with him because you are in the loss,loss situation. Otherwise, leave him at once and go for another better man. Act fast, age is catching up ! Don't waste your time in that sort of frustration mood. Good luck !
2006-10-18 08:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are already tired in one or two monts you whont love him anymore you will hate him.maybe the real problem is that you really like another boy.dont stay with a men that you dont love it will end bad.when you go in a relation make shore that that is what you whant.this way is not only you but he will be hert too.talk to him and tell him that you cant take it anymore,he is the best guy you ever meet but is not you still.
2006-10-18 08:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by zucker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't compromise and accept the person as they are, your relationship is doomed to failure. It's about acceptance of who they are. If the bad things are worse than the good things, then it's time to move on. If you can accept the things that you don't like for the sake of the good things, then you're OK.
2006-10-18 08:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Glennroid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd be loads and loads better to move on to someone you might have a future with, and allow him to do the same. If he's really trying so hard, he sounds too good for you anyway.
2006-10-18 08:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that just happened to me and i broke up with him like yesterday...i love him to death and he loves me too but we argued all the time and he made me so mad all the time, i feel kinda sad that im not with him right now but i fell more free and i have all my friends back (and i can FLIRT ALL I WANT!!!!) so just do whatever u have 2 even if it does hurt a little, it'll all work out 4 the best
2006-10-18 08:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has to be full of compromises but if u cant, just let it be. Its either you accept those those things you are trying to accept or just leave him.
2006-10-18 08:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋