my bf complains abt alot! my drinkin smokin hair. doesnt think i'm good enuf to meet his parents.
2006-10-18 01:18:47 · 31 answers · asked by shakeit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He knew what you were like when he met you - change for no man - only for yourself
2006-10-18 01:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by feebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u an alcoholic? Do u smoke crack?! Cos even if that's true, if he loves , or is fallin 4 u, he'd help u, not complain. No, he is pushin his issues wiv his parents on2 u. If it weren't the smelly hair, it'd b something else. If he has ever uttered the words 'u're not good enough', u've got 2 c that as a major superiority complex on his part. Which is probably just a front masking his own insecurities, which probably stem from his parents havin ridiculously high expectations of him. He sounds like a tosser, & he needs 2 sort his own issues out. u shouldnever b ashamed of ur drinkin/ smokin.
Just so u know, I'm in my early 20s. I've never smoked & I'm teetotal except for a glass or 2 of wine @ birthdays. All my family r the same. We all went 2 the best schools, universities etc & r comfortably off. My boyfriend comes from a cockney family, is dyslexic, smokes & drinks (though not 2 excess). He used 2 take drugs, but 2gether he & I got him tthe help he needed. My family don't know about the drugs,admittedly, but they love him cos he's a wonderful guy, wiv a kind heart.
It's his problem if he comes from a snobby family, & he's spineless if he isn't proud enough of u 2show u off. Don't make it ur problem. Ditch him, & tell him he was never good enough 4 u!
2006-10-18 08:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not good enough to meet his parents? That's not a good sign. It sounds to me like you are just a girl to pass his time until he finds someone better and doesn't see the need to introduce you to his parents since you won't be around too long anyway. If you are not good enough (in his opinion) go find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. I'm sorry for being so blunt, but its better to realize it now then further down the road when you've invested more time and love into this relationship. Good luck!!
2006-10-18 08:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he said you're not good enough to meet his parents?! Well what are you doing with someone who has such bad manners towards you, and obviously doesn't rate you much as a person. Leave now and find someone who is worthy of you.
2006-10-18 08:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"my drinkin smokin hair"
what exactly are you trying to say there???
I have to tell you that if your BF doesn't think that your good enough to MEET his parents then he certainly doesn't think that your good enough to marry.
2006-10-18 08:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and tell him that it makes you inferior of his love. If he loves you then he will understand and correct things between you guys. Like me and my boyfriend. He expects me to be this perfect chick and I told him to go out and find her because I am definitely not her. As I have my imperfections and so does he. He realised his mistake and made amends. Talk to him about it. The key to make any relationship a success is communication, honesty, trust and respect.
2006-10-18 08:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound perfect t me, what the f--k is wrong with him a girl like you dosn't come around that often. you should knee him in the nuts everytime he complains, he will thank you for it and even look forward to getting kicked by you and will be more accepting of you.
2006-10-18 08:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my girlfiends hair drank and smoked I would complain too. I certainly wouldn't let you meet my parents.
2006-10-18 08:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry ***.... if he loved you he woulnt comlpian in the first place, if he was nervous about you meeting his parents thats one thing but to think that your not good enough... dump him
2006-10-18 08:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by M D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready for commitment.
Doesn't love you either. If he does no matter the kind of person you are, he will at least try to change you for good
Leave.
2006-10-18 08:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by atutuboyoyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, quit smoking.....I did it cold turkey.....all you have to do is set a date that is very important to you, like someone very close to you death or birth date, someone that wants you to quite.
Then, clean your as* up.....do you really think anyone is going to love someone who does them self harm....unless this person is also harming themselves?......Think about you future....healthy is happy!
2006-10-18 08:25:51 · answer #11 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋