whats this mean, please help?
ok about a month ago, i spilled my guts to one of my friends, told her that i like her alot, and all this stuff, shes only 13. well she wrote me back and said she hasnt ever seen us as more thanfriends, and that she dont like me like that but she dont want it to ruin our 8 year frendship.. well..over the past month, I've been avoiding her, simply for my sake, just simply not to bring those feelings back up, cuz when I'm around her they all come back. but she emailed me yesterday, and said she was sad, becauze it was straining our friendship. and she wants things like they used to be, well i told her why i had been avoinding her, and she said she totatlly understood why. well, I know she dont like me like that now, but am I crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the future, cuz she was obvioulsy ( she said) she was really sad, seeing us like this, and since shes only 13, am i crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the next year or two? she also said, " dont take the rejection to heart
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that the reason was probably stupid anyway, whats that mean?
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and for those who say, I am punsihing her, I am not in any way. We have had very friendly discussions, and she understands why, things have been this way. And I have reassured her, promised her, that I will make things the way the used to. Do u really think I want to lose the friendship as well? I mean, that hurts.
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I mean, its not like I'm ugly, I'm very atractive, and so is she. I mean I'm fit, I play varsity baseball, and am only a sophmore, It's not like I'm a geek or anything. And the same with her, she is very good lookin, has guys hitting on her all the time, and is on the national swim team, I just dont know what to do, cuz i swear to god i love her more than anything in this world
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i mean i just cant get over her, I have never in my life, liked anyone, or felt so strongly for somone. Believe me, this isnt a crush, I have had many, but htis is more
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but, since me and her are friends again, we were talking about this girl who likes me, but i dont like her... and the girl i like, said i should just tell her i wanna stay friends, just incase i ever change my mind....?? which is the exact same thing she told me.. what it mean??
2006-10-18 01:13:51 · 17 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, first you need to understand that your hormones are running rabid on you. Then with that understood, exersize the patience of Job.
2006-10-18 01:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you guys have been friends for a long time is whats probably making her think twice about getting any closer with you. You gotta look at what can happen and what you will be giving up here. If you guys did end up going out... ull have ur goodtimes & all, but what if you guys breakup oneday? then what are u gonna do.... chances are u guys wont be friends anymore... or if you guys still are friends there will still be an odd vibe between you two. Losing an 8 year friendship would not be worth it at all... just stay friends w/ her, then maybe someday you guys will end up going out...but for now kick back and enjoy life!! Also the fact that u are staying away from her is really understandable.. but for how long r u gonna stay away? In the end it will all work out the way its supposed to... the saying goes "no pain, no gain." Email me if u need anymore help.
2006-10-18 03:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Track 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very very mature as you do. This must be terribly difficult for you, but what has happened over the years is that she has been 100% open with you because her feelings for you are friendship feelings only. She has opened up to you, trusted you, loved you for it and appreciated it. Her feelings do not extend past friendship. She loved talking about her deepest secrets, thoughts, dreams to you because she felt so comfortable in your presence.
This is tough. You've found a woman who is perfect in your eyes, caring, athletic loves life has a great future ahead of her . . . but you need to realize that it's the right person at the wrong time. You seemed to have done the right thing by staying away from her for a while (not in a mean way) since it'll only prevent you from finding any other girls attractive (physically, emotionally, intellectually). She'll unintentionally stunt your growth.
Continue to keep your distance from her for a while, date around, and most of all: good luck. You both seem to be much older (emotionally) than your years indicate.
2006-10-18 01:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I am in the same exact position that you are in. Just check my last question, and you will see. I feel so strongly about the girl that I am in love with, and since it is a very similar situation, with her being 14, and me just turning 16, it's the same. I wish I could give you an answer, but I'm still waiting for one that will help me problem. So, good luck!
P.S.: You should start hanging out with her again. That way, you will be able to maintain those feelings about her, and since you will be around her more often, when someone messes with her or she is in any danger, take the bullet for her. If I had that chance with the girl that I love, I would definitely take it so then she would know how much I care about her. I would die for her, and if you truly loved her and cared about her, you would too...
2006-10-18 01:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lol, seriously I couldn't help it when i first read your question and descriptions lmao!! why? because i used to you justttt like you :) and when i looked back, i saw how stupid i was lmao and ofcourse how immature i was. Obviously... avoiding her is not necessary at all dude. In return, you would lose a great friend and she would miss a great friend also. Please stop avoiding her. Look here... she gave you a head start by saying that all of the avoiding stuff aren't neccessary... she's freakin sad man!! be her friend, be there for her when she needs you. Dude she's only 13... there're plenties of times for ya man. Do you know her much a girl could change in one year? she could change the way she think of you in a very short time, she might like you some day, you'll never know dude. The way is to just stop ignoring her, be her friend FOR now.... plus she's pretty immature for her age dude... so don't worry, she'll grow to understand ;). GOod luck
2006-10-18 01:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she said that the reason she rejected you was probably a stupid reason then maybe she does have feelings for you, but maybe its the fact that you are older than her. or maybe its the fact that you guys have been firends for so long so if you date and then break up, it will ruin such a long friendship and i'm sure she doesn't want that. have you told her you love her? she may not be ready to make a commitment. and i'm sure she doesn't think you are ugly. do you hang out with her on a regular bases? if so, why don't you try taking her out to dinner? or the movies or something? you seem to feel VERY strongly about this girl, try telling her how you feel again...but take it SLOW, don't tell all this information at one time; it could overwhelm her and eventually push her away. and you definatley DO NOT want to do that!!
2006-10-18 01:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 23:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by wengreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might be happy to know this problem
doesnt go away when u get older, what coud i tell u,,,,
the heart is a lonely hunter
the way i deal with it is to still love someone, but to not
get too attached,,,,,like i'm hoping to win her
love, but if it coudn be,,,,,,next case
course its easier said than done,when the waves of obsession
hit u u just hav to hold on, like a rollercoaster,
u just cant get off
take it from someone who's lived quite a few years more
than you, you'l probably survive,,,,,,i survivd at least
9 women in this way
2006-10-18 02:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by enigma q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...maybe you should look into other "options".
After all, if your friend can stand by and see your attentions turned to another girl and be ok with it...she really does just see you as a friend.However,if jealousy rears its evil head...it may just speed things up for you. Good luck..just don't go to far.
2006-10-18 01:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by jen_n_tn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means just what she said. She is just wanting to be friends, so be a friend. Sometimes we don't get what we want, but better to remain friends and have a good friend then no friendship at all. And friends make better relationships if that's what they become. Don't be so pushy you have plenty of time to find someone to date.
2006-10-18 01:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋