Is it worse to have someone you love die suddenly or to be terminally ill and watch them die?

Question

I know there a million different answers, and reasons. Serious answers only, please - from the heart.
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Answer 1

When my dad was diagnosed with cancer I thought that it would be great to "prepare" myself for his death. Well...hell...it took 9 agonizing months for him to die [he was 62] and every weekend was a funeral. It was hell on me and him. I think now (having been through that) I would prefer someone would have called me and just said he got run over by a bus and died.

I didn't have a bunch of goodbyes to say and make up for anything. I did all that my whole life. I was a good daughter so if he had died suddenly, I would not have had any regrets. People talk about making peace before someone dies - that's a bunch of garbage.

Answer 2

I say "die suddenly" cause that way She / he will only be gone tht moment and missed forever. Other way seeing her bein terminally ill and watchin her die every single day , man it ll make you worse.

Losing someone we love is the most unbearable and unforgettable , painful thing ever in a lifetime. Hope none of us ever face such a terrible end.

God save our loved ones.And watch em over.

Answer 3

That's a very difficult question to answer.

Watching someone suffer, knowing you're going to lose them and not being able to do anything about it would be extremely painful.

Losing somebody suddenly, dealing with shock, not getting the chance to say how you felt one last time or to say goodbye would be equally as bad.

I honestly don't think you could compare the two. If someone died suddenly atleast you wouldn't remember them as ill, or sick you'ld remember them how they lived, when they were at their best. But you'ld never be able to say goodbye and tell them you love them.

I'm sorry I can't answer it.

Answer 4

To die suddenly rocks your world. Terminally ill you still have a chance to tell the person you love them and you can kiss and hold them.

Answer 5

I would think it would be worse to watch them die slowly.
At least if it's sudden, you know the person didn't suffer.
A terminal illness is a slow death. None of us that love a person going through this wants them to die a slow, agonizing death. It takes its toll on them and on us emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Wish you well

Answer 6

i think terminally ill is worse than suddenly dying, all the pain they most go through! id rather a loved one died suddenly with hardly and pain than a long sufferer.
When im in that situation my loved ones feelings always come first before mine!!
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Answer 7

This is a Hobson's choice you are giving.It is like the mythical king giving him an option to kill him either by sword,arrow shot or burning at stakes. However, if the question is compulsory I would rather go in for the sudden death. To see your loved one wasting away is like a daily death sentence. My father had a paralytic stroke when he was around ninty.Not that I did not love him but I used daily pray to god to take him away

Answer 8

I would prefer neither. But if I had a choice, I would say suddenly. As someone close to me has recently died. She found out 2 weeks before she died that she had advanced cancer. She lived a long and healthy life until then.

Answer 9

i wouldn't want anyone to suffer unnecessarily.
however, sometimes, time heals so many wounds, aches, sour relationships, and the like. the time they have left (although suffering) can actually be the best time they may be thankful for. it's indeed complicated, but we never know the ways of God.

i'd visit a friend or relative who's dying, and not really wish him or her to die. i'd rather cherish tose moments..

Answer 10

I have been through both and both are horrible. I couldn't pick one. I watched my grandfathe, my grandmoterh and my father suffer. I had an aunt and a friend die instatnly. Death is just plane horrible