Okay, see I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months, going on 5, and I kind of talked to another dude, will we were together. But the thing is we got over that and we moved on. Now the other day I was on a chatline, and added the other boy as my friend, not thinking it would piss him off, but it did. So I talked to him and we settled it, but yesterday he got pissed all over again. Now what in the world is his problem, b/c I don't have any feelings towards the other dude, but he thinks we're still talking on the low. I know I betrayed his trust, but why does he keep bringing it up if he says that he's over it?!?!???
2006-10-18 01:01:12 · 14 answers · asked by hotchick5195 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend is possessive and jealous.
Possessive people like to be in control and take all the power away from you, if he's jealous, then he doesn't trust you.
Get rid of him - he is a waste of space.
2006-10-18 01:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by thebigtombs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know he isnt over it but will say he is to stop the arguments also so you want think he is jealous.Come on now you knew that your man had been a problem in your relationship(other dude) and you both have just ended a argument(not really over)I cant believe that you would add this dude a day later a as friend and not even think your man would be mad (yes you were not thinking about your man only yourself ..again p)You man problem is you if he was seeing another woman (just like you man friend)would you have a problem?Yes you would. You think its fine you dont know why your man is tripping because you are only having your way being able to be around 2 men that you enjoy(but your disrespecting your man)You said you are kind of talking to another dude but now you dont like him..I hope this isnt the weak arguments you give your man.So you are saying that the only time you talk to this other guy is when all three of you are together(which is not the case he would have been around when you added him as a friend he wasnt)Your man is thinking like any other person would that you like this man..(stop laying to yourself)and take him off the friends list if you want to regain your mans trust. If the guy doesnt mean anything to you then there isnt a problem and your man will no longer have doubts.Its been only 4 months can thing get worst if you dont think you done anything wrong.
2006-10-18 08:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he says he's over it doesn't mean he is.Sounds like the new boyfriend needs to gain some self confidence(dam egos)I have no clue why egos are automatically instilled in these boys when they can't handle it. If these sort of problems are occuring now I would take that as a red flag this sort of jealousy will only get worse deeper in the relationship,you will become his property more then his partner then how do you think he'll act. No friends male or female next thing you know if your attention is anywhere but on him the fight will be on.In the long run you will completley loose yourself and become what he thinks you should be.Jerks say they like who you are till they get ya then they want you to change to be who they want.Then after they accomplish this they decide that's not what they want.(the good lord confused them giving them 2 heads lol) Keep your mind in control over your heart the heart is what causes us to be in situations the mind would disagree with but at the same time if you have betrayed him before especially somewaht recently then you have to understand if there is conflict in his mind w/trust.
2006-10-18 08:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by hardworking_ct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your bf doesn't trust you with other guys. Sure the other guys know that you have a bf and will respect that, but your bf doesn't trust you. Is he this same way when you go out wtih your girl friends too? I say leave him. He has some insecurities to work out on his own and some trust issues that he needs to deal with before getting into another serious relationship.
2006-10-18 08:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's just nervous of losing you or he's jealous that your talking to another guy. Guy's tend to get a little freaked when there girl talks to other guys. My last boyfriend would never say anything but his facial expressions would say it all. I have more guy friends than i do girl ones so it was easy to explain and he was fine with it after i told him it was stirckly friendship. He maybe different than my last boyfriend.
2006-10-18 08:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mandie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide if the new one is worth losing your bf over ........ I know that is it was me I would just lose the friend ...... one day it might be him talking to a gurl and how you going to feel ........ ppl have there own sense of whats right either except it or dont but he will get more annoyed with time if you dont lose the new guy..... and the fact that you have kept talking with him kinda belies the fact that you arnt interested
2006-10-18 08:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to convince himself that he's over it when he really isn't.. you need to have a heart to heart with him and tell him that you have no feelings toward the other guy and see what he feels... if he stays jealous for a while it might not be worth being together
2006-10-18 08:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by comemychildren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look there is no other reason that you arent allowed to talk to another man, unless it would bother you if he was talking to another woman. if it wouldnt bother you then you8 need to get out of such a controlling relationship. treat the way you want to be treated
2006-10-18 08:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was in his shoes then i would do the same.
I think the reason that he pissed off is he loves you, and he doesn't want to see you with another person.
That is We call it LOVE.
2006-10-18 08:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH! He's not over it & it still hurts & it seems that you need to lay off the chat lines if you want to be with this guy. Once you get betrayed you can forgive but you never forget.
2006-10-18 08:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋