Recently, my fiancée "discovered" that I was surfing through some por*n sites at the web (as a matter of chance she checked my laptop in my absence & found some files/girl-pics). Now she "accuses" me of cheating on her. I love her to death. She questioned me, I spoke the truth : "Yes , I do enjoy por*n", now I am in a fix.... Plz help how do I convince her that viewing por*n is not a crime !! Every guy enjoys it. Do other gals feel the way as mine ?? Need your help & views !
2006-10-18 00:29:35 · 32 answers · asked by Software_pro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your question here would be....Is she worth marrying if she doesn't trust you now, why would she later? She was being sneaky.
Hmmm.....You've done what you could with being honest. She should admire that in you and not worry, but it'll be up to her what she decides.
And yes, I'd say young girls feel that way about their guy googling over other women...older women could care less.
Wish you luck there. I'd suggest, find another girl who won't go poking around your things when you're away. Sheesh, do you want to live that way for the rest of your life? Think about it.
2006-10-18 00:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women view **** in a totally different way than men. Women are raised with some firm notions, and they include the supremacy of romantic love, that sex can lead to pregnancy so be careful with it, and that they should not swear, do vulger things etc. Men, on the other hand, usually have a rougher upbringing where they are expected to be more sexually focused. Most men like ****. I find there is a great deal of hypocracy out there: so-called progressive women say they don't mind gay men having a loose lifestyle and watching lots of ****, but god forbid any straight man behaving that way. She should not mix up fantasy with reality. She should realise that it is better this stuff stays in the realm of fantasy, than you trying to suppress your nature and then eventually cheating.
2006-10-18 00:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bob M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I consider it cheating. Because you or looking upon naked people and you shouldn't . Your eyes should be only for her and her alone. You are making her feel second best to the ****. And that you are not satisfied with her. If you love her and enjoy being with her. Then why watch ****. Is she not ever thing you wanted in a woman . If she quit it and make her the only one and you will go far with that. If you quit some day she will brag about it to the other girls and say.( My Man don't watch **** cause he is in love with me and well satisfied with me. So he don't need ****.)
2006-10-18 00:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're perfectly right , Bro!!
She cant rule your life like that ... You have all right to watch whatever you like... and its not a criminal offence either (if you are a right age)
By doing this youre actually satisfying a male desire ... We men are made to be attracted to such stuff... She shud be glad you're normal... I mean at least Britney spears dint threw tantrums when she faced a similar situation... Tell your girl to grow up...
And She shud be proud of you that you accepted the truth honestly ... and that youre not hiding this or performing it with other girls..
If shes unable to take the truth the way it is ... maybe shes not the right kind for you ... Move on and find yourself a better partner. There aer lots of sensible girls out there
2006-10-18 00:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Watching this 'Stuff' will (Long-Term) affect your Ability to Love and Treat with respect Your Girlfriend!.
That's a Fact!
It's Just Like a Drug!
Except the consequences can greatly affect the One You Love and the way you think and Treat her!!
(Along with the way You View Women in General)
2006-10-18 00:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question pops up a lot (forgive the pun). ALL men enjoy ****, if the girly disapproves the guy will just sneak around and watch it. It doesn't bother me at all. The way I see it is that I don't care where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home for his dinner...!
2006-10-18 00:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Janbull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psh.. it's kinda sad that i'm like the only guy that's saying that you are completely wrong... looking at **** is cheating! you're getting sexual gratification from looking at some other chick man! I doubt that she wants to be with someone that fantasizes about other girls.. It will make her feel jealous and it will make you see her differently in the long run.. you need to stop.. it'll be better for your relationship with her and it'll be better for you because you won't have to worry about keeping it a secret.. you won't have to worry about the guilt you may feel when you do it..
2006-10-18 00:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by comemychildren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with her .If you love her you will stop because your just being selfish.She is going to know your getting turned on looking at other women and that hurts.I dont think you have much of a relationship because not only do you cheat with your mind you never told her about it .Bottom line you have betrayed her.Its about respect and you obviously dont respect women or your girlfreind.
2006-10-18 00:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy!!!. Man a difficult thing on earth is to explain to a woman something she does not want to accept. You could just apologize and make sure that you do not keep a **** pic on your computer going forward. However I agree that watching **** is not cheating on your partner except when you created that damn ****.
2006-10-18 00:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's no different than buying a Playboy magazine or buying a **** video. It's not cheating, but if you have a hot gf/fiancee then you would not need to look at ****, I would suggest having pics of your girls in sexy poses/lingerie or in the buff to **** off to.
2006-10-18 00:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋