2006-10-18 00:25:07 · 26 answers · asked by xxhurting_insidexx 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
self harming isnt going to make you feel better you may think it does but then you have the guilt feeling of what you have done you are a special person and you are worth so much more i wish i could tell you and let you know that you are loved and needed and start to share your worrys with your family because when you self harm they hurt too, i will pray about you and i hope you find the peace and strength to overcome this time in your life and soon very soon you will stop and be able to give others hope
2006-10-21 19:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by shechinah2@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have our own perspectives on this but I do not agree with flicking a rubber band on your skin. This is self defeating because you are still harming yourself in a different way.
You will need to change the way you think. If you have a thought or feeling and then the urge to hurt yourself remind yourself that you are a good person and your special. Also you can get a little sqeeze ball to give your hand something to do. When those thoughts and feelings come across sqeeze the ball instead.
When you get up in the morning look in the mirrior and smile. While you smile tell yourself positive things. I know it sounds silly but it can work if you let it. It will help you retrain your brain into positive thinking.
You may want to consider going to a psychologist they can help you with your thought process. They can't fix it over night, but in time you will see a different person, if you let it.
Remember shoot for the moon and if you miss you will land somewhere in the stars. Meaning we don't need to be perfect we just need to give it a shot and never give up.
Nobody in the world is perfect. We all have some kind of problem in our life. The most important thing is how we deal with it.
Don't be afraid to reach out to family and friends for suport. Having a suportive social network can be helpful if we allow it.
Good luck to you
2006-10-18 00:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all thank you for asking this question! You are making the right steps already! I am glad you see it as a problem and have only being doing it recently because this means you have a better chance of recovery :) It is always hard getting enough confidence to tell someone you trust about problems you are having, if you trust your maths teacher then definitely do this in the 5 minutes you stay behind. She will help you before you hurt yourself. PLEASE don't cut again it is an addiction, the more you cut the more you feel the need to do it, talk to someone. You can do it I have been in a similar situation with bulimia it is a great feeling getting it off your chest and to have others helping you! Don't suffer in silence, tell someone, I hope I helped kxx
2016-03-28 14:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of self help books on the subject that cover the topic as suggested above. Try to sublimate your feelings into more useful behaviours like sport or exercise. Try to work out where your thoughts are coming from when you start thinking about self harm then change that first thought. Amplify the positive thoughts and ignore and rubbish the bad ones because they usually are rubbish. Focus on what you want from life and how you are going to get it and take things one thing at a time. It will get better.
2006-10-18 00:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counselling may be an answer, my friend used to self harm too when things went wrong. However, the first step would be to admit to people what's happening & trying to understand why it happens. Admitting it over the 'net is nothing compared to admitting it to somebody in person. Friends, family & people in general will react in a far more understanding & supportive way than you may think. However, if it's an attention thing then you need to be told and to get through it, and the counselling will help that. Stick in there kid.
2006-10-18 00:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by theredalbino 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to statistics, most self abusers are teens. However, it is not limited to a certain age. I know. I did it when I was a kid and I've done it recently after experiencing severe emotional stress. What I can not stress enough, is you need to learn why you hurt yourself and figure out a way to stop it. Many sites list ways of trying, and you can try them all if one or more does not succeed in preventing yourself from self harm. Myself? I like the idea of snapping myself with a rubber band when I feel like self abusing. It is an emotional release and allows one to feel when one cannot in normal ways. Medications also help. I am well over 30 and at first thought myself to proud to ask my physician for help. I didn't want to rely on drugs to help me through the rough spots. But with proper treatment with anti-depressants and what ever else your physician prescribes, medications can help relieve the immense inner pressure that you feel.
I also got some help with Dialectical Behaviour Theraphy
The technique has been devised by Marsha Linehan at the University of Washington in Seattle.
STAGES OF THERAPY AND TREATMENT TARGETS
The PRE-TREATMENT STAGE focuses on assessment, commitment and orientation to therapy.
STAGE 1 focuses on suicidal behaviours, therapy interfering behaviours and behaviours that interfere with the quality of life, together with developing the necessary skills to resolve these problems.
STAGE 2 deals with post-traumatic stress related problems (PTSD)
STAGE 3 focuses on self-esteem and individual treatment goals.
2006-10-18 02:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by nana_viki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realise that hurting yourself isnt actually going to deal with the problem, so you need a 'Face Your Fears' (or in your case, face your problems) attitude.
Also, learn to express how youre feeling in a communicating way. So, if someones upset you say to them 'That was hurtful', if youre feeling sad, tell someone youre feeling sad.
On top of that (which all need willpower I must add!) I think you should see a councellor who may well be able to give you insight into why you choose to self harm instead of dealing with your issues head on. You can get the number of councellors from your local GP surgery.
Good luck to you, you CAN get through this. Hugs, Bxx
2006-10-18 00:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
read the book
Self-Defeating Behaviors: Free Yourself from the Habits, Compulsions, Feelings, and Attitudes That Hold You Back
it will tell you how to stop any kind of self-harming behavior
details at Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/Self-Defeating-Behaviors-Compulsions-Feelings-Attitudes/dp/0062501976/sr=8-1/qid=1161170970/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-1024031-8413762?ie=UTF8
2006-10-18 00:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by center of the universe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its so hard. i know. i used to harm constanltly. i no its easier siad than done but talk to someone. you feel ike a bit of prat but it really does help. talk to ur friends or family or even a stranger. i have not harmed now for nearly 6 months and some days its easy amnd some days it so hard not to. keep urdelf occupied, think of other things anything that will make u stop. Please talk to someone or get some help. it helped me and i know it will help you.
2006-10-18 00:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by shelly_nix_21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wear a red rubber band on your wrist and everytime you want to harm flick it on your skin.
2006-10-18 00:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋