we were arguing...actually we been arguing mostly now...and i dont like arguing i just go quite because i dont want to meet his anger...he gets so mad of it...i wanna tell him how and what i think without yelling back to him...i want it civil way...but he seems to have a great temper when he gets mad at me...i feel like if either way we would still gonna have a great arguments that will end hurting each other....now he feel that i dont really love him he said i have another man and i **** in him...and throw all my faluts in mistakes in relationship...well all i done was just to be a good gf...i been so honest and faithful to him and i have done nothing wrong against his pride...i am trying to be everything for him but he dont seems to see that...what should i do...i have seen how he can be when he gets mad...its so scary if ever we get married...i want to help him...he say his in a medication of deppression because of our situation...we live half way around the world...
2006-10-18 00:18:52 · 12 answers · asked by ToxoTes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both of you seek professional help together
2006-10-18 00:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET MARRIED??? If his temper is as you stated, you will be in a relationship and are in this relationship, which is unhealthy, he may blame you for things you have not done, if you continue the relationship and are afriad of him, what do you think is going to happen if married, nothing healthy, nothing but heartache, suffering, and abuse. Stop to think of what you wrote, what you said! Why do you think you have to do everything that will pleasehim, it will not make him any different, maybe for a short while but in the end you will have given yourself up and wonder how you could feel so hurt and lost, empty, not appreciated. You are allowing him to be abusive, the only person you can change is YOU! We can do more housework, nice meals, if only we were prettier and on and on! Do not for one minute beleive YOUcan change him, you can not! It is up to him. Getting help may allow you to see the damage you will expeience if you stay with him! You cannot bring children into a situation that willbe so unhealthy for them and devastate their lives
you need to seriously consider your future with out this man. Until you realize you have a choice to get help for you and find the reason you allow this type of man into your life, so you will not repeat this same thing with another. Nothing you do will be good enough for this guy. I wish you well !
2006-10-18 08:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are always arguing then that's not the basis for a steady and loving relationship, and if he has such a temper then one day he will go past just saying he could have hit you and actually do it, i would get out of this relationship before it completely takes away all your self esteem and you begin feeling down trodden, there are plenty of guys out there would will give you the love and respect you deserve and treat you as you should be treated, for me if i had done nothing wrong i would either suggest a break and see if he can do anything about his temper such as anger management or just completely finish before any serious damage is done.....good luck
2006-10-18 07:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by leanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a healthy relationship. You need to move on with your life and not be involved with this man or any other one like him. You deserve better.
2006-10-18 07:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if he tells you he could hit you. Then some day he is going to act upon it. If he is telling you that you are cheating on him. Its most likely he has cheated on you and taking it out you. His depression has nothing to do with it .
2006-10-18 07:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he even threatens something like that, you should be out the door.
2006-10-18 07:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a bloke you need to get away and stay away from!!!!!
He will go from verbal and emotional abuse to PHYSICAL abuse and possibly mame or kill you. GET FAR FAR AWAY AND DON"T LOOK BACK!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 08:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. end it before it gets worse!!! my god! this guy sounds like a total dick... if you don't end it he's gonna be a woman beater(a.k.a. YOU-beater).. mark my words..
2006-10-18 07:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by comemychildren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he ment it, even if he is on medication do this...RUN!! RUN !!! RUN!!!! leavehim before he DOES hit you and or you end up dead!
2006-10-18 07:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by oneadam12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a dick, get a new boyfriend.
2006-10-18 07:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋