Ok so i did some detective work and found two downloads (or so they appear) and a new famale texting him.. so after asking him if he had anything he wanted to tell me that may upset me.. he continued to say "no" but being a woman and being all paranoid from havin a smoke.. i did summit stupid i checked his phone and found yet more texts fromt his girl... after it eating away at me i asked to meet him for a *** (he works with me) and tell him whats going on and what ive seen and done!! It ends up that it is all out of inocence that he is texting this woman (apparently a good friend of his mums) now i feel like ive just lost my relatioship for asking him!!! he's gone back to his office.. im sat here fighting back the tears and thinking ive just lost the one personi truly ever loved not knowing if this relationship is over or not... We normally have lunch together at 1pm i supose that i will find out then... my question is what do i do now???? The last thing i want is to lose him...
2006-10-17 23:59:48 · 23 answers · asked by Cat ( " , ) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave the loser
2006-10-18 00:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are a bit insecure. Only you know how much of that is about you and how much is his behaviour. Trust is important so you need to figure that bit out. Maybe skip lunch together today, give you both some thinking time. Try not to get overdramatic- it will probably push him away cos most guys get uncomfortable with all that. You sound a little hormonal to me but I may be wrong so don't be offended please! Take care, whatever way things pan out.
2006-10-18 00:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calm down. When you meet him for lunch, apologise for invading his privacy, and for not trusting him. If he wants to talk about it, then tell him why you're on tenderhooks about it, that you're afraid of losing the one person you've ever really loved ... but it's my guess he'd probably rather just let it go.
Next time, don't let your imagination run riot. Much better to ask outright who this person is. Be mature about it. And above all, respect another person's privacy.
2006-10-18 01:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is if you don't trust and believe your man then why are you with him anyway. You've violated his privacy - whats a text anyway Jesus grow up! I think what you did was totally out of order and if you have lost him thorough this I wouldn't be surprised.
2006-10-18 00:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a chat...not whilst you are at work.....why did you have these suspicions, why dont you trust him....if it really is just paranoia you need to prove you can trust, and he needs to be more open with you to help you with the trust thing. I hope it all works out, irrational jealousy can be so painful for both parties, all the best, fingers crossed for you.xxxxxx
2006-10-18 00:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 late 4 that
2006-10-18 00:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Too late.
Next time, don't be so eager to pry into a guys business. Who he talks to is not your concern.
Accusing him of cheating (which is what you did) shows that you don't really respect or trust him. That hits pretty hard.
2006-10-18 00:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have trust issues. If you asked him if something was going on and he said 'no' and then you checked up on him and confronted him because you didn't believe him then I'm afraid you're going to have to do some serious grovelling.
2006-10-18 00:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tonight buy him a huge carry out of booze of his favourite tipple. i think you'll find its all forgot about. point out to him that jelousy is good, it means you care only about him and hate the thought of anyone else having him or even trying to be with him. and that you! can be trusted. but you shouldnt be snooping on his phone you have to make amends for that.
2006-10-18 00:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he has never done anything to betray your trust, dont pri... it causes big problems... if i were him, and i knew now how jealous you are id split.. post a resume on monster or something,
if i were him, i know i would need something to restore the trust i had in you be4 you did what you did, you need to show him you will always trust him, and youll never do anything remotly close to what you did...
2006-10-18 00:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by jim20032003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him a message or note telling him how you feel & why you did this. If he cares about you he should understand, and don't feel bad about what you did, it's just natural instinct to be curious about stuff like that.
2006-10-18 00:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by skymastergolfpro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋