Why is it that a guy stares at you smiles makes intense eye contact but does nothing absolutly nothing and he keeps it up for months and its so obvious why does he not make a move!!
2006-10-17 23:35:14 · 24 answers · asked by Fuck off 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I Dont know him just see him round allot and I dont know why he stares but never does anything I only recently started looking back before I thought what is he staring at but it progressed...
2006-10-17 23:58:24 · update #1
Being mysterious is a big thing these days. People put in so much effort to appear... inaccessible, indifferent, unapproachable. It's part of a new generation love-bait, I think.
If this fellow wants to play his Greta Garbo game, let him. After all, he's after you and if he wants it, he's going to have to come and get it. Those rules are pretty much intact, at least. Whether by that time you are unavailable, or uninterested remains to be seen.
In case you fancy him and don't want to play head games (totally understandable), then just go up to him and say, "Ok, I made the first move. Your turn now."
2006-10-17 23:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by freudianslipper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must understand the intense pressure and fear of rejection us guys feel. Generally we look for a sign of interest before pursuing. Assuming this is happening not because he is gay, already committed, or is just teasing you for a self esteem boost, it means that he is waiting for a sign from you.
Flirt with him, i assume you smile back, but if you don't then do it, try to run into him more often, and show clear signs that you are into him, like polite touching during conversation. and do these things often.... us guys don't always pick up on things the first time.
or another possibility is that he is the type of guy who wants a girl to be more aggressive, if so then be bold, it might surprise him in a good way.
2006-10-18 06:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self limiting behavior on his part. I mean, months? Either he already has a relationship, in which case he should drink in and admire your beauty once or twice and move on instead of being creepy, or he's interested and he's waiting for an engraved invatation from you to initiate a deeper rapport. Well, I don't have an answer for you so much as I have a question: Is a man who doesn't have the courage to come up to you and begin a deeper rapport the kind of man with any long-term potential for you? Is a man who is constantly looking for permission and invitations going to have enough initiative to make decisions you can trust?
2006-10-18 06:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by jon H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy, and I think I can guess how he feels.
There can be many reasons.
1. For some reason we don't know, the guy is just plain afraid of making a move to you (think about yourself, looking at a gorgeous stud, but afraid to talk to him because you feel inferior of yourself.)
2. There are some introvert people. They are not shy. But they are the one who likes to "respond" when the others begin talking to them.
They usually do not speak out to the public until someone introduce themselves to him first.
It is just a personality. So simply saying, he likes you and he is WAITING for you to talk to him first.
3. Maybe he thinks like this; "the beautiful girl like her, she must have a boyfriend already... I just want to give her a good impression, because I like her but I can not ask her out."
In other words, something is making him to think that it is not realistic for him to make a move. So he is just stuck in the mode, where his mind keeps saying, " I want to get to know you... but I can not... let me just stay on my fantasy."
4. This one is a funny one. The guy simply does not know what to do! Maybe he does not have much experiences with the girls.
I hope those answers can help you, and good luck with your lucky guy.
2006-10-18 06:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by davegesprek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are to shy, or they think they will get shot down and fear the rejection involved. Others like myself just like it better when a woman makes the first move. Be bold show some interest and approach him, it sounds like you dig him back so why not be the one to make the first move.
-NmD!
2006-10-18 06:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
direct eye contact is usualy not a come on. its when he will look away every so often. also look for
Thumbs in belt or hanging out of pockets
very open legs
moving of hair
touching ear lobe
just read this last night in a body language book
2006-10-18 06:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by mboylan86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD u make the second move already
he has already gave u enough signals and waiting for a reaction
so REACT!!!!
man what is wrong with u women??
2006-10-18 06:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tarek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are so pretty,that he fears rejection, maybe he is shy- go ahead and you make that move- and ease his fear, but then again, he may be not hte man you thought because he was insecure of maving the first move-- you will never know unless someone makes that move-- good luck
2006-10-18 06:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be one of these goof ball creepy freaks that just likes to stare.
2006-10-18 06:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because he is with someone and doesnt want to go the next step. there is nothing wrong in looking at someone and talking. He proberly wants to be with you, but waiting to split with his other half.
2006-10-18 06:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋