I know I have asked this before but I scared of the person I am becoming. I really need to fall out of love with my first love because she knows how I feel and is not interested and is seeing someone els. But how can I achieve this when she is on my mind all the time she is in my heart and soul. She has also said she is scared of me but is still concerned for me. How can I change and go back to just being friends with her.
2006-10-17 23:27:08 · 20 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is easy, you cant stay friends with her and she'll never be out of your head. The feelings will just become less stronger over tI'me. Its hard and im going through it right now but the fact is ex's can not stay friends. There's always the urge to touch them or kiss them and tell them you still love them. The best way is to cut all contact. If you cant handle this cut contact for a couple of months while you clear your head.
2006-10-17 23:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult when your first relationship ends, particularly if you were happy in the relationship. You have placed this girl on a pedal-stool and at the minute you do not think anyone else can live up to them. What i would suggest you do is put all your energy into your friendships with others, maybe a few nights out with the boys or perhaps a holiday. With time your feelings are sure to diminish and whilst you will always be fond of her (as most people are with their first love) someone else will take her place. In the meantime though perhaps you could explain to her that it is hard for you at the moment to be friend and you should take a break from having any contact with her. Time really does heal and eventually you will be friends, but maybe its just too soon.
2006-10-18 06:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space......do your own thing. The distance will help for you and her and it may get her thinking about you if you are not in her face any more.
You need to get your life back, get a new job, interest, make an effort with your friends or a new group of friends. By doing this this may help you get her out of your mind, soul etc
Her saying that she is scared of you is defo not a good sign....just step back and see what happens.
Not easy i know but you need to get a life (in a nice way!!!)
Pleanty more fish in the sea as they say!!!!
Take care!
2006-10-18 06:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by KLW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably be best off just not seeing her or talking to her this will be hard as your still in love with her but will be the best and quickest way to get over her. If you keep seeing her and talking to her than you might convince your self that there is still hope.
You might find it difficult to be friends with the feelings you have, just keep your distance go out enjoy yourself and meet new people then once yor over her then decide if you want to be friends.
Good Luck
2006-10-18 06:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi you must relise this is not love on your part ,if it was you would walk away even when it would hurt like hell.wat you are felling is control and wanting to possess and finding it hard to come to terms with this, you know this is not wright,so let her go finde some thing else to constrate on.If you dont this it will burnaway at your insides and could end up you doing some thing you will reget.(let go )time is a wonderful healer and you will be able to see her in a diffrent light
2006-10-18 06:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by glen p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is she scared of you?
you need to stop pining for someone who is not interested. you are not in love, you are just mourning the ways things were. you have to look forward to the future and think about how wonderful life will be when you find the person who also wants to be with you. one sided relationships never work and they just make one person very very miserable. go and do some fun things and start enjoying life.
2006-10-18 06:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oldest trick in the book, pretend to care about you because of guilt. tell her to sod off seriously! now comes the good stuff, delete her txts number emails pics rip up valentines cards and everything else that you shared that contain memories. then friday night at the discoteque doing your funky thang you'll bump into another girl, and it will be like the other girl never existed. life is swings and roundabouts. the tricky bit is knowing when to get on or off. that takes life experiences you've plenty more to discover.
2006-10-18 06:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a pet dog, make a mask using an old photo of her and get the dog to wear it, that way she'll always be happy to see you, even happier when its time for din dins and will always want to go on windy walks with you, especially if you bring a stick. sex will still be off the menu though unless you wanna risk the worst love bite you'll ever get!
2006-10-18 06:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid her as best you can..each time she says that she is concerned for you it gives you false hope, she feels sorry for you that's why she says this and genuinely doesn't like seeing you hurt...Put her out of your mind as best you can...find new and different things to do, try and meet someone else, occupy your mind.
2006-10-18 06:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything but 'move away' - whether or not that includes moving house....! But 'move away' in the emotional sense .....telling yourself that 'it's over,' that 'there is no future in there for you both as an entity.'
That she is always on your mind is 'a problem you have to deal with without her,' she is there because you put her there.
Find help if needs be, but see it for what it is, and not what you want it to be.
Good luck.
Sash.
2006-10-18 06:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋