I feel so lost in this world...?

Question

I feel so unhappy. I quit my job several weeks ago, because it was making me miserable. I also recently stopped seeing the guy that i thought would be "the one", because he just turned out to be a complete monster. I have not being feeling well at all. I don't have anyone to talk to and it sucks, i don't even have any close friends I can rely on. I feel like I am losing my mind. Nothing is going the way I wished they would. I feel so depressed.

Answer 1

dont worry be happy------------


-----------------& get over it---------------------

Answer 2

I think just as you want to goal and prioritize the things that make you happy, the same is true with what makes you unhappy. There is an old prayer about god grant me the serenity to accept the things I cant change, change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

With that logic lets start with the things you can change. The problem nowadays is a great deal of people dont know what they want. As I get older I find things do not give me happiness, they tie me down so my material needs are alot less. You talk about relationships, I have been married for over twenty years but its far less than what I expect. I put reliance in myself and look for progress in inches not miles.

Sometimes when I play chess or other games I find it useful to get up from the table, take a break and come back. New thought or some other reasoning may have escaped my previous look. When is the last time you have been on vacation or had a break.

The point is plan your life, then work the plan. FInally constant thought about anything makes the thing seem more intense. How much free time do you have and why. Are you involved in a club, interest or activity. Look at your life like a balance sheet.

Negatives can be changed but any path anywhere is started by one foot in front of another and one single step.

Oddly enough the best advice I recieved from anyone applies here and is one of the few statements made by an idiot liberal I agree with. Teddy Kennedy said at his brothers funeral....

Some people see things as they are and say why, my brother saw things as they never were and said why not? I hope this helps, good luck and god bless.

Answer 3

From what I can tell from your question it looks like you have been doing some good things to "right the ship". You made a decision to leave a "miserable" job. Don't look at it as a setback, make it an opportunity to find a job you like or a chance to start a new career. With the "monster" boyfriend, congratulations! You probably saved yourself years of heartache. Look at life's ups and downs as a learning experience. Take the time to analyze each major event, learn from it, use it to make better decisions in the future. There will be good times and bad, use them all to make yourself a better person - help others learn from your mistakes. Everyone can have "friends", truly close friends are very hard to come by, but eventually you will be able to build a close relationship. For now, talk with your mom or dad, a close relative, a teacher, a pastor... there are many people in your life, if you thought about, that truly love you and are concerned for you.

Answer 4

Let me firstly say, I am so sorry to hear this.

When we experience a loss in our life, we tend to feel
so lost in this world.
These feelings are very normal and sadly, do occur as they
are a part of life.
You have experienced two very great losses.
1) The loss of your job.
2) The loss of a relationship.

Naturally, right now you are feeling very sad and down in the dumps and this has a tendency to make you seriously think
about your part in this world. I have felt this way in my life especially when I have felt some loss.

Grief and loss can inturn, make you feel ill. You may be experiencing a little depression or anxiety. It's nothing serious and these ill feelings will eventually go away.

I am sorry that you don't have anyone to talk to. This can make you feel more isolated and alone.

I want to reassure you that you are not losing your mind.
You are just grieving.

May I encourage you to take some little steps forward as YOU WILL get better in time.

Maybe during this break (of unemployment) you could just have some time out for yourself.
Sit down and write a list of all the things you would like to do (for employment).
It might involve doing a new course or some type of work experience.

Write down a list of some goals you want to achieve(be realistic)
Don't say, "Win the lotto" as this could be a very unrealistic goal.

Keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings may help.
If you are still angry or upset with this guy, write him a letter(but don't post it) Maybe place it in your journal. Tell him how he hurt you and how you think he is a big jerk. Remind yourself that you are much more worthy of someone who is nice and kind.
Remember - don't post the letter. This is for your own records.
It is good therapy.

A typical cliche - be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with a new hair cut or colour. Get your nails done(only if you can afford it)
or start up a new hobby(try scrapbooking - loads of fun).

These feelings will eventually pass but if they don't, it's best to see your local dr. I am sure you will get over it in time.

In my own life, I have experienced everything you have gone through(many times) and I deal with it as best i can.
My relationship with Jesus Christ also helps me.

You may have your own religious beliefs and usually they can be a comfort during this time.

Take care,
Best of Luck!!!

Answer 5

You need to
1) Eat some healthy meals -including veggies and fruit!
2) Go for a walk in a park or nature
3) Get some good sleep
4) Find a hobby, draw, dance, sing, whatever
5) Make other's happy (take flowers to the old age home or do something
special for someone)
6) Get a gratitude journal and write down 5 things you are greatful for every day.
7) Smile, it will immediately make you feel better


And then "fake it till you make it". Put a little bit of joy into everything you do. Try to think of the things that makes you happy, try to think of happy memories and call them up often, tell people you are happy. Write the word happy on a piece of paper and stick it up on your wall. Be good to yourself, buy yourself flowers, find a new job...there is only one person who is responsible for your happiness and that is you, you are in your own company 24 hours a day, you have to look after yourself first at all times and see to it that you are happy. Happiness does not come from other people, it comes from within. Follow
steps 1-7 religiously for 2 weeks and I promise you'll feel a whole lot better. ; )

Answer 6

Awwwwhh I'm Soo Sorry I Know How You Feel- Trust Me
I've Been Depressed Alot- It Could Be A Chemical Imbalance In Your Brain Or Just Stress From Everyday Life.
Find Something That Makes You Happy- What Makes You Happy? WHATEVER MAKES U HAPPY GO OUT AND DO IT:):)
Have You Talked To Anyone About Your Depression???????
Your Doctor Could Prescribe Medicine For Depression.
I HOPE U FEEL BETTER SOON- HANG IN THERE:):):):):):):):)
CHEER UP:):):):):):):):):):):)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

My Yahoo Messenger Is Name- BrokenHeartedSweetie79
LEAVE ME A MESSAGE ANYTIME U WANT IF U EVER WANT TO TALK- HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU

HAVE AGREAT DAY

Answer 7

This is the time of transition. Many of us are actually going through similar situations as you are right now. It's ok to be depressed and down. You are just being disconnected to the things that doesn't serve you much anymore. It will pass. New opportunities will open up for you. New people will also be introduced to you. Meanwhile, try to stay balance by meditating. Meditation will help you deal with the feelings of loneliness and separation easier. Please help yourself and try meditation. Hope you'll feel better.

Answer 8

Try to stop focusing on what's not available and check out what is. Go with the flow instead of clinging to what's gone. If you look for good stuff, you'll find some. If you dwell on the crap, it will seem as though that's all there is. Getting out of the rut is easier than you think. Way easier.

Answer 9

It sounds like you have depression, and should see your doctor to get counselling. You must have someone to talk to?
I also suffer from depression, and yes, it sucks! But it does help to confide in someone. Or go to the gym and work out, which helps, and who knows, you could meet some really nice people and make new friends!
Hang in there!!

Answer 10

Holy Smokes you opened up a can of worms this time...lol. Looks like you do have people that you can talk to. There are a lot of good suggestions, many make sense. Hang in there, things do get better in time. Get yourself busy if you can, anything just to zone-out from your own problems. You are not alone!!

Answer 11

u are going tho what i been tho and still am in some cases.
if u need to chat hun i try help in any way.
email me at [e-mail] or if u got msn add me at [e-mail].
u dont have to i just tho talking to someone that been tho the worst could help u ok

i will get back to u soon as i can.

xxxx