well im 15 years old and i really like this 19 year old guy, which ive been mates with, for about 4 months and we get along really well, i know he likes me, but im not sure if my parents would think its a good idea!!! so do you think it would be a good idea to go out with him and why?
2006-10-17 22:48:57 · 48 answers · asked by Sxc_bubbles15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No i don't think its a good idea because your 15 and you still a teenager and he is a adult, and you both want different things in life and also he might want things that you might not want and also its also illegal for you to have sex with him anyway. but i think its best you talk to your parents and see what they think is best!!! and anyway if you do go out with him later in life you might regret it and also as you're so young you dont really want to wast your life, you should be having fun with all your mates and you should really find boys your own age to go out with!!!
my sister is 15 and shes going out with a 19yr old, and she was secretly seeing him for about a month, until our parents found out, they were angry at first but now they are ok with it and if they still want to go out with each other they have to follow by my mum and dad rules until shes 16 then she can do what she wants!!!
but good luck, and i hope you make the right decision!!!
2006-10-18 00:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by !x! Sxc Lil.C !x! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you live. If you live in the US, chances are that it is illegal for a 19 year old to get with a 15 year old. There are good reasons why this is. The 19 year old is an adult. He or she should be in college preparing for a career in adult life. A 15 year old is still a child in high school. If one is 25 and the other is 21 years old, then there is not much of a difference on a maturity level, but the difference between 19 and 15 is immense.
Find someone your age.
2006-10-17 22:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21. I met my partner when I was 15 and he was 24. We didn't become intimate for a while but we just enjoyed each others company. I knew straight away that we were sole mates even then. I was a rebelious teen and grew up too fast. He had 3 children with a previous partner. When I left school I moved in with him and took on the resposibility of his kids. We are still together now and we have 2 children together.
Although there are no flaws in our relationship and I wouldn't change him for the world, If I could do it again or give advise to anyone it would be to stick to boys your own age. I look back now and realise that i missed out on all of my teen years and I do regret it. Knowing what I know now, I wouldn't even look twice.
You are gunna do what you want whatever anyone else says but at least keep him casual and don't get too attached. I could also do what everyone else on here has done and shout, rape and underage sex but realistically that is a load of bull. Most of them will have lost their virginity at or before 15 anyway.
Good luck with whatever you decide and stay safe. x
2006-10-17 23:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three reasons why I dont think it is a good idea:
1. It's statutory rape if you have sex. No 19 year old has the ability to wait.
2. His friends will rip the piss out of him horrendously and people will think its odd when they see you together. It inevitably will make him ashamed of you. Nobody deserves that.
3. You are at very different times in your life, and will no doubt want different things from a relationship.
2006-10-17 23:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite an age difference when you're both young - sorry that sounds patronising but you know what I mean. As long as you are both sensible and you don't feel pressured into doing anything you want to do, then why not. Of course your parents may not feel the same way as they are trying to protect you. There is of course the issue of under age sex and the guy being able to get arrested. Good luck and watch out for friends who may give you stick about the age difference as well - especially his friends who may see you as a little girl.
2006-10-17 22:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a good idea.
Believe me.....in 4 years time you will look back and see yourself completely differently. You are still finding out who you are and what you like.
You probably fidn the attention from someone slightly older very flattering and comforting. But you should stick to dating guys closer to your own age and he should stick to girls closer to his age.
At the end of the day.....4 months isn't a long time. I still find new things out about my friends of 15 years. If you really are good mates then it can wait....maybe once your friendship has really matured you can see where things go !
2006-10-18 01:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Edward R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because if your parents really didnt like and if you 2 get carried away with the moment your parents could have him done for it whether or not if you consented but after you turn 16 there is nothing your parents can do about it legally it is something you have to think about very carefully about before you decide what you are going to do.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2006-10-17 22:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Angie Cooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is a good idea. For one, there is going to be things that he is going want to do that you can't do with him. He is really out in the real world, it is a good way to get hurt. I am not just talking about the physical but mental and emotional side too. On top of which, I think you through your parents thoughts in for a reason. I think you know what they would think and this will bother you. I think that you really need to talk them about this. As scarey as it is to do so, remember that parents raid on parades for a reason, Love.
2006-10-17 22:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by salinas_trt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not ideal. A 19 year old boy may expect quite a lot from you that you may not be ready for, either legally or emotionally. If you feel your parents may be unhappy, there's probably a good reason why! If you're such good friends with this guy, and he's a nice lad, he won't mind waiting until you're a bit older.
2006-10-17 22:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Artichoke 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hey, if u want to then its ultimately ur decision, but beware the reputation men have, u r only young which u will keep hearing! but its true, u dont need a bf yet have fun and enjoy a carefree life, men stress u out at times and u dnt want to have to deal with it. Talk to ur mum see how she feels, but i guess u have got exams to think about too, so be very careful and make sure everything is legal for ur own sake as well as his, the law is there to protect u!
take care
2006-10-17 23:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by sexy pussycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋