My 8 year old son makes a big scene when i tell him to do homework. Should i use bribery?
2006-10-17 22:32:53 · 18 answers · asked by margaret 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
No, don't bribe. He's going to turn around and try to bribe people to do his bidding, too.
You have to be willing to put your foot down and say, "You know what? I care about how you do in school and it's important that you do your homework each day. What sounds like a reasonable plan to you?" Also encourage any discussion about his homework itself--a lot of kids fuss at homework because it's too hard. You'll need to let him know that you're there to help him if he needs it.
If he's unwilling to make schedule suggestions, then you simply tell him that from ?:?? to ?:?? (you pick the times) is homework time, and make sure it's in an area where you see him, like at the kitchen table. Tell him that work has to come before play. All fun stuff--tv, video games, etc.--will have to wait until after the work is done.
DON'T get caught up in any arguing he may want to do. Be a broken record and say that work comes before play and that you'll help him if he needs it, every time he complains. Depending on his attitude, he may take it immediately or it may take several days.
2006-10-18 01:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by glurpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person that said that bribery teaches a child how to manipulate thier parents. (If I throw a big enough tantrum for long enough I'll eventually get what I want) You just have to set out a schedule and make him stick to it. If he doesn't do his homework and makes a big scene then let him know that is not tolerated on any level. Take away his favorite video game or ground him from his favorite activity. And explain to him that we all must do things that we don't like but we do them because we have to. Also talk to him and find out why he doesn't like to do his homework..is it him just being lazy or is he having a difficult time with a particular subject. Remember this if you don't like a school subject 9 times out of 10 its because its probably difficult to do. No one likes doing something that is hard for them they would rather walk away and forget about it.
2006-10-18 03:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never use bribery at such a young age...this will only leave them a message that if they can receive briberies for what they do and worsen the situation. You should take a close look at why he doesn't do his homework and isolate what distracts him from his homework such as his computer, game console, tv hours etc. (like grounding) so that he learns that if he does homework, he will have the 'privilage' of doing other things which are also fun.
keep in mind that he doesn't want to do homework because he doesn't understand what he is being taught at school and you should run it through with him in order to help him and encourage him to ask when he doesn't understand.
2006-10-17 22:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by ChristopheraX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not EVER use bribery! He will expect a 'gift' or something everytime that he is asked to do something around the house.
Tell him he has to his homework, period!
No homework, no computer or television.
If he is struggling with it, which is more likely the reason he doesn't want to do it, then sit down and help him with it.
He will gain more from the experience and i'm sure you will too, having extra time with your son.
Good luck!
2006-10-17 22:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not use bribery! But consider changing the Home School schedule to finish the work of each subject before moving on to the next subject. Then he won't have to re-learn his lessons. This will lengthen your day at first, but he will learn better most likely. I found this is one of the benefits to Home Schooling. You do not have to have homework.
2006-10-18 02:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by MomOfThree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribery works well in my eyes, tell him he either does it, and does it properly, or he goes to his room , with no toys, with no going out playing with his mates, no TV, no computer, No game boy, no treats.
I'm sure he'll get the idea pretty quick, kids at that age do.
But at the same time you have to be prepared to help him do it
2006-10-18 02:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Martin14th 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh no - bribery is a bad idea. You are the mother just make him do it. Sheesh people don't know how to be parents these days!!
2006-10-18 01:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by BeC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not us bribary but you should try and give rewards to him if he does it, eg. take him out at the end of the week and praising him when he does it. explain to him why he has to do it in a nice way and encourage him to sugest how he thinks is the best way for him to do his home work. Work together with him and have a time for the homework. Do not imporse it for him ask him the time he wants to do it and agree and see how it goes on
2006-10-17 22:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by dzidzai m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has to stay in his room for one hour or untill his homework is done. If it's not done in one hour, then he has to stay in his room for another hour. eventually he will figure out that he's gonna be there anyway so he may as well do his homework.
Then if he completes it give him a small reward. Don't promise it to him before hand. He will eventually do his homework on his own
2006-10-17 22:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting down and doing it with him. No kid likes doing homework after a day at school (did you?)
With maths homework use his stuff for counting etc, make it fun, and praise him when he gets it right!
2006-10-17 22:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by tattooedgray 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋