my daughter is 6 she had her tonsils out recently and her dad promised to be there, he turned up 5 hours after her operation. he says he will phone her and then doesnt even after me reminding him by text. she asked me why daddy always lets her down, i don't know what to tell her.
2006-10-17 22:19:37 · 15 answers · asked by noangel3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That sounds awful, u must find that very difficult, I bet u wanna be honest with ur daughter sometimes and say daddy is an a*** hole but u have to be the one who keeps her dream of a havin a nice daddy alive, it sounds as tho he's a constant let down i guess all u can do is tell ur ex and ask him wot are u supposed to say have a go at him and probe him and say wot kinda man/father are u, ur daughter loves u and u constantly let her down u waster!... if things dont change ur daughter will eventually figure for herself wot an ar@e her dad is. i've not had kids cos i aint met anyone to have them with yet but when i do i'll always but my kids 1st, I hope u work something out for ur little girls sake.
2006-10-17 22:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by KIPPAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-20 08:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by prescott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that daddy is a very busy man and sometimes he is too busy to phone but that he really, really loves her and always will.
You tell her how proud you are of her and how brave she has been and that she will never be alone even if daddy is too busy one day because you will always be there for her.
Don't bad mouth her dad, no matter how good or bad he is he is still her dad. By taking the moral high ground she will in time understand and love and respect you all the more for it
2006-10-17 22:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a matter of priorities. It would be best if you didn't make any comment to your daughter about what he does or doesn't do. Make sure that you tell her that her father does love her.
Ex-husbands/boyfriends don't see alot of the hurt that this type of behavior causes our children. Your job as a good mother is to point out to her that she is worthy of love and he does love her but he get sidetracked alot of times. Its good to make analogies that children understand..... Like comparing life to a child's game with his/her favorite toys. He can't play with all the toys at once so sometimes some toys get more attention than others. It doesn't mean that he doesn't like the toys anymore. He is just merely distracted.
It will help her tremendously if you don't get involved in bashing him. Just remind him to call and she will see that either she can count on him or she can't.
2006-10-18 07:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion would be to have your house phone number changed to an unlisted number. If he wishes to contact his daughter he should do so by e-mail or by her cell phone, but give designated times/days that he may call her so he doesn't interrupt her daily life (school, etc.). It is almost like he is stalking the two of you and he has given up the right to be this connected when the two of you separated. He needs to accept that there are boundaries, and as she gets older the boundaries will be more defined and most likely larger than they are while she is in your home. You may wish to speak with a therapist or counselor on suggestions of how to deal with him and how to handle all the negativity, which surely impacts your daughter's self-esteem and self-confidence. We all need to accept our children as they are, along with providing the best guidance and support that we can. Each year of their lives they learn to be more independent and a little more distant with us and are supposed to be this way. At 17 she is less likely to listen to suggestions from her father when he is negative or demanding than if the suggestions came purely from love and concern. Good luck to the two of you and God Bless.
2016-05-21 22:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her ask him! It will be different when he sees the expression on her face and hears the pain in her voice.
He needs to realize that HE is the most important male figure in her life right now. The way he acts (broken promises) will only cause her marital problems down the road. She will most likely run off with the first guy who says "I love you" and neither you nor he will be able to stop her whether you want to or not.
2006-10-17 23:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe tell her daddy works hard but he loves her very much , to be honest he seems like a real jerk if he cant be bothered, then to just stay out of her life instead of hurting her all the time
2006-10-17 22:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but sometimes men are just lousy fathers and the kids are the ones that suffer. I do not know why fathers do this but kids suffer all the time from it
2006-10-17 22:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by melthule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that daddys busy, he loves her but is busy with work, when she grows up without him than explain to her your efforts to get him involved, you cant make him... such a shame
2006-10-17 22:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just speak to her and let her know that, that who he is and not to relay on him next time at all.
infact you should both move on and ignore him, act as if he never exists if he finds it necessary......... he find he's way out.
i can imagin how it feels like especially if he's the biological parent.
Explain to her, its hard to take it but its better not to stick on him
Good luck.
2006-10-17 22:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋