I been with the guy for 3 years, but now that iam serious. I relieze he really has no income.. Iam being selfish or does money not matter ?
2006-10-17 21:26:10 · 20 answers · asked by FairyTale94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
money really matters
2006-10-17 21:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was hoping someone would have had some answers here. I am dating a girl who does not make enough money to pay for her cost of living, she has a lot of debt and no savings or investments. She also has no long term plan other than marrying a guy with money (I think this is where I come in).
I have saved up a good portion of my income for the last few years and I have a plan to retire fairly wealthy because I kept my cost of living low.
I will need to check back to see what everyone else says but I don't see us going anywhere because of her inability to live on a budget.
2006-10-18 04:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by MP US Army 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is good, it gives you power to do a lot of things and accomplished so many imposible acts but at the same time it also make you do stupid things but reality also say that love cannot fill you stomach and when time comes that you are hungry you will forget about what in your heart, you just want to fill your stomach. no, you are not being selfish...YOU ARE BEING SMART! MONEY MATTERS A LOT A DON'T LET DREAMERS OR ROMANTIC PEOPLE TELL YOU OTHERWISE!
2006-10-18 04:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ure not selfish. money matters, well, at least depends on where u live. u definitely need cash if u live in some city. i say, let him find a job before u take the rltnshp to the next level, even better, tell him to get a career. be strict, but never leave him. just never think money doesn't matter. it does.
2006-10-18 04:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by rdpatal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't selfish, it's important to consider what to do with each other if you plan on being together in that situation. I'm just sorry it took 3 years for you to realize.
2006-10-18 04:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are selfish, just looking out for your future. Money isnt important but if you work together you can make things work HOWEVER if he is mooching off you and being a bum, then it does matter.
2006-10-18 04:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money, has nothing to do with love... BUT...if you want to have a future with this person ,its nice to know than you can rely on help to make things work out for the both of you
2006-10-18 04:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih nope you're not being selfish..your are just thinking about your future with him..if he's not financially stable how will he provide for you..i think yes for a serious relationship especially marriage money really matters because you can't live without food on your table...
2006-10-18 04:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money matters ,in as much as people say it doesn't,will you eat love,for breakfast, lunch and supper.are you ready to be the one who always provides EVERYTHING,from food to clothing to rent to everything,you might be thinking that everything is going fine,but then i tell you ,you will be very devastate, first tell him you are serious about him ,then tell him that he has to get a job and earn an income, in a case where your spouse has lost a job is a bit different coz you know he will get another one,but in your case tell him to get a job.
2006-10-18 04:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by seyhay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money does matter but since ur love for him is strong enough, u could help him with his financial status. Help him in whatever way u can do.
2006-10-18 04:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is only as useful as the good it can do. No money no love
2006-10-18 04:32:27 · answer #11 · answered by jackie k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋